Episode 65: How To Be A True Connector and Why That Transforms Your Life and Career, with Michelle Tillis Lederman
“A connector is someone who is people-focused in their approach to interactions, to life, to business, and to everything. If we prioritize our relationships and our people, whether they are professional or personal, we will get the advantage, which simply means faster, easier, and better.” – Michelle Tillis Lederman
The way we connect with others is so important because connectors get results faster, easier, and better. Today’s Finding Brave guest reveals not only how connectors have a way of thinking and acting that enable stronger connections, but also shares how anyone can be a connector, not just extroverts.
Michelle Tillis Lederman, one of Forbes Top 25 Networking Experts, is the author of four books including the internationally known, The 11 Laws of Likability, and her latest The Connectors Advantage. Michelle is a connection creator and CEO of Executive Essentials, which provides customized communications and leadership programs for Fortune 500, non-profit, university, and government clients. A former finance executive and NYU Professor, Michelle is a regular in the media appearing on NBC, CBS, Fox, NPR, the Wall Street Journal, NY Times, CNBC, and others.
There are many different types of connectors, a whole spectrum in fact, as Michelle shows us in this episode. By becoming a better connector, you’ll see that we do live in a friendly and warm Universe, but ultimately it comes down to each one of us learning how to trust ourselves, and others.
Highlights from this Episode:
- Why Michelle feels that her book is needed right now, and how it differs from other books on connection that are available [3:42]
- The difference between networking and connecting [5:19]
- What she means when she says there is an “Introvert’s Edge” that exists [7:39]
- Examples from her own life that show how true relationships can be a great benefit [11:02]
- How helping others often takes less than you think it will [15:44]
- The strategies Michelle uses for determining whether to say “Yes” or “No” to opportunities she is presented [19:14]
- The very first way we can level up with our own connecting [25:44]
- What a niche connector is and how you can broaden your horizons to become a super connector, and even global connector [27:00]
- A simple but powerful tip for anyone being interviewed [28:34]
- What having a relationship-driven leader will do for an organization [31:59]
For More Information:
http://theconnectorsadvantage.com
https://michelletillislederman.com/
https://executiveessentials.org/
https://www.facebook.com/MichelleTillisLederman
http://www.linkedin.com/in/communicationexpertspeaker
https://twitter.com/mtlederman
http://www.youtube.com/user/MichelleLederman
https://www.instagram.com/mtlederman/
Resources Mentioned:
Michelle’s Latest Book, The Connector’s Advantage: 7 Mindsets to Grow Your Influence and Impact (with bonuses) & All Of Her Previous Books
Michelle’s Blog & YouTube Channel
60: How to Crack the Funding Code for Your Startup, with Judy Robinett
How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back from Your Next Raise, Promotion, or Job by Sally Helgesen and Marshall Goldsmith
59: 11 Essential Shifts Every Leader Must Embrace, with John C. Maxwell
UCLA Loneliness Scale (Version 3)
28: The Epidemic of Loneliness In the Workplace and How To Cure It, with Mike Stallard
QUOTES:
“We’re in the network age, and our best and most important assets are our relationships.” [3:58]
“I always talk about appreciating the differences, but better yet, call out the similarities. We have to dig a little bit deeper to find them, but they’re typically there. They’re just not as visibly obvious at all times.” [4:40]
“I wanted people to understand that it is nurture over nature. Anybody can fuse these mindsets into their interactions to reap the same reward, but they don’t have to do it in the same way.” [7:46]
“You need to know what you want, but if you don’t ask for it, you’re not getting it. There’s no way to get the advantage if you don’t ask.” [14:48]
“Connectors do what they say they’re going to do, they follow up and they follow through.” [17:36]
“Faster, easier, and better. It’s all because of our connections, so get connected.” [25:32]
“The more people who we bring in that have that generous spirit, the greater and the more rich the conversations are. So as we start to initiate more, we move from a responsive to acting connector.” [26:33]
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Episode 64: How to Get Hired for Your Strengths, with Scott Anthony Barlow
“Once you start focusing on using your strengths, once you know what those are, you have the ability to add a different value to the world and contribute in a way that you weren’t contributing before when you were trying to partition yourself in a lot of different ways.” – Scott Anthony Barlow
On this episode of Finding Brave, our expert guest shares how we have a much better chance of attaining career happiness when we focus on our strengths first. However, just because you’re good at something doesn’t necessarily mean that you should be doing it as your career. What he shares today will shift your mindset around your strengths, getting you excited about pivoting to be who you want to be, as well as achieving the impact you want to make in the world.
Founder and CEO of Happen to Your Career, Scott Anthony Barlow, has been featured on CNBC, Yahoo, CareerBuilder, Fast Company and Huffington Post and various Colleges and Universities as a top expert on Career Happiness.
He and his team run 2 of the top 5 “Career Change” Podcasts on iTunes including the Happen to Your Career Podcast.
Scott is proof that your dream life and career really aren’t as far away as you feel it may be. Just believing that you are worth it, you can take the necessary steps to take control of your journey and make it happen.
Highlights from this Episode:
- Why most people don’t seem to understand their strengths and the gifts they have to offer [5:07]
- A way to identify your strengths if you aren’t sure of them [7:55]
- What are “signature strengths” [9:00]
- How we often get misguided in what we should be pursuing for our career based on our perceived strengths [10:57]
- Ways to add value to your employer, and an example of how Scott did this for an organization in his previous role [13:48]
- The “trifecta” we should be looking for when deciding on what we want to do for work [16:50]
- What’s behind the myth that we can’t make money doing what we love [19:13]
- The reasons that no past experience is wasted if you leave your corporate job [21:50]
- Why a lot of assessments don’t work, and an example of one that works well in moving the people that take it forward [28:28]
- What a great quantitative assessment will do [31:30]
- The exciting ways that Scott and his team are helping others recognize and act upon their strengths [35:13]
For More Information:
https://www.happentoyourcareer.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/scottanthonybarlow
https://twitter.com/HTYCpodcast
https://twitter.com/scottabarlow
https://www.instagram.com/happentoyourcareer/
https://www.instagram.com/scottanthonybarlow
https://www.facebook.com/happentoyourcareer
https://www.facebook.com/scottabarlow
Resources Mentioned:
Scott’s The Ultimate Guide to Using Your Strengths to Get Hired
Kathy’s 6 Dominant Action Styles Quiz
Kathy’s Free Career Path Self-Assessment
QUOTES:
“When we get feedback in the world, it’s often appreciation for our skills, and those things that are just the tip of the iceberg. However, that’s not our actual strength.” [10:57]
“I felt very compelled to make sure if I was doing something, that I was actually capturing people’s attention and doing so in a way that was going to cause them to change their behavior.” [15:18]
“I don’t enjoy, like or find a lot of use for assessments. I find that more often than not, for the average person, it is misleading more so than anything else. What I do find to be very useful is those assessments that allow you to learn more about yourself.” [29:23]
“What we do as an organization is help people identify what really creates an ideal career for them, and then we help them connect that to the real world.” [35:19]
“You have to decide that you no longer want to accept where you’re at in your life, or what you’re receiving and what you’re putting out into the world right now. Once you decide that there can be something that’s better for you, even if you don’t know what it is, you want to commit to finding that.” [36:20]
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Episode 63: The Power Of Image: How To Design Your 'Style Signature’ with Audrey Beaulac
“If you know what your best is, then you know your best colors and you know your style personality. You can take all of those and enhance yourself to be memorable, to be recognizable, and to have an impact.” – Audrey Beaulac
Everywhere we turn we’re bombarded by messages from people telling us what we “should” look like. However, this Finding Brave expert guest shows us why style is so much more than just clothes we wear and the way we style our hair, as it’s really about taking control of your style profile and creating a ‘Style Signature’ that gets you noticed and remembered.
Since 1994, Audrey Beaulac has been the style strategist and secret weapon of prominent executives, entrepreneurs and change agents.
Audrey’s lifelong depth of style sense goes beyond simply following trends to instead create an intimate connection between her clients and their wardrobes. As a highly sought after Style Strategist, her focus is on creating a cohesive collection that gets to the root of your ultimate goal – your authenticity personified.
Audrey shows us how to start identifying your style, and the ways to gain awareness around certain fashion triggers. Creating your own wardrobe story can be energizing because when you’re in harmony with your personal appearance and how you feel, it can lead to having more power and bravery in your life.
Highlights from this Episode:
- Why it’s so hard for many of us to figure out our own style [3:10]
- Who Audrey serves and helps now and how she got her start with fashion and style [4:05]
- What our work attire could be telling us [7:20]
- How she uses questions to help drill down to the essence of someone’s style [8:15]
- What is a “style signature” how it can give you more power [12:25]
- Color basics and what to consider when choosing what to wear [14:55]
- Where people are going wrong with their fashion [18:57]
- Why men too can struggle to develop a style [22:40]
- What our style says to others and why it’s so much more than just the clothes we wear or how we style our hair [23:30]
- The next steps to take in your own fashion journey [29:45]
- How success has a look that is available at any price point [32:42]
For More Information:
http://www.audreybeaulacstyle.com/
https://www.facebook.com/audreybeaulacstyle/
https://twitter.com/audreybeaulac
https://www.linkedin.com/in/audreybeaulacstyle/
Resources Mentioned:
Audrey’s Signature Style Guide
Her Book, The Profile Workbook: A Systematized Way To Identify Your Personal Style
QUOTES:
“I think it is really hard to find our own style because there’s so much information out there, but so little of it has to do with the individual.” [3:14]
“If we’re wearing things that don’t feel like us, we could be in the wrong career.” [7:28]
“I think when we connect with our clothing and what we’re wearing, it fortifies us not to listen to those messages because we feel good. We feel empowered, and we feel triggered by the confidence of connecting.” [11:15]
“You want the freedom to express yourself because you’ve earned it.” [13:04]
“If you work a color palette, you’ll have more interchangeability throughout your whole wardrobe.” [18:34]
“Men are starting to deal with some of the same problems that women do. They’re becoming size-conscious and they’re starting to really notice the effects of wearing something that doesn’t have the comfort level that they’re used to.” [22:57]
“When you have a cohesive look, you’re harmonious to look at, and people will keep their eyes on you longer. They’ll be more interested in you.” [24:20]
“Clothing should be a great frame, but we still have to be the ones that come out. We should be ahead of the clothing, it shouldn’t be all about that.” [24:43]
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Episode 62: How to Land a Corporate Board Role and Expand Your Influence, with Sheila Ronning
“There’s cash to be made, but don’t go in it just to make the money. You need to figure out why you’re wanting to serve on a corporate board. I always say that our members are life learners because they have no desire to one day just retire and do full-time gardening.” – Sheila Ronning
Are you an executive woman who believes strongly that she has something important to offer an outside organization? Maybe you’ve considered pursuing a corporate board role, but you just weren’t sure how to do this, or where to even begin? Today’s Finding Brave guest walks us through everything we need to know about sitting on a corporate board, and why this is something all women executives should consider.
A leadership and networking expert and board strategist, Sheila Ronning is a trailblazer in working toward gender equality in the boardroom. In 2002 she founded Women in the Boardroom with a revolutionary vision to create an environment where women could assist other women in achieving their leadership and corporate board service goals. In a little more than 15 years, she has scaled Women in the Boardroom from concept to membership organization with global reach across multiple industries, and influence in private and public boardrooms, including Fortune 100 companies.
Not only does Sheila provide a realistic and helpful framework for pursuing corporate board opportunities in this episode, but she reveals how to determine which ones we should be focusing on, the common mistakes made in pursuing board roles, how this process differs from a job search, and much more.
Highlights from this Episode:
- What is board service, and why it’s so important for executive women to engage in [3:43]
- Where to find the compensation plans for sitting on any publicly-owned company board, and how private company boards will differ [5:20]
- How the desired skill sets for board members has shifted [11:18]
- How to approach landing a board role and where Sheila sees women going wrong with this [15:03]
- A sample elevator pitch you can use if you are interested in serving on a board of a publicly-owned company [25:24]
- Why networking and introductions, are so powerful [27:56]
- How to determine if a role is the right one for you and if you’re the right fit for the company [30:34]
- The reasons that organizational leaders should be advocating for their female executives to apply for board positions, and how they can facilitate this [31:50]
For More Information:
https://womenintheboardroom.com
https://twitter.com/boardroomwomen
https://twitter.com/RonningSheila
https://www.instagram.com/womenintheboardroom/
https://www.linkedin.com/groups/147283
https://www.facebook.com/womenintheboardroom
Resources Mentioned:
Sheila’s Recorded Webinar, Serving on a Corporate Board
Kathy’s Forbes Blog with Sheila, Why Companies Need To Advocate For Their Female Executives To Join Boards
Kathy’s 6 Dominant Action Styles Quiz
QUOTES:
“I focus on helping women get paid for their time. Women do not need to come to me to help volunteer themselves.” [4:55]
“Serving on a corporate board is also giving back because you are helping a company get from one level to the next.” [8:44]
“It takes more than a credit card. We can’t just join an organization and all of the sudden get onto a board. We have to do the work.” [15:03]
“Know what your value add is and know what they’re looking for because your network is most likely going to be how you’ll accomplish getting on a corporate board.” [26:30]
“You want to make sure it’s the right fit for you too. It’s not just all about them. If it’s not the right fit for you, you’re not going to do your best.” [30:11]
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Episode 61: Hearing and Heeding Your Wake-Up Call, with Darren Virassammy
“It was actually a friend of mine that pointed out the juxtaposition of these two independent wake-up calls that put it all together. The juxtaposition here that was so powerful was that in that moment, I realized I have to live my potential not for me only, but for the next generation.” – Darren Virassammy
Sometime in life it takes a wake-up call, or multiple ones, to help someone realize who it is they should be in life and how they are called to help others. Today’s Finding Brave guest is no exception, as his wake-up calls placed him on a path to help others realize that everyone deserves a great place to work and that any workplace can be great.
Darren Virassammy is the Co-Founder and Chief Operating Officer of 34 Strong, comprised of a team that believes everyone deserves a great place to work and that any workplace can be great. A leading expert in the global employee engagement community, the 34 Strong team leverages the strengths-based approach to human development to create massive shifts within organizations, both culturally and on the bottom line. He and his team have created sustainable change in microbusinesses, all the way up to large organizational teams at the FDA, Bank of America, and The California Department of Public Health. Recently, Darren has keynoted for Hitachi Global Women’s Conference, The Rotary World Peace Conference, The Professional Grounds Management Society, and author Mike Michalowicz’s Profit Con.
As Darren reveals, in order to sustain excellence we must play to our strengths and manage around our weaknesses. In this episode, he provides the tools to help identify what he calls your areas of “Grind, Greatness, and Genius” that will help you truly live your own message.
Highlights from this Episode:
- Darren’s wake-up call that happened just one week after his first child was born [4:45]
- The amazing experience he has a few months later that had him question everything about his life to that point [8:14]
- Why many of us miss signs from the Universe and the first step to take to stop doing this [12:14]
- A reframe for looking at how the seemingly little tasks you do fit into the big picture for your life and vision[16:17]
- What motivates Darren to do what he does on a daily basis [23:12]
- How his company is shifting the workplaces of today and who will really be the change agents for this to happen [25:22]
- Where they start when working with organizations who don’t value their female or other employees [28:29]
- An exercise you can do to identify your strengths and weaknesses and how this can benefit your experience in the workplace [34:29]
- Why we should be asking for support for others when going through our own wake-up calls [39:40]
For More Information:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/strengthsfinder/
https://www.facebook.com/34strong/
https://www.linkedin.com/company/34-strong-inc-/
Resources Mentioned:
Darren’s Grind.Greatness.Genius Exercise
34 Strong Video Overview
Darren’s Keynote: Creating Excellence Through Strengths (from Profit Con 2018):
59: 11 Essential Shifts Every Leader Must Embrace, with John C. Maxwell
44: How To Live In Your Zone Of Genius, with Gay Hendricks
The strengths-based parenting book titled Play to Their Strengths co-authored by Darren’s 34 Strong Business partner, Brandon Miller, and Brandon’s wife Analyn Miller
Kathy’s Career Path Self-Assessment
Darren on the Creative Warriors Podcast
QUOTES:
“I had just met my daughter, and here I was staring down the barrel of death.” [4:54]
“I was just relishing life, because I was finally pausing to enjoy the two most important people in my life: my wife and my daughter.” [8:36]
“A few minutes to ask yourself to stop doing and focus on being, and investing in that time, can be incredibly profound for us.” [14:30]
“If we’re going to create the future that we want to have, it doesn’t happen in one fell swoop. It is driven by the habits that we create every single day.” [17:09]
“The long-term focus of what we’re working to do is creating great places to work.” [25:50]
“Remember that nobody can do you better than you can do you. There’s only one version of you.” [35:19]
“In those wake-up calls, sometimes we can realize it’s not that we have to do everything. There are others that are out there that can help us.” [39:40]
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Episode 60: How to Crack The Funding Code for Your Startup, with Judy Robinett
“So part of it is being really clear on what your goal is, and then think about who you need to help you get there, and then where do those people hang out?” – Judy Robinett
A major challenge today for entrepreneurs with startups is the issue of funding. My guest on this episode of Finding Brave shares her deep expertise on what the funding ecosystem really looks like, how you can get funded faster, the key issues you’ll need to have a grasp on regarding your venture to get funded, and more.
Judy Robinett is the author of the new book Crack the Funding Code: How Investors Think and What They Need to Hear to Fund Your Startup, and her previous book How to Be a Power Connector: The 5-50-150 Rule, #1 of The Top Ten Business Books of 2014 by Inc.com.
Robinett is a business thought leader who is known as “the woman with the titanium digital Rolodex.” She has been profiled in Inc., Forbes, Venture Beat, Huffington Post, and Bloomberg Businessweek as a sterling example of the new breed of “super connectors” who use their experience and networks to accelerate growth and enhance profitability.
In her more than 30 years of experience as an entrepreneur and corporate leader, Robinett has served as the CEO of both public and private companies and in management positions at Fortune 500 companies. She has been on the advisory boards of Illuminate Ventures, an early-stage venture capital firm based in Menlo Park, California; Pereg Ventures, a venture capital firm based in New York; and Springboard Enterprises based in Washington, DC.
She was a managing director of Golden Seeds Angel Network (the third most active angel investment group and one of the largest in the U.S.); the CEO of publicly traded Medical Discoveries; and she served on the faculty of Goldman Sachs’s 10,000 Small Businesses program. She consults internationally with businesses looking for U.S. investors.
Today, Judy offers a proven framework for taking action to get funding for your vision. As you’ll hear, there is no lack of funding available, but you must in the right room, connect with the right people, and know the rules in order to play the game.
Highlights from this Episode:
- What are the biggest fears that entrepreneurs have when trying to get funding and how they can reframe their mindsets around this [5:28]
- Where to start with your funding pitch and what absolutely has to be included in it [8:06]
- At what point in your business’s life should you be starting to seek investment [10:04]
- Why Judy wrote her latest book and how it can help startups get prepared to get funding [12:09]
- The biggest mistakes she sees entrepreneurs making and the prejudices that women face getting capital [14:54]
- How to find angel investors and early-stage venture capitalists [15:56]
- The 3 “C’” of what investors want from you [18:04]
- How the entrepreneurial mindset differs from the corporate one, and why Judy has always gravitated towards being an entrepreneur [19:36]
- The reasons why relationship building is critical [21:31]
- The way Judy personally evaluates an entrepreneurs’ pitch to her [23:39]
- Who you’ll want to surround yourself with to help you reach your visions [27:46]
For More Information:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/judyrobinett
https://twitter.com/judyrobinett
Resources Mentioned:
Judy’s New Book, Crack the Funding Code: How Investors Think and What They Need to Hear to Fund Your Startup (with bonuses)
Kathy’s Forbes Blog with Judy, How To Avoid The Three Worst Blunders Entrepreneurs Make In Pitching Investors
She Means Business Documentary
QUOTES:
“Realize what the investors need is a great deal, so their big problem, you can solve it.” [5:44]
“Switch your mindset and understand that you’re bringing an opportunity that they need. Focus on that.” [6:41]
“There’s no lack of money, but it’s really important how you position yourself, and you can make luck happen.” [17:43]
“The truth is you have to build relationships. People have to know, like, and trust you before they’ll fund you.” [21:33]
“Just learn to add value. Make an introduction, recommend a book, send an article, and show people you care. All of us need to be cared about.” [33:40]
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Episode 59: 11 Essential Shifts Every Leader Must Embrace, with John C. Maxwell
“I began to realize I couldn’t make a difference by myself, and that if I was going to make a difference, I had to shift the light off of me and onto the people. Leadership was not about me, leadership was about the people.” – John C. Maxwell
What makes someone a truly great leader, and is great leadership something that anybody can engage in? Today’s inspiring Finding Brave expert guest answers these important questions and unpacks the essential shifts every leader must undergo if they are to thrive and lead effectively in our new world. Each one requires leaders to change the way they think, act, and lead, so they can succeed in a world that never remains the same.
Our guest today is internationally recognized leadership author, coach, and speaker John C. Maxwell. A New York Times best-selling author with over 30 million books sold, John has trained over six million leaders from every country in the world. He’s the founder of The John Maxwell Company, The John Maxwell Team, EQUIP, and the John Maxwell Leadership Foundation and he’s a recipient of the Mother Teresa Prize for Global Peace and Leadership. Every year he speaks to the world’s top leaders from presidents to Fortune 500 executives. He’s been recognized as the #1 leader in business by the American Management Association, and his latest book, Leadershift: 11 Essential Changes Every Leader Must Embrace, is not to be missed.
In this episode, John shares his strategies for key shifts such as the Relational Shift, Influence Shift, and Impact Shift, helping leaders stay nimble and ready to adapt, so they can survive and thrive.
John also shares fascinating personal information about how he got started many years ago in the work of leadership (it’s not what you would expect!), how he develops his many teaching frameworks, and the one most compelling reason he began sharing his leadership insights.
Highlights from this Episode:
- How John got started writing books and the way he comes up with the framework for each [5:37]
- When he truly felt like he had become a good writer [9:55]
- Why John wrote his latest book and what he believes that leaders must do now [12:47]
- What lessons he took from his early days as a pastor at a small church [16:02]
- Why it all begins with self-leadership and ways you can start developing yours [18:50]
- The greatest words that a leader can say to his or her people and what matters more than someone’s job title [20:07]
- What you can do if leadership may not come naturally to you [22:52]
- The one big shift that John made that changed everything for him [26:57]
- What he really wants his new book to do for all leaders [31:08]
For More Information:
https://www.facebook.com/JohnCMaxwell/
https://twitter.com/JohnCMaxwell
https://www.instagram.com/johncmaxwell/
Resources Mentioned:
John’s Latest Book, Leadershift: 11 Essential Changes Every Leader Must Embrace
His Other Books
Kathy’s Forbes Post, 9 Core Behaviors Of People Who Positively Impact The World
QUOTES:
“I always wanted to add value to people, and to make a difference.” [3:28]
“One of the things that frustrates me, is people see me now and they see the success. I look at them, and I say ‘I wish you could have seen me when I started,” because it would greatly encourage them.” [8:56]
“Consistency compounds. It’s not a sexy word, but I would say it’s the most underestimated word in the English language. Find something that you love, that adds value to people.” [10:13]
“Today if you’re going to lead, you’ve got to see before others see.” [13:31]
“What I discovered was that my heart will let me help people, but my leadership will let me help more people.” [16:46]
“I came to the conclusion that everything rises and falls on leadership. That’s why I’m in the leadership field so much. I’m passionate about adding value to leaders who get to multiply value.” [17:52]
“It begins with the inside of me. I want to teach people to be bigger on the inside than they are on the outside.” [19:24]
“In this fast-paced society, one of the things we have to do to be effective is do things that are not natural to us, so we can be effective.” [24:05]
“When I started asking questions, I started connecting with people. You have to find them before you can lead them.” [28:11]
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Episode 58: 5 Ways to Use Rejection To Fuel Your Success
“Now that I’m older, I truly think about it differently. Every single rejection you get, I have learned, if you listen and observe carefully without all the defensiveness and the ego getting hysterical, it can unlock amazing doors for you.” – Kathy Caprino
Rejection, both from others and from inner selves, is a common issue faced by the many thousands of women I have heard from and worked with. This is why in this episode of Finding Brave, I talk about the different aspects of rejection and how we can handle it in a way that fuels and expands our success.
How you handle rejection will directly determine the degree to which you can reach your goals. I recently posted an image with this quote on LinkedIn, and it’s resonated with many folks, with over 55,000 views and 1,100 likes in just a few days.
It may be hard to believe sometimes, but rejection can and will lead to amazing success if you approach it the right way. Today I share my own personal, and often painful, experiences around being rejected, and I share 5 positive lessons that rejection can offer that can fuel your success, rather than demoralize you.
As always, I would love to hear how this episode has resonated with you, and I welcome your suggestions for any future topics or interviewees that you’re interested in. Please reach out to me by email, or on social media via LinkedIn, or on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or Pinterest to say hello and share your ideas!
Highlights from this Episode:
- The ways I reacted to rejection when I was younger versus how I think about it today [5:25]
- How rejection can lead to making valuable changes to your idea, project, or product [8:35]
- Why the timing, and actually being ready for success, matters so much [13:54]
- The reason I’m such a fan of research regarding new products and programs, but why your friends shouldn’t be the ones you turn to for it [16:05]
- The way to approach feedback so that you’re not limiting your own success unintentionally [18:15]
- How you can begin to recognize how amazing you are and why this is necessary to live the best life you can [21:00]
- What to identify in order to share a more authentic self [23:46]
- How to know when “perfectionistic over-functioning” is holding you back [29:20]
Resources Mentioned:
Kathy’s Career Path Self-Assessment
Kathy’s Close Your Power Gaps private coaching program
Kathy’s article – 3 Key Steps to Moving from Self-Rejection Toward Self-Love
Kathy’s TEDx Talk “Time to Brave Up”
Kathy video and post:
What Is Feminism and Why Do So Many Men and Women Hate It
Kathy’s Forbes post: How Being Raised by a Narcissist Affects Your Self-Esteem
Kathy’s Forbes interview: What Selling Three Million Copies of ‘The Dance of Anger’ Has Taught Harriet Lerner
Kathy’s Forbes interview: What the Most Rejected Person in the World Can Teach About Triumph and Creating Work We Love featuring Daniel Seddiqui
Other helpful info:
Hands-on Breakthrough Coaching from Kathy
If you are longing to personally experience more power, confidence, authority, and self-esteem in your life and work, you can learn about my transformative 4-session Close Your Power Gap coaching program by clicking here.
And for Small Business owners, consultants and practitioners, check out my Breakthrough Coaching for Small Businesses.
QUOTES:
“I love to look at what the big challenges are so that we can address those with eyes wide open, and so that we can move forward faster, better, and easier.” [2:04]
“What I see in so many thousands of women that I hear from and work with is there’s a lot of self-rejection going on.” [3:03]
“10 years ago nobody cared about professional women’s challenges. That’s the difference 10 years can make.” [13:21]
“The Universe sometimes pushes back on an idea and makes you wait until it can come to fruition because the timing wasn’t right.” [13:43]
“Feedback, which can be rejection-oriented, can actually inform you, but you’re not going to hear it and you’re not going to understand it if you are too busy defending yourself and being angry at it.” [19:31]
“You’re not self-absorbed and you’re not narcissistic just because you love yourself.” [24:32]
“You will develop more self-love the more you put yourself out there.” [26:50]
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Episode 57: Helping Women Over 50 Keep Their Jobs (and Love Themselves), with Bonnie Marcus
“When we internalize these negative assumptions about ourselves as aging women and start to believe them, we belittle ourselves. We diminish ourselves, we hold ourselves back, and we become invisible.” – Bonnie Marcus
There are many challenges that people over 50 face in today’s society, but women of this age can especially feel diminished and dismissed in the workplace. Today’s guest shines a light on the ageist and sexist assumptions that do exist, and what happens when we internalize these assumptions and play small in our careers and in our lives.
Bonnie Marcus empowers professional women to own their talent and ambition and step into their full potential. Through her book, The Politics of Promotion (Wiley 2015), speaking, coaching and Forbes column, Bonnie helps women navigate the complexities of the workplace today to get ahead. She has done extensive research on women and ambition and co-authored a white paper on the topic.
A former CEO, Bonnie’s business experience started at the entry level. She learned the business skills and political savvy on the job that contributed to her success. Her latest project focuses on helping women over 50 keep their jobs. This book will expose the double whammy of ageism and sexism for women in the workplace and help women reject the ageist assumptions that keep them small and take away their power. She guides them to reconnect with their badass energy and write a new empowering story for themselves.
A certified executive coach, Forbes columnist, and popular keynote speaker, Bonnie has earned the recognition of being a Global Gurus Top 30 coach in the world 4 years in a row.
Bonnie offers not only valuable insight for women as they age on how to stay marketable and employed, but this conversation is also focused on empowering yourself by highlighting what you have already achieved and contributed in your career. Ultimately it’s up to you to define who you are, write a new story for yourself and most importantly, find brave each day while believing in it.
Highlights from this Episode:
- What ageism is to Bonnie, who it affects and in what ways [4:22]
- Common stereotypes about older people, especially women [5:33]
- The internal stories that older women are telling themselves [9:53]
- Shocking research about how men are viewed differently than women as they age and why this is happening [11:58]
- What women have to do to keep their jobs and love themselves, and what Bonnie means by “declare your ambition” [19:01]
- How to still be vibrant at work while honoring that fact that you may be slowing down in your professional life [25:40]
- The way that ageism puts people in boxes, and the first step to getting rid of the shame you may feel about your age [32:15]
- Outcomes that Bonnie is seeing from the uplifting women she works with [36:31]
- Why it all comes down to setting boundaries and stepping into your power [38:14]
For More Information:
https://womenssuccesscoaching.com/
https://bonniemarcusspeaking.com/
https://twitter.com/selfpromote
https://www.linkedin.com/in/bonniemarcus/
https://www.facebook.com/bonnie.marcus
Resources Mentioned:
Bonnie’s Forbes Column
Her Book, The Politics of Promotion (Wiley 2015)
Kathy’s Forbes Posts, The Top 6 Communication Challenges Professional Women Face, The 12 Hidden Crises Working Women Face & 7 Damaging Power Gaps That Keep Professionals From Thriving
Episode 4: Gender, Power and Relationships, and the Crushing Effects of Patriarchy, with Terry Real
QUOTES:
“Aging is just a scary thing for most people, but especially women, so I’m glad we’re talking about it today.” [3:02]
“We put people in categories based on their age, and then we make assumptions about them.” [4:57]
“A lot of these myths, unfortunately, work against us in the workplace because when companies believe these assumptions, it influences their hiring practices, their promotion practices and we suffer because of it.” [8:13]
“For women, aging is a double whammy, and the double whammy is the combination of sexism and ageism.” [11:16]
“It’s also important to continue to network, to build a cross-generational network and to perhaps mentor younger people.” [24:04]
“As we age, we put ourselves in a really small box. We become ashamed of our age and we retreat, and it’s all about finding your brave.” [31:21]
“It’s about holding onto the value that you have to contribute to your organization, offering to help people and putting yourself out there.” [37:31]
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Episode 56: 5 Ways To Live Fearlessly with Breakthrough and Purpose, with Jean Case
“Generally speaking, I think it’s at one level no different for men and women. If you’re in a comfortable place, sometimes it’s hard to be willing to become uncomfortable, but if you want to do great things, it’s going to take doing that through life.” – Jean Case
When setting out to investigate the core qualities of great entrepreneurs and changemakers, today’s Finding Brave guest discovered traits that they all had in common. You’ll hear how it isn’t wealth, privilege or even genius, but rather how they choose to make a “big bet,” take bold risks, learn from their failures, reach beyond their bubbles, and let urgency conquer fear.
Jean Case, the Chairman of the National Geographic Society and CEO of the Case Foundation, is a philanthropist, investor, and internet and impact investing pioneer who advocates for the importance of embracing a more fearless approach to innovate and bring about transformational breakthroughs. She is the author of the new book, Be Fearless: 5 Principles for a Life of Breakthroughs and Purpose.
Her career in the private sector, including as a senior executive at AOL, spanned nearly two decades before co-founding the Case Foundation in 1997. Under her leadership, the Case Foundation has been recognized for its innovative efforts to address significant social challenges, harnessing the best impulses of entrepreneurship, innovation, technology, and collaboration to drive exponential impact.
In addition, Jean currently serves on the boards of National Geographic Partners, Accelerate Brain Cancer Cure (ABC2), the White House Historical Association and BrainScope Company, Inc. as well as on the advisory boards of the Brain Trust Accelerator Fund, Stanford Center on Philanthropy and Civil Society and Georgetown University’s Beeck Center for Social Impact and Innovation.
What Jean shares today demonstrates that all of us can do extraordinary things. It really just takes understanding that action and commitment are key as is starting where you are and taking the small, empowering steps that will lead you towards the realization of your big idea.
Highlights from this Episode:
- What often stops people from pursuing their ideas and a big myth that Jean tackles in her book [4:04]
- Why giving back means so much to her personally [7:06]
- How Jean decides where to donate her time and energy, with so many worthy causes available [9:07]
- A major development in her own career path that changed the trajectory of her life [10:54]
- What we can do to make failure matter, and a personal example from Jean [12:32]
- Her pillars of living a fearless life [16:52]
- What are the true consequences of not taking risks [20:04]
- A powerful case study of how someone she knows is conquering fear using urgency [22:07]
- Jean’s practical tips for getting resources to fun your big idea that will help others [25:09]
- How she’s been able to increase her own confidence [27:03]
- Ways you can reframe, and even embrace, failure [31:10]
For More Information:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/jean-case-bb31725/
https://www.facebook.com/jeancase
https://www.instagram.com/jeancasecf/
Resources Mentioned:
Jean’s New Book, Be Fearless: 5 Principles for a Life of Breakthroughs and Purpose
Her Blog Post, The Painful Acknowledgment of Coming Up Short
Kathy’s Forbes Post, Critical Gender Differences In Americans’ Top Career Regrets
37: What Is Heaven On Earth To You and Can You Have It?, with Martin Rutte
Oprah Winfrey’s Harvard Commencement Speech
QUOTES:
“People have great ideas about how to make a better world, but often what they’re lacking is sort of a framework for how to get started.” [4:04]
“It is not the lack of fear, but the ability to stare fear in the eye and push past it.” [5:26]
“I was truly a recipient of the generosity of others, both of their time and of their resources.” [7:34]
“We all have to figure out what we are uniquely good at and what are the implications of that in terms of the things that we choose to do.” [10:07]
“In each one of those roles, I just kept pursuing the next opportunity that would let me do more to empower others.” [12:04]
“So I think as individuals, if we can embrace the new path we’re going to set out on, it’s experimenting and we’ll get some things right but we’re not going to be stopped by the few failures we might have along the way.” [15:16]
“What is the risk of not taking the risk, and how will you feel down the line if you passed on a big opportunity?” [20:26]
“The facts are that nothing great comes from [being in] the comfort zone.” [21:13]
“Start right where you are. All of us have something we can bring to get started on making a difference or finding a breakthrough.” [23:24]
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