Episode 77: 5 Things I Wish I Knew Before Leaving Corporate and Launching My Business

“I know it’s scary to make the move from corporate life into your own business and you feel like you don’t know enough, but I’m going to ask you to really listen to yourself. You know a heck of a lot more than you think you do.” – Kathy Caprino 

Are you ready to finally leave your corporate career and start your own venture? Or perhaps you have launched your business already and are facing important new challenges that you wonder if you’re adequately prepared for.

In this episode, I discuss why so many small businesses fail and share my raw, real-life experiences around what I learned in transitioning from my 18-year corporate career to running my own coaching and consulting business, Ellia Communications. You’ll hear about the biggest gaps in knowledge and experience that kept me from having a smoother transition, and I offer some essential information that I wish I had understood before making the leap. 

The biggest surprise for me in running a business was that even though I had been in marketing for years and had risen to the level of Vice President overseeing numerous large-scale programs, initiatives and staff in my corporate life, I still was very far away from being fully prepared for entrepreneurial life, and for serving as a true leader in my own venture.

The key knowledge gaps I explore here include: 1) Unconscious tendencies and blocks around successfully managing and relating to money, 2) Not selecting the best partners and why we often continually fail at it, 3) Why we need to step up to being a true leader and making critical decisions rather than staying stuck as the “doer” or “manager,” 4) Why pivoting more quickly and flexibly is essential, and 5) Listening to your own instincts and intuition and making moves that align with your truest core values and visions rather than deferring to “gurus” who don’t necessarily know their stuff or have your best interests at heart. 

Highlights from this Episode:

  • Why having a clear understanding of your finances is critical for entrepreneurs, and the tools that helped me understand my own relationship with money [8:48]
  • The role that your personal and professional partners will play and what you can do to stop attracting the wrong people to you [14:16]
  • How being a true leader differs from being a manager or a “doer” [18:46]
  • The reasons I wish I changed and pivoted more quickly in the past [22:23]
  • Specific questions to ask yourself that will help you figure out if it’s time to make transitions in your own life [24:40]
  • What has happened when I haven’t listened to myself and why the “gurus” won’t have all the answers for you [30:18]
  • The voices outside of yourself that you’ll want to listen to for advice [30:48]
  • Who should be leaving the corporate world and how to tell when you’re ready to start your own business [33:48]

For More Information:

https://kathycaprino.com/ 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathycaprino 

https://www.facebook.com/ElliaCommunications 

https://twitter.com/kathycaprino 

https://www.instagram.com/kathycaprino/ 

Resources Mentioned:

Amazing Career Coach Certification Training

Amazing Career Project Course and video training

Power Gaps Survey

Dominant Action Style Quiz

The Top 5 Things I Wish I Knew Before Leaving Corporate Life and Starting My Own Business

The Top 5 Reasons Your Decisions Fail You

How Different Are Male and Female Entrepreneurs: Susan Sobbott of AMEX Open Weighs In

Kathy’s Book, Breakdown, Breakthrough

Dealing with Narcissism 6-part Webinar Training, co-hosted by Kathy Caprino 

and Janneta Bohlander

Tapping Into Wealth by Margaret Lynch

The Energy of Money by Maria Nemeth

The E-Myth Revisited by Michael Gerber

Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill

76: Narcissistic Leaders and the Damaging Lies They Tell, with Dov Baron

QUOTES: 

“If you don’t really understand these things before you launch your business, you’re going to have a really hard, bumpy road.” [8:39]

“I don’t care if you’re a spender, saver, or anywhere in between, you have to be intimately familiar with your numbers. You have got to know the financials of your business.” [10:27]

“When you value mastery, or when you value honesty, strength, or compassion, you’re going to want to see that in your partners.” [17:36]

“You really have to understand why you’re launching your business, why you’re running it, and what are the pivotal decisions. Are you running it as if it’s your lifeblood, because that’s what has to happen.” [22:05]

“I feel that so many people wait for the breakdown before the breakthrough. Don’t wait for the breakdown, and instead learn to change and pivot.” [23:41]

“Ask yourself all of the questions and be brave enough to make the changes you need to make, and don’t stay in denial.” [28:13]

“If you make your decisions from a place of fear, they’re almost never going to get you to the outcome that you dream of.” [31:23]

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The Top 5 Regrets of Midlife Professionals

Part of Kathy Caprino’s series “Finding Brave To Build Your Best Life and Career”  

In the 14 years I’ve spent focused on career coaching, teaching and leadership development, helping mid-career women “dig deep, discover their right work, and illuminate the world with it,” I’ve observed several core themes emerge around what makes mid-career professionals (and middle-aged people in general) feel the deepest regret. I’ve had these regrets myself, and can say without reservation that these regrets leave scars that stay with us for a long time (if not forever).

Below are the top five regrets I’ve heard from mid-career professionals around the world:

1. I wish I hadn’t listened to other people about what I should study and pursue.

Many people believe that when you reach 40, you’ll certainly be living your own life, and making your own authentic choices.  Sadly, I’ve found that it isn’t necessarily true. So many thousands of people around the world feel deep regret and pain because they’re actually living someone else’s life – not their own. Most typically, they’re living a life their parents told them to live, and engaging in careers their authority figures demanded or strongly encouraged they pursue.

I’ve heard from so many people aged 40-55 who now realize they’re in the completely wrong career, pursuing the wrong goals, because they studied in college what their parents and authority figures told them was the right thing, for security, stability and status.  They also admit that there was a some unconscious or “hidden” cultural mandate they somehow felt, to become a doctor, lawyer, engineer, architect, etc., for the recognition and status that their parents thought would be achieved in these fields.  The reality is that these professionals didn’t muster the courage to change directions, or say “No, I don’t want this!”  And now many years have passed and they’re still not living life as they want to.

To live a happy, rewarding life on your own terms, it’s critical to starting saying “yes” to your authentic beliefs and values, and stop living someone else’s life that feels so wrong, even if it’s the one your beloved parents wanted for you.

2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard and missed out on so much.

So many men and women in middle age share that they regret what they’ve missed out on in life, by working so hard. They missed being in the fabric of their children’s lives. Or they missed the chance to have children. They missed the opportunity to build true intimacy and closeness with their spouses, family and friends. They missed experiencing adventure, travel, enjoyment, vitality, learning, spiritual growth – not having the chance to stop and relish life, nature, good health, peace, or relaxation. They missed so much and sacrificed so much to pursue work goals that now feel meaningless and empty.

I’ve seen that too that when people get to the end of their lives – in their 80s and 90s — they’re not thinking at all about the work goals they strived so hard to achieve. They’re thinking about love and family, about the people that matter deeply to them, and how they made a difference to these people. And they deeply regret what they didn’t do with and for these loved ones.

3. I wish I hadn’t let my fears stop me from making change.

We have many different fears that stop us from taking action, but the biggest fears are around failure, loss, and pain.  Mid-career professionals share with me that they have so much fear and resistance around making change, particularly if it means they have to stretch out of their comfort zone, speak up and stand up for themselves. They fear failing, going broke, not being able to care for their families financially. They fear leaving their “comfort zone” yet they see that perpetuating the status quo is excruciating and damaging (not comfortable at all).

The fears of mid-career professionals often emerge from a lack of healthy boundaries, from intense people-pleasing behavior and a drive toward “perfectionistic overfunctioning” – doing more than is necessary, healthy or appropriate. Until we can get in the cage with our fears and address them head on, fear will keep us stuck in quiet desperation. (Click here to learn how to recognize the 7 signs of perfectionistic overfunctioning.)

4. I wish I had learned how to address toxic situations and people.

When I wrote the post 6 Toxic Behaviors That Push People Away, I heard from thousands of people (and still do) who shared how toxic their lives and relationships have become. And they shared that they have no idea what to do about it. Toxicity is rampant today, and so much of it comes from stress and from negative, damaging ways we were raised and parented, and what we were taught (or not taught) about acceptable and unacceptable behavior. It also emerges from people whose self-esteem has been severely hurt– through childhood pain, trauma in later life, and crushing experiences at work that shatter them.

Toxicity – at work, in relationships, and in our own thoughts — hurts us terribly, but often we don’t see it clearly enough until our bodies break down, or other crises hit that focus us to take brave new action to learn to love, protect, and heal ourselves.

5. I wish I hadn’t let myself become so trapped around money.

Finally, the money issue – this comes up in almost every conversation I have with mid-career professionals. Their fears around money, or their slavery to it, generate deep regret. People share that they know they’re not living the life they long to, and they’re sick and depressed about it, but they simply can’t see a way out because they’re trapped about money.

Either they feel they need to keep making exactly the same amount as they are today, so they won’t change directions or leave their toxic jobs or careers, or they’re desperate because they’re not making enough, so they want to pursue something “safe” that they know will make them miserable in the end.

I’ve learned that our relationship with money goes very deep, and stems directly from our wealth “programming: and what we learned from childhood about it.  The negative, fear-based stories we tell ourselves about money keep playing out in our lives, despite all our best efforts. If we don’t get to the bottom of our own money story, and heal it, we remain trapped in unhappy, desperate situations for the entirety of our lives.

If you’re like me, when you hit 50, it was a huge awakening. I felt as if I were suddenly in a new “club” and that club allowed me to be stronger, braver, and bolder, and stop wasting one more second of precious time. Suddenly, seeing that the number of years you have ahead of you in life is very likely smaller than what’s behind you, is a very motivating experience. For many, it elicits an urgency to address what’s wrong in our lives – what makes us sick, sad and angry.

And it catalyzes us to muster the courage and commitment to finally do what’s required to start living the lives we long to, on our terms. And for that, we need to find brave.

To learn if you are experiencing one or more of the 7 damaging power gaps that keep professionals stuck in regret and helplessness (98% of professionals surveyed are!), take my new Power Gaps Survey, and join me in a Career Breakthrough Coaching program that will help you transform your career. CLICK HERE to learn more about working together and complete the application. And don’t miss a single episode of my weekly Finding Brave.


Episode 76: Narcissistic Leaders and the Damaging Lies They Tell, with Dov Baron

“What we’re calling narcissistic behavior is actually the behavior that comes out of massive insecurity, and guess what? If you have skin and you’re a human, you have felt insecure at some point in time and then you’ve probably behaved in a way that was narcissistic, as a result of that insecurity.” – Dov Baron

Narcissism is damaging, and a topic that I talk and teach about often, but what exactly is it and how can we recognize its traits in ourselves, and in others? Today’s Finding Brave guest gives his take on these questions and also shares his deep expertise and insightful strategies aimed at helping each of us develop our own authentic, empowered leadership.

Twice cited as one of Inc. Magazine’s Top 100 Leadership Speakers to hire, Dov Baron was also cited in the Meeting and Event Professionals Guide to The Top 100 Motivational Speakers and Named as one of the Top 30 Global Leadership Guru’s.

A bestselling author of several books, including his latest — Fiercely Loyal; How High Performing Companies Develop and Retain Top Talent — Dov has his finger on the pulse of the evolving world of NextGen leadership. He is the host of the national (US) TV show Pursuing Deep Greatness with Dov Baron on ROKU TV, and the host of the Number One Podcast for Fortune 500 Listeners (globally) Dov Baron’s Leadership and Loyalty Show on iTunes and FM & AM Radio Stations across the US.

Today’s conversation is an eye-opener, exposing negative behaviors in ourselves and others, but it isn’t about blaming or attacking. It’s focused on looking as compassionately as possible at what we’re all experiencing as individuals, and then using effective strategies to become better versions of ourselves.

Highlights from this Episode:

  • What we need to know about narcissistic behaviors and how they differ from narcissistic personality disorder [4:05]
  • The hallmark traits of narcissistic personality disorder [5:58]
  • Why it isn’t your job to fix or tolerate someone displaying these traits [9:41]
  • What Dov says his job is, who he works with and how he helps them [12:05]
  • The importance of setting boundaries, even with your closest of family members [12:56]
  • The role that gender plays in identifying these behaviors, and what to consider in the #MeToo era [15:56]
  • How the audiences Dov speaks too usually receive his message [19:51]
  • An exercise that will move you forward with just a few questions [25:25]
  • The ways you can recognize what has to be healed in yourself [35:44]
  • A powerful request that Dov has for you which requires action today [47:14]

For More Information:

http://fullmontyleadership.com/

Dov@DovBaron.com

https://twitter.com/TheDovBaron

https://www.linkedin.com/in/dovbaron/

https://www.instagram.com/dovbaronleadership/

https://www.facebook.com/DovBaronLeadership/

Resources Mentioned:

Dov’s Podcast & YouTube Channel

His Latest Book, Fiercely Loyal; How High Performing Companies Develop and Retain Top Talent &  Other Works

Dov’s Authentic Leadership Matrix

His Video, The cost of trying to be “Normal”

Kathy’s Forbes Blog with Dov, Narcissistic Leaders—The Destructive Lies They Tell Themselves And Others

Kathy’s Post, 6 Toxic Behaviors That Push People Away: How To Recognize Them In Yourself and Change Them

4: Gender, Power and Relationships: The Crushing Effects of Patriarchy, with Terry Real

37: What Is Heaven On Earth To You and Can You Have It?, with Martin Rutte

74: Lean Out: The Real Truth About Women, Power and the Workplace, with Marissa Orr

QUOTES:

“I’m always nervous about labelling somebody as a narcissist. I’d much rather say these are narcissistic behaviors on the spectrum.” [8:57]

“What I do in my private work is I’m looking to bring home the disenfranchised parts of your soul.” [12:05]

“Rules are the black holes of joy, and boundaries manifest joy.” [13:22]

“My job is this. It’s either to wake you up, or to plant a seed.” [23:10]

“That purpose has never gone away. My purpose was there right at the beginning, but it’s evolved and it’s deepened.” [29:33]

“Action is the currency of the brave.” [46:43]

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Episode 75: How To Become a Millionaire Through Your Business - Essential Growth Steps, with Jaime Masters

“What you’re trying to do is find the gaps in your team, so that you can have somebody that complements you, because if you don’t have that you’re literally just going to be gritting your teeth trying to do stuff that you don’t like to do anyway. Scaling is very difficult when you hate half of the time that you’re working.” – Jaime Masters

Would you like to know how to make a million dollars doing the heartfelt work that you love? Today’s Finding Brave guest helps entrepreneurs scale from 6- to 7-figures and higher, and she’s here to share the biggest differentiator between business owners who struggle to scale and never get there, from those who achieve net worth millionaire status and love their work.

Jaime Masters has been featured on Yahoo’s homepage 6 times, and in Inc, Entrepreneur and Business Insider. She’s been a top business coach for over 10 years and has helped hundreds of 6- & 7-figure entrepreneurs and business owners optimize every area of their business.

She’s also the host of the online show Eventual Millionaire where she’s interviewed over 400 self-made millionaires.

She’s a tech geek, has two children (and even has a sword wall in her house!) plus she loves creating automated systems and talking business growth.

Jaime tells the truth in a way that makes people excited to be and do more, and the big message she shares is to love yourself on your entrepreneurial journey. Everyone, including millionaires, are going through some sort of trauma or challenge in their lives, and the key is to get into the arena, and just know that by being there, you are enough.

Highlights from this Episode:

  • Why there’s so much terrible advice from online “gurus” available today, and the truths that Jaime has learned from interviewing so many self-made millionaires [3:24]
  • Why you’ll want to keep doing the tasks in your business that you love, and outsource the rest to the people you trust [9:46]
  • What really separates eventual millionaires from those who won’t reach that level [13:17]
  • What 100% commitment really is – and isn’t [15:52]
  • A “Board of Mentors” and other strategies to protect and guide you on your journey [20:09]
  • What can get in the way in having a healthy relationship with money [21:56]
  • Things to watch for when scaling from 6- to 7-figures of revenue [24:31]
  • The ways that Jaime and her team work with clients to help scale their businesses [30:36]
  • What’s really going on in business that entrepreneurs don’t want to tell you about [35:14]

For More Information:

http://eventualmillionaire.com/

https://www.instagram.com/eventualmillion/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaimekmasters/

https://www.facebook.com/eventualmillionaire/

https://twitter.com/eventualmillion

Resources Mentioned:

Jaime’s Time Audit, Book and Other Resources

Her Podcast

Kathy’s Forbes Blog with Jaime, How To Become A Millionaire Through Your Business – Essential Growth Steps To Take

Kathy’s Forbes Blog, The 5 Biggest Mistakes Career Changers Make

Kathy’s The Amazing Career Project Course

The Millionaire Master Plan: Your Personalized Path to Financial Success (with Assessment) by Robert James Hamilton

Money, A Love Story: Untangling Your Finances, Creating the Life You Really Want, and Living Your Purpose by Kate Northrup

Leverage

Loom

QUOTES:

“One of the reasons why I started interviewing millionaires is because I wanted to get the information from people that were actually in the business, and not just the people writing the books about the business.” [3:32]

“I didn’t really understand what I was best at until I actually got into my own business, which is sad. I wish we were taught this stuff in schools.” [12:35]

“It’s about the commitment to that path (to be a millionaire), and it’s going to be hard. It’s not necessarily going to be the easiest thing in your life, but anything that’s really worthwhile has challenges, no matter what it is. Millionaires have challenges. We are humans, and humans have challenges.” [17:52]

“Not being motivated and not being inspired sucks, but it can be hard and we can still be inspired.” [18:31]

“You don’t want to be taking advice from anybody that doesn’t have your best interest at heart.” [20:13]

“Don’t let your money control you. You have to control your money.” [23:41]

“Getting outside of your comfort zone over and over and over again, I know it sounds cliché, but that’s what millionaires do.” [27:29]

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Episode 74: Lean Out: The Real Truth About Women, Power, and the Workplace, with Marissa Orr

Instead of dismissing women’s unique needs and wants as a product of cultural oppression, I really think we need to adjust the corporate structure to better meet the needs of women.” – Marissa Orr

With female-dominant strengths such as empathy and consensus-building being recognized as the future of business, the headlines forecast that women will dominate the future generations of corporate leaders. However, today’s Finding Brave guest recognizes that the current system is broken, because there are actually fewer women leading corporations now. She reveals how the corporate structure is damaging women, institutions and organizations, and highlights what we can all start doing today to make an impact.

Our guest is Facebook and Google veteran Marissa Orr, who will release her debut book Lean Out: The Truth About Women, Power, and the Workplace on June 11, 2019 via HarperCollins Leadership.

Marissa began her Google career over 15 years ago as a founding member of Google’s Sales Operations & Strategy team, after which she worked as Vertical Marketing Manager at Facebook. She has conducted talks and workshops for thousands of people at diverse organizations across the globe.  As an author and speaker, she now covers the systemic dysfunction at the heart of today’s corporations and how their pursuit to close the gender gap has come at the expense of female well-being.

Right now we are on the precipice of change, and with her new book, Marissa hopes to provide a fresh voice for a new generation of thinkers. Her inspiring story proves that when you own (and don’t suppress) your truth, you become very powerful and will lead others by example.

Highlights from this Episode:

  • Why “success” may not be what you think it is [5:50]
  • How ambition is defined differently for women than it is for men in the workplace and why this is still happening [8:01]
  • Why Marissa says she is grateful for her time spent working at Google and Facebook, and how these experiences shaped the writing of her book [10:25]
  • The reasons that she believes corporate power structures are becoming a place where “truth goes to die” [16:22]
  • What biases exist against introverts in corporate cultures and how it affects their opportunities for advancement in the organizations [18:10]
  • What we need to start doing now as women to change the way things work in the corporate world [21:38]
  • Why we should always be looking back to the messages we got when we were younger and how they can be applied to our professional lives today [30:11]
  • Marissa’s direct message to the leaders of the corporate world [33:35]
  • The importance of both men and women in becoming aware of the biases that exist [35:00]

For More Information:

https://www.marissaorr.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/marissaorr/

https://twitter.com/marissabethorr

https://www.instagram.com/marissabethorr/

Resources Mentioned:

Marissa’s Book, Lean Out: The Truth About Women, Power, and the Workplace

Her Medium Post, Why Working at Facebook Inspired me to write Lean Out

Lean In: Women, Work and the Will to Lead by Sheryl Sandberg

Kathy’s Blog Posts, 6 Toxic Behaviors That Push People Away: How To Recognize Them In Yourself and Change Them & 7 Crippling Parenting Behaviors That Keep Children From Growing Into Leaders

Kathy’s Book, Breakdown, Breakthrough

QUOTES:

“The leaders of modern feminism have been from a small but elite group of powerful women, meaning that so many working women don’t get their voices, challenges or concerns reflected in the natural conversation.” [2:57]

“If you get the corner office, but you sit there sad and alone, can you really call that success? [5:50]

“(Working at Facebook) kind of broke me in a way. I was sort of forced into this dark place where I questioned my identity.” [11:10]

“Writing this book was really a way to take the power and control back in my life and put it in my own hands, because I felt really powerless in my day job.” [12:53]

“When you work for a corporation, your manager really has total and absolute power over you and your livelihood. So it’s really hard to defend your truth and be authentic in yourself, because the power structure requires that you obey.” [16:45]

“If you can create conditions in your organization, like conditions of trust and put systems in place that really take care of your employees well-being, your business has nowhere to go but up.” [33:55]

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Episode 73: The Real Reasons Women Aren't Getting Funded And How To Change That, with Nisa Amoils

“I really want these women to get funding, so they can build businesses that are building the future and that we can break the cycle of what we’ve seen in technology and finance. Through these new technologies, we have that opportunity to break the cycle.” – Nisa Amoils

Despite some progress being made, there’s no denying that today we do not have a level playing field in terms of access to funding and growth opportunities for female vs. male entrepreneurs. Today’s guest takes a brave stance on this problem, and discusses it openly and candidly, in no uncertain terms. She is committed to leveling the playing field, and in this episode she explores the systemic issues around why women are not receiving the funding they need, and how we can take steps to change this.

Nisa Amoils was named one of Business Insider’s 30 Women in Venture Capital to Watch in 2018, and Top 100 women in Fintech in 2019 by LATTICE80. She is a tech investor and has been a venture capitalist at Scout Ventures, an active Board Member and former entrepreneur. Her investment focus has largely been on frontier tech, i.e. AR/VR, robotics, drones, AI, autonomous mobility, cybersecurity, blockchain and other disruptive technologies, topics she covers regularly for Forbes.com.

Nisa reveals how female entrepreneurs and founders are not alone, regardless of where they are located, and shares how to gain powerful support as well as practical steps to follow to greatly improve their chances of receiving the funding they need.

Highlights from this Episode:

  • The reasons Nisa wrote her new book and a key experience that played a big part in the decision to do it [2:36]
  • The surprising things she discovered while researching and writing the book [6:18]
  • What is blockchain and bitcoin, and why they can be great tools for women founders [8:52]
  • The real reasons Nisa feels that women aren’t getting funded [13:46]
  • What women can do to break into new fields and get the funding to develop their companies and ideas [17:50]
  • The ultimate goal Nisa has for the work that she is doing [20:30]
  • What support systems are available for women founders [21:57]
  • Things that today’s entrepreneurs are doing know, or aren’t doing, that could help further their cause [23:45]
  • What today’s venture capitalists are really looking for [25:00]

For More Information:

https://nisaamoils.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/nisaamoils

https://twitter.com/AmoilsNisa

Resources Mentioned:

Nisa’s Book, WTF Is Happening: Women Tech Founders on the Rise

Her Forbes Blog

60: How to Crack The Funding Code for Your Startup, with Judy Robinett

QUOTES:

“There were plenty of women in law school, so it’s not really when we’re entering these fields that we see the discrepancy. It’s more as we move up.” [5:18]

“Let’s say you’re a female founder. You can go to a crowdfunding platform and you have the ability to reach many more people, tell your story to them and they can invest in you.” [13:21]

“Most of the capital is controlled by sovereign wealth funds, endowments, pensions and other institutional investors. So if you really want to move the needle, you really need a macro reallocation of capital from those sources.” [15:07]

“There are the grassroots initiatives, like the angel investors and other funding sources to get women started. Then there’s the top-down approach, and hopefully we meet somewhere in the middle.” [18:26]

“Those female founders who received funding, they exit and they create a new ecosystem. They just return the capital and keep funding other women, so I think the more that happens, that’s better for everybody.” [19:31]

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Episode 72: How Expanding Your Curiosity Increases Your Engagement, Innovation and Success, with Diane Hamilton

 

“You really do have to understand that if you look around and everybody looks and acts just like you, and nobody is asking any questions, you’ve got a problem with curiosity.” – Diane Hamilton

Curiosity can change absolutely every aspect of what we do, and today’s Finding Brave guest reveals just how important curiosity is to improving engagement, innovation, productivity and more.

Dr. Diane Hamilton is the Founder and CEO of Tonerra, and a nationally syndicated radio host, keynote speaker, and the former MBA Program Chair at the Forbes School of Business. She is the author of multiple books including Cracking the Curiosity Code: The Key to Unlocking Human Potential and the creator of the Curiosity Code Index® assessment. Her groundbreaking work in the area of curiosity is required reading in universities around the world and has been endorsed by some of the biggest names in leadership including Steve Forbes, Keith Krach, and Ken Fisher. She has shared the stage with top speakers including Marshall Goldsmith, Martha Stewart, and Jeffrey Hayzlett, and has been featured on Forbes, ABC, NBC, CBS, and Fox.

To be more curious, it takes being brave, but it’s not enough to just think differently. Insight doesn’t necessarily change us–it’s taking brave, bold action that generates change and growth, so tap into your curiosity now. The younger you start to explore and utilize your curiosity, the more it can help advance your personal and professional development.

Highlights from this Episode:

  • How Diane got interested in curiosity and what drew her to learning more about it [2:47]
  • The way she defines curiosity and what she’s learned about people who have it, and those who don’t [5:07]
  • The four factors that hold us back from being more curious [8:12]
  • An example of when fear held Diane back and why this was such a powerful learning experience [10:45]
  • What role our assumptions, or the little voices in our heads, play in our lives [14:16]
  • Why many people are avoiding technology, and how our environment will directly affect how curious we are [16:03]
  • The reasons Diane created her certification program, Curiosity Code Index® [20:55]
  • The ways curiosity can be used to build someone’s personal brand [25:45]
  • How curiosity builds empathy and what we can be done to overcome a lack of it in order to be successful [31:37]

For More Information:

https://drdianehamilton.com/

http://curiositycode.com  

https://www.linkedin.com/in/drdianehamilton/

https://www.facebook.com/drdianehamilton/

https://twitter.com/drdianehamilton

https://www.instagram.com/drdianehamilton/

Resources Mentioned:

Diane’s Latest Book, Cracking the Curiosity Code: The Key to Unlocking Human Potential & Other Works

Her Curiosity Code Index®

Diane’s Radio Show, Take The Lead

Kathy’s Book, Breakdown, Breakthrough

Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain

iWoz: Computer Geek to Cult Icon by Steve Wozniak

QUOTES:

“I really learned so much from every industry of how everybody thinks, and it just started to come together that I wanted to figure out why people weren’t more curious.” [3:36]

“What I was trying to do was to look at curiosity from the standpoint that no one else has looked at it from, which is what keeps us from being curious.” [5:28]

“If you don’t solve the main problem of your workers being curious, and how they can explore that development, then you’re not going to reach all these other goals of engagement, innovation and more.” [21:21]

“It’s hard to get a really accurate assessment of your emotional intelligence unless you get it from someone else.” [30:44]

“By just adding little tiny things, baby steps in curiosity throughout your day to see what it feels like, it’s kind of fun.” [34:09]

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Episode 71: Developing Your Bossed-Up Identity and Losing the Martyrdom, with Emilie Aries

 

“By taking that first leadership step–that boss move– the door then opened to identity expansion, to see myself as actually capable of garnering support and capable of commanding respect.” – Emilie Aries

I’ve found in working with and training thousands of professional women around the world, that there can be what I call a “perfectionistic overfunctioning” tendency that exhausts and demoralizes us, and even a “martyrdom mindset” (as my Finding Brave guest today calls it) that women experience frequently. You may not think there is a way to avoid it, but thankfully, there is a way to overcome it. Today’s guest has made it her mission to help women keep martyrdom and burnout at bay, and doing so starts by developing a “bossed up” identity.

Emilie Aries is a nationally recognized speaker, writer, podcaster, and the Founder and CEO of Bossed Up, an innovative personal and professional training organization that helps women craft sustainable careers.

Emilie is a political organizer turned award-winning women’s leadership consultant. She has helped hundreds navigate career transition and prevent burnout. Her TED talk, The Power of No, shows how to set healthy boundaries and invest in sustainable long-term achievement. Her forthcoming book, Bossed Up: A Grown Woman’s Guide To Getting Your Sh*t Together helps women step up as the boss of their life and assertively design a sustainable career path.

After co-hosting the HowStuffWorks podcast, Stuff Mom Never Told You in 2017, Emilie launched her own podcast, Bossed Up, to break down listener career conundrums, interview expert guests, and deliver boss tips to listener’s earbuds each week. Emilie also writes as a regular contributor at Forbes and is a sought-after speaker at companies, conferences, and universities across the country.

As Emilie shows by using examples from her own personal life, to beat martyrdom and burnout it’s imperative to develop a community of courage and not just one of support. This is why her message goes so well with what we talk about each week here on Finding Brave.

Highlights from this Episode:

  • What is a “bossed up” identity and why Emilie believes it is so critical to have today [2:48]
  • How to overcome institutional barriers when employing this mindset and identity [5:19]
  • The powerful conversation happening on college campuses right now [7:56]
  • What is the “martyrdom mindset” and where it came from originally [10:00]
  • The ways in which our media’s narratives on gender are changing [16:04]
  • What are the perceived benefits of being a martyr, and how Emilie compares it to burnout [17:28]
  • A mantra that she lives by, and why this message resonates so much with her and other women [24:54]
  • Emilie’s practical 3-step process for cultivating a boss identity and how she helps women accomplish it [25:54]
  • An example of how to take power versus just asking for permission [30:21]
  • How Emilie’s community is helping her to support her mission and the reasons she calls it a “courage community” [32:33]

For More Information:

https://bossedup.org/

https://emiliearies.com/  

https://twitter.com/BossedUpOrg

https://www.instagram.com/bosseduporg/

https://www.facebook.com/bosseduporg

https://www.facebook.com/emiliearies

https://twitter.com/emiliearies

https://www.instagram.com/emiliearies/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/emiliearies/

Resources Mentioned:

Emilie’s Upcoming Book, Bossed Up: A Grown Woman’s Guide to Getting Your Sh*t Together

Her Podcast & Bootcamps

Emilie’s LifeTracker Planner

Brené Brown: The Call to Courage on Netflix

QUOTES:

“When I came out of my own battle with burnout, I truly felt at that time like I was sitting in a passenger seat in my life. I had no control, I had no agency, and I had no ability to impact my outcomes.” [2:51]

“My theory of change these days is that if you give women the tools to advocate for themselves, they are better able to turn around and advocate for others as well.” [7:11]

“Fixating on what power we don’t have, as opposed to focusing on what power we have and how to get more of it and share more of it, can be debilitating.” [8:47]

“When you combine the role overload that so many women are told our entire lives, it leaves us feeling like the only way to be successful, whatever the hell that means, is to martyr ourselves to get there, and to sacrifice our well-being in the pursuit of success.” [11:45]

“By choosing to live differently myself, I have seen profound changes in the people I love and the people I’m surrounded by, including the people whose lifestyle have inspired me to take a different path.” [21:12]

“It’s that deep-seated calm confidence, not in the outcome of being perfect, but in the ability to learn from the process itself.” [29:26]

“We each individually have responsibility for seeking out the kind of support that isn’t just a bunch of ‘Yes’ women.” [33:03]

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Episode 70: Essential Rules for Building Mental Strength - In Yourself and Your Children, with Andrew Wittman

“Listen, kids are resilient, we all know that, but what happened to us when we grew up? We’re a trainwreck and we’re a dumpster fire by the time we become adults. You know we all intrinsically have resilience, but we lose it along the way somewhere.” – Andrew Wittman

Parenting can be extremely difficult, and today’s amazing Finding Brave guest reveals the tools required to master resilience in parenting. Not only does it take mental toughness, critical thinking, and emotional intelligence, but an incredible amount of inner work and true acceptance of oneself is needed in order for someone to be the best parent he or she can be.

Dr. Andrew Wittman is a United States Marine Corps infantry combat veteran, a former Police Officer, and Federal Agent. As a Special Agent for the U.S. Capitol Police, he led the security detail for Nancy Pelosi and has personally protected Hillary Clinton, Tom Delay, Trent Lott, King Abdullah of Jordan, Benjamin Netanyahu of Israel, Sir Elton John, as well as Fortune 20 CEOs. As a security contractor for the State Department, he taught high-threat diplomatic security to former Navy SEALS, Marines, Rangers, and Special Forces.

Andrew is founder of the Mental Toughness Training Center, a leadership consultancy specializing in peak performance, team dynamics, resolving conflict in the workplace, and is the author of the books, Ground Zero Leadership: CEO of You (2016) and Seven Secrets of Resilience for Parents” (2018). He holds a Ph.D. in Theological Studies, is a guest lecturer at Clemson University, and co-hosts the radio call-in show “Get Warrior Tough.”

Andrew is an embodiment of mental resilience and strength, but there’s also a vulnerability and accessibility in him that I believe isn’t seen often in other leaders of his stature working in the area that he specializes in. His message is timely and one that is needed today though, because if you can find a way to love and accept yourself, thoroughly, no matter what, you will become a better parent and a better leader and make a positive difference in the world.

Highlights from this Episode:

  • What Andrew says has taught him the most about life from his amazing career and experiences [4:05]
  • Why he wrote his latest book and the key message it holds for parents [7:36]
  • How Andrew created the framework he writes and teaches others about [9:30]
  • What he sees parents doing that could be causing negative, lasting effects in their children [11:33]
  • How to avoid always seeking the need for approval from others [18:10]
  • What it means to be the “CEO of You” and Andrew’s 4-Step “C.R.A.P.” framework that will help you do it [27:23]
  • His advice for always accepting your children for who they are [38:58]
  • The difference between “liking” and “loving” yourself, and why this matters so much [41:57]
  • Whether or not Andrew thinks leadership and parenting are similar [44:55]

For More Information:

https://getwarriortough.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/company/andrew-wittman-phd/

https://www.facebook.com/WarriorToughPhD/

https://twitter.com/WarriorToughPhD

https://www.instagram.com/warriortoughphd/

Resources Mentioned:

His Books, Ground Zero Leadership: CEO of You (2016) & Seven Secrets of Resilience for Parents” (2018)

Inner Armor Perpetual Resilience Training App  

Kathy’s Forbes Blog with Andrew, How Social Media Over-Sharing About Your Child Can Cause Irrevocable Harm

Kathy’s Forbes Bog, Guy Kawasaki Shares His Most Important Career Lessons And Regrets (And His Take On Women In Tech)

Finding Brave Episode 4: Gender, Power and Relationships, and the Crushing Effects of Patriarchy, with Terry Real

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz

QUOTES:

“Getting your body under control is the first level of mental toughness, but getting your emotions under control is something completely different.” [4:40]

“The worst part about social media is that we’re all running a reality television show. We’re playing a role and we’re not playing ourselves.” [20:28]

“For me, my identity statement is ‘I’m a man of excellence who always keeps his word.’ So no matter what, whether I’m a dad, the CEO of my company, I’m coaching little league, or I’m a parent on the sidelines watching my kids play, I’m a man of excellence who always keeps his word. That’s what I am, and it will never run out until I get to my grave.” [32:25]

“Mental or emotional work, or I’ll call it spiritual work, is harder than physical work. So every day, I’m going to reaffirm my acceptance of myself.” [39:22]

“I would defy anybody to say that parenting is not skill in influence, direction, course of action, attitudes, and opinions.” [45:44]

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Episode 69: 7 Ways To Leverage Your Introvert Edge in Sales, with Matthew Pollard

“I think this is the massive thing for introverts. You have to be congruent with what you’re selling, so you can’t just put a price tag out there and be ok with it. You need to have that validated, and there are ways to test that so it feels comfortable for you.” – Matthew Pollard

Introverts often feel that certain barriers exist making sales harder to do than their extroverted counterparts. Today’s Finding Brave expert guest reveals that introverts actually have an advantage in selling, and he shares his 7-step process to discovering what he calls the “introvert’s edge.”

Matthew Pollard is responsible for five multi-million-dollar business success stories in his home country of Australia, all before the age of 30. His humble beginnings, the adversities that he faced, and his epic rise to success are inspirational stories of how anyone, with the right motivation and the right strategies, can achieve anything they set their mind to.

Today, he’s a bestselling author whose book, The Introvert’s Edge, has received endorsements from Harvard, Princeton, Neil Patel, and Marshall Goldsmith, just to name a few. He’s been featured by Fox, NBC, Fortune, Forbes, INC., Entrepreneur, and CEO – and he’s also the founder of Small Business Festival, which INC. has named a Top-3 national conference for small business.

Whether you’re an introvert or not, I’m know this powerhouse interview will help you find brave and close your own power gaps. What Matthew shares here isn’t just about sales–at the core it’s really about how to shine in the world doing what you love, while helping others in the process.

Highlights from this Episode:

  • Some of the early struggles Matthew faced growing up and what he considers to be a turning point for him [4:15]
  • How he first learned to develop his sales skills [8:40]
  • Why introverts benefit more from a proven sales system than extroverts do [11:10]
  • The very first step in the sales process that he recommends someone take [14:40]
  • What Matthew sees to be the biggest problem introverts face in selling and how to use storytelling to overcome it [21:20]
  • How to tell if you’ve done the sales process right [31:10]
  • What to do if you’re struggling with how to present your pricing to potential clients [34:18]
  • The process Matthew uses to screen prospects and determine who is an ideal fit for his products [42:05]

For More Information:

http://www.matthewpollard.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/matthewpollardspeaker/

https://twitter.com/matthewpollard_

https://www.instagram.com/matthewpollardspeaker/

https://www.facebook.com/MatthewPollardSpeaker/

Resources Mentioned:

Get The First Chapter of Matthew’s Book, The Introvert’s Edge: How the Quiet and Shy Can Outsell Anyone

His Podcast & YouTube Channel

Matthew’s Rapid Growth Academy & 6-Week Intensive

Small Business Festival & His Other Events

Kathy’s Forbes Blog with Matthew, How An Introverted Australian With A Disability Built Huge Momentum For U.S. Small Businesses

60: How to Crack The Funding Code for Your Startup, with Judy Robinett  

QUOTES:

“I did have a lot of struggles growing up, and I think that the adversities that we have in life seed the success of our future.” [3:58]

“I had to make the decision that sales had to be a systematic process, because if I wasn’t in control, my year was going to be horrible.” [8:59]

“If you’re always trying to create repeatable and improving results over the long-term, you always get much better outcomes.” [14:16]

“If you do everything well, the sales should just become a natural outcome.” [15:08]

“The problem is as an introvert, we end up stuck in our head trying to work out what to say and a lot of times what comes out is this massive education system.” [24:46]

“A story is a wonderful way of educating somebody of what you do, inspiring them that it’s possible for them, while also underlying the fact that you’re the only logical choice [of who] to work with.” [28:11]

“I will always do what I can to help as many people as possible, as long as I can keep it up. The people that do the work, I will be happy to support.” [44:50]

“If we avoid sales and we avoid marketing, we’re really just counting the days until our business is closing.” [49:29]

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