Episode 136: How to Know When You Have a Book Inside of You and How to Start, with Bruce Gelfand

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“We’re talking about a marriage with that part of yourself that has a voice, that wants to be heard, and that has a story to tell. It doesn’t matter what anybody else thinks about it. If you have a story to tell and you have a voice, and you want to tell it, then you can write that book.” – Bruce Gelfand 

So many women and men I hear from have something they so long to share with others in writing. Whatever your walk of life or professional focus, it’s important to understand that you have a voice that is worthy of being heard and shared, and it’s important to give yourself permission to share it. Today’s Finding Brave guest is a wonderful writing coach I’ve worked with personally to help me hone the ability to excavate my own authentic voice, and find the courage (and give myself permission) to share my core messages with the world.   

Bruce Gelfand is a writer, teacher and writing coach based in Santa Monica. He has taught hundreds of writing workshops and seminars in venues around the world, and has worked with thousands of writing students – from masters in the field to absolute beginners. His private coaching clients include CEOs, corporate trainers, Academy and Emmy-Award winning writers, directors, actors, and leaders in the worlds of politics, health, and spirituality.

As a writer, Bruce has over 30 years experience in theater, film, television, and publishing in both New York and Hollywood. His plays have won national playwriting awards, been produced Off-Broadway and in theaters around the country.

He has written numerous feature films and movies-for-television, as well as writing and directing the feature-length documentary, “The Family Safe”. He is also a writer of fiction, non-fiction, songs, and award-winning poetry. His book, Brighter the Light, Deeper the Shadow was published in 2004.

He has launched a new program for writers – A Writers’ Hour – which is an inspirational program to writers of all levels around the world.

In this episode, Bruce shares his best advice for pursuing your next writing project, whether it be an article, blog, book, memoir or screenplay. As Bruce reveals, your life is a better one and the world is a better place when you share the distinctive voice that is inside of you.  

Highlights from this Episode:

  • How to know if we have a book or writing project living inside of us [5:11]

  • The way that Bruce’s own journey as a writer began at a very young age, and his pursuit of the “voice” he heard inside himself so many years ago [8:09]

  • Why we have significant power to write when we are tapping into the genius of the human experience and trusting in the process [12:21]

  • The role that hope and faith will play as you write [16:15]

  • Bruce’s practical approach to writing and the very first steps he has the people he works with take before beginning to write [23:28]

  • Why he doesn’t like the word “discipline” – and what he prefers to use instead [26:21]

  • Whether or not Bruce believes that anyone can be a good writer [29:49]

  • The most common mistakes he sees that writers need to stop making [34:03]

  • How someone with writer’s block can overcome hesitations and challenges [37:11]

  • The magic that can happen when you suspend belief and just begin writing [42:04]

For More Information:

http://brucegelfand.com/

bruce@brucegelfand.com 

Bruce’s new program from writers – A Writers’ Hour

Resources Mentioned: 

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Other Resources Mentioned:

Bruce’s Online Writing Classes

His Book, Brighter the Light, Deeper the Shadow : Voices from the Writing Workshops of Bruce Gelfand

Episode 106: Turning Our Creativity Into a Leadership Force, with Laverne McKinnon

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QUOTES: 

“I think everybody’s voice is as distinct as their fingerprint, and as distinct as their soulprint. I feel that the world is less without it.” [5:30]

“Voice is just spirit and language.” [5:49]

“One of the things I like to say when people ask me what I do, is that I dance people into the mystery of their own voice.” [11:39]

“Whatever shows up is exactly right to have shown up. You write from that place and you trust it. It may not take you where you want to go, but it will take you where you need to go.” [18:31]

“When you’re a beginner and you’re starting with a blank slate, nothing can be as terrifying and nothing can be as thrilling. Everything is possible with a blank piece of paper, and it’s like taking a first breath.” [20:45]

“I think everybody can be a writer, and everybody can be a good writer, and I think very few people can be a great writer.” [27:48]

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How To Effectively Manage Your Job Search During The Coronavirus Pandemic

Part of the series “Supporting Today’s Workforce”

In the best of times, job search can be very daunting and confusing to many. But in extremely uncertain and rapidly evolving times like these, professionals can feel at a complete loss as to how to move forward in their efforts to job search, interview, network, communicate a compelling personal brand and land a great new role.

To delve deeper into the do’s and don’ts of job search during the coronavirus pandemic, I caught up with Lisa Hufford today, who is founder and CEO of Simplicity Consulting—the Pacific Northwest’s preferred marketing and business consultancy for the new world of work. Simplicity has been named to the Inc. 5000 list for five years running as one of the fastest-growing private companies in America, and Hufford has been recognized as an Inc. Top 10 Female Entrepreneur and an E&Y Entrepreneurial Winning Woman. She’s a champion for professionals transitioning to consulting and advises companies how to build on-demand, project-based teams that add immediate value.

Hufford is also the author of Navigating the Talent Shift: How to Build On-Demand Teams That Drive Innovation, Control Costs, and Get Results, which advises leaders on how to access top talent and fill skills gaps with on-demand, project-based experts to supplement their teams, and Personal Brand Playbookwhich outlines five actionable steps to define and share your personal brand. She’s currently writing her third book—an inspiring how-to guide for professionals looking to make the leap from corporate to consulting.

Here’s what Hufford shares about best practices in these times for your job search process:

Kathy Caprino: Are organizations still hiring during this crisis? If so, what fields and industries?

Lisa Hufford: Though it varies by location and industry, there are companies that are still hiring right now. Look for those companies that are uniquely positioned to add value in our new normal environment. Tech companies are largely well-equipped to transition their workforce to remote roles and are trying to maintain business as usual.

Tableau Software, for example, is actively hiring globally. There are also a number of roles that have surged in demand due to this health crisis—ranging from CPA or store associate to healthcare specialist or warehouse manager. Amazon, for example, has seen a huge demand spike and is hiring as a result. At Simplicity, we’ve seen an influx in communications roles as companies work to keep their employees, customers, and constituents informed in this rapidly-evolving pandemic and a focus on virtual events.

Caprino: How can people best handle a job search right now if they’re employed but want out of their current job?

Hufford: Let me challenge this by asking, are you sure you want to leave your job? Take some time to reflect on your strengths and the successes you want to achieve, and then ask yourself if you can create that where you are. Every job has its pros and cons, so before walking away in the hopes that the grass is greener somewhere else—and in the midst of economic uncertainty, no less!—see if you can make your current role more fulfilling. Whether it’s working with your manager to carve out time for a project that lights you up or mentally connecting elements of your role with your personal values, there are usually opportunities to shape your role (or your perspective) in small, but meaningful ways.

Caprino: What about those who are currently unemployed and it’s urgent for them to find employment—how do they handle the job search process now?

Hufford: My advice for finding a job is the same as it always has been: Take intentional action.

First, you need to define your personal brand and tell your story, framed by your past successes, on your LinkedIn profile. There’s a lot of noise right now, so showcase your strengths and passion with clarity and laser focus, so that you stand out to the right hiring manager.

Then, put on your detective hat, and do your research. Discover what companies are hiring for your skills. Use LinkedIn to learn who is working at these companies and reach out to schedule 15-minute chats with warm contacts to learn more about the work they do and the company they work for. Keep in mind: You are not asking for a job or an interview! You are collecting information to learn if the company and the role are a fit.

Set goals for yourself about how many reach outs you will do each day. If your situation is urgent, then consider this is your full-time job. While you can submit your resume blindly to jobs, this has been proven to be the least effective approach, so I encourage you to focus your energies on connecting with your network.

And be mindful that organizations are operating in business-as-unusual. Yes, they’re working remotely and keeping business-critical operations running. But they’re also adjusting to this abrupt new normal and working hard to put out fires and keep their people, clients, and partners informed. And, like you, they’re also bearing the mental load of this current environment. So recognize that things might move slower than usual, and acknowledge that the people you’re reaching out to likely have less bandwidth right now.

Caprino: How can we build our personal brands and get more noticed, for when the job market does open up?

Hufford: If you are an experienced professional, you already have a personal brand—you just need to articulate it. My Personal Brand Playbook guides you through five simple steps to defining and sharing your unique personal brand. I recommend starting there: You can access the Playbook here (free download) or watch the on-demand workshop.

Once you’ve defined your brand, it’s critical to tell a consistent brand story—from your LinkedIn headline to your profile bio, that’s echoed in your resume, website or portfolio, cover letters, introductory emails, and so on. At every touch point, tell the story of who you are and why you do the work you do with confidence and credibility.

Caprino: How can we best demonstrate our value now to organizations that we’d eventually like to work for?

Hufford: LinkedIn is a powerful tool for learning and building your network.

Focus on developing relationships with people at organizations you’re interested in working for, and once those relationships are established, express your interest in working and ask them to pass along full-time positions or contract roles that open up.

That second piece is important: When teams lack open headcount, they may allocate funds to hire a consultant on a project, so make yourself available to all options—not just traditional full-time employment.

Caprino: Any other powerful tips and strategies for job seekers right now?

Hufford: You have options. In addition to traditional full-time employment positions, many companies have a large community of suppliers who work on project-based contracts. Find out who the agencies, staffing companies, and consultancies are in your city, and contact the recruiters. You can often find work for large companies as a contractor or consultant. It’s a great way to learn more about the company, gain skills and expertise, and build your network. It’s also typically a much quicker hiring cycle—days or weeks as opposed to the months that it can take for a full-time position.

Last but not least, keep a positive attitude and keep moving forward. Gamify the process and try to get through as many “no’s” as you can until you get to a “yes.” I believe there is a great job for each person, and it’s up to each of us to define the work we want to do, showcase the business impact of our work, and keep searching for that hiring manager who says “YOU are the perfect fit for this role.”

This is a season, and we will get through this together.

For more information, visit www.simplicityci.com and connect with Lisa Hufford.

To build a better, more rewarding career today, work with Kathy Caprino in her Career Breakthrough Programs and tune into her weekly Finding Brave podcast.


Episode 135: 5 Shifts In Agility That Will Help You Lead In Times of Disruption, with Henna Inam

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“This disruption in particular that we’re faced with is an enormous opportunity for each of us to step into a very powerful mission that inspires us, so that we can be a force for good. In fact, that is actually the key to help us thrive.” – Henna Inam 

If there is one thing we can be certain about right now, it’s that disruption is here to stay and we must evolve as individuals, as well as collectively, if we’re to thrive. The good news is that we absolutely can do this, and today’s Finding Brave guest explains the five key challenges of leading in times of disruption, and the shifts in agility that will allow us to thrive, grow and succeed in the future workplace. 

Henna Inam is an executive coach, global speaker and the author of the book, Wired for Disruption: The Five Shifts in Agility to Lead in the Future of Work. A 20-year veteran of Fortune 500 companies she has seen first-hand the pressures of leading in times of disruption. Her book details the five shifts in agility and 15 Agility Accelerators (tools and practices) to help activate our innate agility and be a force for good in times of disruption. Her neuroscience-based research shows that agility is already built into our DNA. In her book, she shares how these shifts are within our control and how they promote well-being to help us reach our highest and best in the future of work.

Henna’s insights and perspectives are uplifting, as she shares her unique leadership perspective that demonstrates how each of us can take the reins on our own lives and reshape our leadership approach so we can more successfully lead our own lives as well as our ventures, teams and projects, to greater heights. 

Highlights from this Episode:

  • Why Henna feels that leadership needs to be redefined in the times we now live in [5:26]

  • What it really means to be a “disruptor” in 2020, plus the enormous opportunities that await each of us right now [9:02]

  • How agility will help us overcome our challenges as leaders, and the 5 key challenges Henna feels we will face [12:22]

  • The ways that organizations are shifting their structures as a result of the current disruption [21:02]

  • What are the two main elements of trust, and some tools she recommends for building trust agility [22:02]

  • What Henna sees is holding people back from establishing the necessary growth-oriented agility practices [26:47]

  • The only true way we will ever thrive as individuals and as a society [33:52]

  • How Henna’s book will help each person who reads it, her powerful life’s mission, and more [34:32]

For More Information:

https://transformleaders.tv/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/hennainam/

https://twitter.com/hennainam

https://www.facebook.com/henna.inam

Resources Mentioned: 

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Other Resources Mentioned:

Henna’s Latest Book, Wired for Disruption: The Five Shifts in Agility to Lead in the Future of Work & First Book, Wired for Authenticity: Seven Practices to Inspire, Adapt, & Lead

Her Free Agility Quiz & Mindfulness Course 

Next TEDx Centennial Part Women Event (August 6th, 2020) 

Kathy’s Blog Post, Why There Are So Many Inept Managers In Business Today And What To Do About It

Kathy’s First Book, Breakdown, Breakthrough: The Professional Woman’s Guide to Claiming a Life of Passion, Power, and Purpose

Kathy’s Amazing Career Project 

Sign Up For Kathy’s LinkedIn Newsletter, The Finding Brave Circle

Her Power Gaps Survey & TEDx Talk, Time To Brave Up 

Kathy’s FREE Career Path Self-Assessment Survey

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QUOTES: 

“Our world really needs us to be leaders, regardless of where we are in the organizational hierarchy.” [6:33]

“Our job as leaders, as a community of 8 billion human beings is to figure out our new role in the disruption. How can you not just be a victim of it, but how can you use this energy of disruption to create positive change?” [11:44]

“We’re living in an increasingly unpredictable world, and this unpredictable world requires what I have called learning agility, which is the ability to most importantly unlearn and then relearn.” [16:09]

“We live in times where we have collective problems to solve that no one individual, government or organization can solve for us.” [26:16]

“The only way for us to thrive is to connect with the empathetic, neural networks in our brain, which is the part of us that feels more connected, curious and creative.” [33:52]

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How Women Leaders Are Rising To The Unique Challenges They’re Facing From The Pandemic

Part of Kathy Caprino’s series “Women, Leadership and Vision”

While the impact of the global pandemic is far-reaching and hitting millions of people throughout the U.S. in different ways, research has shown that women are more likely than men to say their lives have been disrupted because of the coronavirus. And the long-term effects of Covid-19 on women may be more complicated. Unemployment has hit women harder than men, and women in leadership roles are also facing distinct and often acute challenges such as balancing full-time work with full-time caregiving, providing care for their elderly parents, homeschooling, financially supporting their families as breadwinners, and more.

To learn more about how female leaders are feeling the impact of the pandemic and how they are expanding their leadership influence today and beyond, I was excited to catch up this week with Carolyn Childers, CEO of Chief—the private network dedicated to elevating more women to leadership positions, with 2,000 members and 8,000 on the waitlist. Chief members are women that serve in a VP role (or higher) at companies like Amazon, American Express, Google, HBO, and Spotify. A number of my own leadership and executive coaching clients are members of Chief and work with other Chief members, and rave about it.

Childers explored with me a range of unique challenges that women leaders are facing during this time of crisis, and also the opportunities it presents. Here’s what she shares:

Kathy Caprino: From your perspective, in what unique ways are women impacted by coronavirus, as compared to men?

Carolyn Childers: Coronavirus, like many public health crises, hits women particularly hard and often in different ways from men. While early studies have shown that men are at higher risk to die from Covid-19, women are disproportionately affected by its societal implications. Worldwide, women comprise the majority (nearly 70% by some estimates) of frontline healthcare workers; in the US, that figure is nearly 80%.

These nurse practitioners are the front line workers caring for those hospitalized due to Covid-19. Without women in leadership roles, healthcare and policy solutions will not be representative of the workforce tasked with combating the pandemic. And when healthcare and policy solutions are not representative, they fail.

As women are less likely to hold executive roles, they are more likely to be impacted by layoffs. The data already suggests that women are being hit hardest by Covid-19 staff reductions. Women also comprise the world’s majority of informal workers and are more likely to sacrifice their jobs (either voluntarily or by force) should one partner in a couple get sick with the disease.

Caprino: What are the most profound ways in which women leaders’ professional lives are changing as a result of this quarantine?

Childers: Women have always managed a tremendous amount of invisible labor—whether it’s caring for their children, partners, elderly parents, friends, or maintaining the stability of their own household.

While women hold more executive roles now than ever before, the expectation that they should be able to “juggle it all” remains. This expectation was crazy prior to the pandemic, but now it is simply impossible.

For many working parents, caring for their children and households while sustaining employment depends upon external care—or at least school. Women are now expected to be full-time parents, caregivers, homeschool teachers, and housekeepers—all while excelling in their full-time jobs (and, in the case of Chief members, leading their businesses through unprecedented challenge). As a result, their professional lives are more challenging now than ever.

To survive this period, women need support. My Chief cofounder Lindsay Kaplan is an example of someone whose life has changed drastically as a result of stay-at-home orders. Lindsay has a three-month-old and a four-year-old at home. She balances leading Chief with me while managing a full load as a stay-at-home mom.

She is tasked with handling childcare while working to expand Chief as we look towards future cities, Los Angeles among them. Lindsay and I are fortunate to have a relationship where we are honest with each other and have built a team that allows us the flexibility to bypass certain meetings, knowing that our team will provide a detailed update following their call.

Other women leaders are not as fortunate. They may not have a cofounder, team, manager or leader who understands their specific needs. It can be lonely at the top, and those women are now alone in quarantine, away from their teams and support systems. We need to recognize these challenges and step up to help working parents.

Caprino: As a business devoted to supporting women executives, what specific initiatives is Chief pursuing to provide customized support to your members—all of whom are senior leaders?

Childers: Chief was built for this moment—to unite women executives and provide them with the diverse knowledge and support they need to make challenging business decisions. Our mission is resonating more powerfully now than ever as members help one another craft unprecedented business strategies, navigate difficult home situations, and share invaluable resources.

As an organization, our top priority is curating our services to our members’ needs. In just a few weeks, we moved all of our services to virtual, including our premiere peer Core groups. All of our programming is also now virtual, and we are offering more events than ever, including workshops on topics such as wealth management during times of crisis, motivating remote teams, how to lead through immense uncertainty, and private conversations with industry leaders like Ken Chenault, Penny Pritzker, and Eve Rodsky.

In April, our first fully virtual month, the number of women who participated in events was triple what we saw pre-Coronavirus.

We are also amplifying the Chief experience by fast-tracking new services. We launched personal executive coaching so that members can book one-on-one sessions with top-tier, Chief-vetted coaches. We also offered every member one complimentary personal executive coaching session, since everyone needs some extra support right now. We also created our first editorial email, delivering exclusive, reported articles and interviews directly to our members’ inboxes every week.

This content helps connect our community as we’re all physically distanced. Finally, this week we launched the Chief Hiring Board, where members can privately list top candidates and job openings to bolster their teams and explore new opportunities amidst this challenging professional landscape.

Caprino: In your view, what makes women uniquely qualified to lead at large, but especially during this crisis?

Childers: There is a single trait underscoring women’s unique qualification to lead: empathy. Defined as the ability to understand or share another person’s feelings, empathy is exactly why representation in leadership matters—especially in times of crisis. When employees feel supported and are seen by their leaders, they’re twice as likely to be productive and satisfied by their jobs.

From childhood on, women are socialized to be more empathetic than men. To succeed, we need to overcome challenges that are both different and difficult. Once we secure leadership positions, it’s impossible to forget our scars, or the women whose support enabled our rise to such leadership. We lead for them because in many ways, we are them. Our empathy empowers our teams to do more, stay committed and focused.

When leaders understand the difficulty of working from home while self-isolating with children, they can craft policies that support working parents. When they understand firsthand how families can rely on a single person, they don’t question colleagues who need to sign off early for “family matters.” And, when they’ve experienced the immense anxiety that comes along with pregnancy before a pandemic, they’ll remember to regularly check in on their colleague who’s in her third trimester.

Empathy is the antonym of ego, and without it, decisions cannot be made for the greater good. In this highly uncertain time, empathy is one of the few things leaders have control over. When we feel for others we welcome diverse perspectives, our blinders are removed, and we are able to make informed decisions rather than operating in silos. Empathy is emotional intelligence and awareness, and women have those in spades.

Caprino: As a business, Chief is anchored in gathering in-person as a community. How is your community evolving and strengthening despite becoming fully virtual/remote?

Childers: We have always said that we are a community that happens to have a space, not a space that a community is built around. This is so evident right now. The Chief community is truly stronger than ever. Whether they’re crowdsourcing advice via our messaging platform, gathering at virtual Chief events, or calling one for private conversations, Chief members are connecting on a deeply personal and strategic level.

Having access to the nation’s largest and most diverse network of C-suite women is valuable when your business is doing well, but it’s a complete game-changer when you’re facing a global pandemic. There is no coronavirus playbook, but at Chief, members are helping one another write the future real-time.

Each member is contributing her individual expertise—be it financial, organizational, operational, strategic, legal, or relational—and together, the Chief network is ensuring that no leader feels alone, or without a plan.

Whether gathering for a late-night venting session or navigating exceptionally difficult reductions in force, our members are there for each other now more than ever. We could not be more proud to facilitate these relationships. While we thrived when we had a space, this experience proves that our community doesn’t need to be together physically to make an impact.

Overall, this is a powerful time for women in leadership to make lasting change from the top down. Women in leadership have the opportunity to change policies that once ignored the challenges women at all levels faced.

For more information, visit chief.com.

To build more expansive leadership in your career, work with Kathy Caprino in her Career Breakthrough programs and read her new book The Most Powerful You: 7 Bravery-Boosting Paths to Career Bliss.


5 Shifts That Can Help You Expand Financial Well-Being And Happiness

recent study found that happiness among Americans has dipped to its lowest point in half a century. It’s no surprise since 2020 has packed a punch for many of us. There has been upheaval and uncertainty in nearly all aspects of our lives.

But in my work as a career and leadership coach, I see every day that there are two potent ingredients to living a happier, more successful and rewarding life even amidst uncertain times, and those are expanded bravery and power. According to my research and my recent Power Gaps Survey, 98% of professional women are facing at least one of the 7 damaging power gaps that keep us from thriving at our highest level in our work. The research has shown that when we expand our bravery—which in my view is the courage to address what isn’t working and take accountability for what you can change—and when we consciously and intentionally build more internal and external power to become a true change agent for ourselves and for others—then happiness and other aspects of our well-being and success (financial, emotional, physical, spiritual, etc.) expand as well.

To learn more about how mindset can directly impact our financial well-being and happiness, I caught up this week with Michelle Gielan. Gielan has spent the past decade researching the link between happiness and success. She is the bestselling author of Broadcasting Happiness: The Science of Igniting and Sustaining Positive Change and was named one of the Top 10 authors on resilience by the Harvard Business Review.

Gielan began analyzing data on individual and collective happiness at the University of Pennsylvania more than a decade ago, and has since worked with professionals at organizations including Google, Merck, and NASA on how to strengthen a resilient mindset in the midst of challenges. Her research shows higher levels of optimism and resilience are connected with better health and business outcomes, including greater energy, productivity, and profitability, as well as better financial health, according to recent research Gielan conducted with Frost Bank.

To learn more about how key shifts in our mindset can improve your financial well-being and happiness, I spoke with Gielan about what we can all do in the midst of continued, unprecedented uncertainty, to achieve more peace and happiness.

Here’s what Gielan shared:

Kathy Caprino: Michelle, you and I met soon after you had left your job at CBS News as the host of the CBS Morning News. During your time there, one of the biggest stories you covered was the Great Recession. Now we are seeing a similar economic downturn, which is surely contributing to our overall unhappiness. Money is on everyone’s mind. A new study you conducted can give those who are worried about finances some relief from financial stress during this time. What did you find?

Michelle Gielan: Too many of us have been bottling up our stresses about money alone. In a previous study I did in partnership with Frost Bank, we found that pessimists stress about their finances 145 more days each year—that’s almost 5 months!

This year, we conducted research to understand how we can leverage key behaviors of optimists to help people improve their financial discussions. Our study found those who talk about money (largely optimists) are twice as likely to have better financial health. We also found that while nearly all optimists (94%) talk about their finances at some point in their lives, pessimists are 3 times more likely than optimists to never discuss their finances. Pessimists think the conversations are unhelpful, and they often feel upset, dumb, ashamed, judged and guilty. That follows right along with our definition of optimism and pessimism. Optimists expect good things to happen and believe that their behavior matters, including having conversations about money.

Caprino: While the study identified roadblocks for pessimists, it also found actions of optimists that can help overcome challenges. Is that right?

Gielan: That’s absolutely right. While pessimists tend to get caught up in challenges of their current situation, optimists put one foot in front of the other and work toward their goals. For example, in the Frost study, optimists gave us a picture of their ideal conversation: short and sweet, aspirational and complete with goals, and with people we trust.

Optimists are also two and a half times less likely to monopolize a conversation, opting instead for more open-ended and inclusive conversations. Leaving room for others to share their perspective allows for productive financial conversations and approaching conversations with optimism encourages people to turn challenges into opportunities. This applies to other conversations and aspects of our personal well-being, beyond money.

Caprino: This is good to know, as money is clearly not the only stressor Americans are facing these days. Tell us about another study mentioned that found happiness at its lowest levels in 50 years. While that’s not necessarily surprising amid the pandemic, you say it points to something even more important?

Gielan: It does. The study found only 14% of Americans consider themselves “very happy,” which is less than half of what it was in 2018. Happiness being low now is to be expected, but this is not a trend that started in February. We have witnessed a steady decline in happiness for decades, even during times of financial prosperity and less political strife. I am concerned we are going to collectively keep trending in this direction, even when the pandemic is over.

Caprino: If it’s not the pandemic alone that has been the cause, in your research what have you found to be the main thieves of joy?

Gielan: The answer to that is far from simple. In our work with professionals at hundreds of organizations, we’ve found it to be a combination of a handful of reasons including negativity on social media, longer work hours , social isolation and loneliness, overscheduled kids, leaving vacation days on the table, and not enough time for meaningful social connection. I know for my own life, when I am running around too much, hurrying from one activity or project to the next, days are a blur at best.

Caprino: One thing I find very interesting is that there are many people in the midst of this pandemic (including many of my clients and course members) who indicate that they’re very or somewhat happy right now, and that can be an uncomfortable place to find oneself, especially when others are suffering. They’ve discussed how the shifts they’ve experienced because of sheltering at home and working remotely have yielded some true positives in their lives, but they’re very careful in sharing that with friends and try to be sensitive to what other people are experiencing as so many families are suffering right now. How do we hold both of those truths at the same time?

Gielan: What you’re describing is what some people have admitted to me almost like they are telling me a dirty little secret, and I totally get it. Even if life is not perfect, there have been these beautiful moments during this period of time. I’ve experienced a lot of them myself. I became a teacher to our 6-year-old son basically overnight—which was not always easy—but it brought with it all these blessings. We set up “Hogwarts Academy” to bring him the magic of the world, complete with a gratitude practice first thing in the morning.

I got to know a new dimension of my child and see the world through his eyes. It’s hard to reconcile that joy with news of suffering from hospital wards and in families around the world. When I feel that tension, I think to myself, how can I leverage this positive mindset to help others? Negative news tricks your brain into paralysis and overwhelm as you start to believe behavior doesn’t matter. Taking action reminds us we have control over the world in some ways, and we can make a difference.

Caprino: So with people struggling very hard today—to balance what’s on their plates, deal with their financial and job worries and the uncertainty of so much—when is it appropriate to start talking about happiness more openly, especially at work?

Gielan: I say right now. Leaders not having those conversations are fiscally irresponsible. My husband and fellow happiness researcher Shawn Achor and I just shared a case study in Harvard Business Review on our work with an organization that prioritizes happiness. Genesis Healthcare, alongside our partner training organization ITLN, implemented work routines that created happiness, fueled connection and encouraged positive expressivity at work. Following the implementation of these new interventions, Genesis Medical Center-Davenport achieved profitability during the first part of 2019, moving from an operating loss of $2M to a profit of $8M.

Right now I am leading a happiness challenge with 30,000 college students in AT&T’s “Extern” program. It could sound like a “cute” idea to do with students before they hit the working world, but these are the kinds of tools that will scientifically prepare them for any bumps in the road ahead.

Caprino: It’s interesting how connected optimism, happiness and control are with one another. I talk about this in my upcoming book The Most Powerful You, but can you share more about what your research has revealed about how the more we take the reins and control what we can in our lives and work—especially now when it feels like things are a bit out of control—is a key to happiness? And can you offer a few key tips to help us grab those reins on our life and work?

Gielan: Absolutely! Here are five small steps you can take starting today:

Start a conversation: In a time when much is out of our control, we can control our thoughts and actions, and they’re proven to make a difference. While a pessimist might choose to navigate challenges alone, optimists tend to strike a conversation with the people they’re most comfortable talking to. For example, 67% of optimists are most comfortable talking to people around the same age or those with about the same amount of money as them.

Seek progress, not perfection: Don’t put pressure on yourself to be perfect, especially in today’s world. We’re all working toward individual goals, and the research I did with Frost shows that optimists take time to celebrate the small victories, leading up to major milestones.

Get aspirational: Optimists are more likely than pessimists to focus on setting and achieving goals. In fact, the Frost study found that when dealing with finances, 58% of optimists have conversations that are goal related and half believe going into a financial discussion with goals in mind makes them most productive. It’s important look beyond the current situation and work toward long-term aspirations.

Expect the unexpected: Optimists don’t anticipate bad things will happen, but they’re more likely to have a plan in place should the unexpected surface. Take the pandemic for instance. Optimists tend to have a rough plan in place, such as an emergency fund, that would help navigate the repercussions of an unexpected event.

Find perspective: Optimists are 2.5 times less likely to monopolize a conversation. Listening to the perspective of others allows a person to expand their mindset and learn from the success of others.

In the end, the happiest among us see the meaning in the work they do, feel connected to other people, and see potential each day to make things better—in whatever aspect of their lives. The more we exercise that control through small acts, the more we remind our brains that our behavior matters—the very definition of optimism. And the more optimism you cultivate for yourself, the more it expands.

For more information and to test your optimism, take Gielan’s scientifically validated Success Scale, and for ideas on how to improve your optimism, try the #optforoptimism challenge.

To take the reins on your career and build a happier, more rewarding one, read Kathy Caprino’s new book The Most Powerful You: 7 Bravery-Boosting Paths to Career Bliss.


Episode 134: Fix This Next In Your Business, with Mike Michalowicz

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“The biggest challenge business owners have is knowing what their biggest challenge is, so that became the thesis of the book. How do we figure out what our business really needs from us next?” – Mike Michalowicz

Whether you have a large or small business, often you can face times where you’re not scaling as quickly as you’d like. However It can be tricky to know what the main problem or problems could be, which is why I am so excited to have today’s Finding Brave expert on the show today to share his powerful knowledge of this issue. 

Mike Michalowicz is the author of Profit First, Clockwork, Surge, The Pumpkin Plan, and his newest release Fix This Next. By his 35th birthday, Mike had founded and sold two companies – one to private equity and another to a Fortune 500. Today he is running his third multi-million dollar venture, Profit First Professionals.

Mike is a former small business columnist for The Wall Street Journal and the former business makeover specialist on MSNBC. Over the years, Mike has traveled the globe speaking with thousands of entrepreneurs, and is here today to share the best of what he has learned.

In this episode, Mike reveals the importance of knowing and relying on what he refers to as a “business hierarchy of needs,” especially during challenging times, to identify the hidden problems in your business. Mike shares his simple yet very impactful framework for gaining clarity on what to fix next, as well as bringing it to a successful conclusion. 

Every time I interview Mike, I learn something truly instrumental to apply to my own business growth and I believe you will too.

Highlights from this Episode:

  • What Mike says is his life’s purpose and the ways he wants to help entrepreneurs [2:38]

  • How the challenges he’s faced, rather than the wins, have contributed more to what he’s learned [4:06]

  • What is the message and big takeaway for readers in his latest book [6:33]

  • The 5 levels of needs for a business, or his “business hierarchy of needs” and a case study of a company he’s worked with that used theirs to pivot successfully [9:11]

  • Why more sales isn’t the answer for entrepreneurs who believe they are “stuck” [13:28]

  • The probing questions to ask yourself to begin to uncover what needs fixing in your business [13:56]

  • Why profit is so important to every business, and the margin to aim for [15:22]

  • A common mistake most business owners make when money comes in, and what you should always do with the profit that you make [16:40]

  • Some additional things that hold many businesses back [21:21]

  • Ways you can come up with concepts and frameworks to increase you own thought leadership, as Mike has [23:56]

For More Information:

https://mikemichalowicz.com/

https://www.instagram.com/mikemichalowicz/

https://www.facebook.com/MikeMichalowiczFanPage/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/mikemichalowicz/

Resources Mentioned: 

Order my new book The Most Powerful You today!

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Subscribe to Kathy’s weekly newsletter at https://kathycaprino.com for book updates, free offers and giveaways, free webinar training, and more. And to discover if you are experiencing any of the 7 damaging power gaps today, take Kathy’s Power Gap Survey and find out!

Other Resources Mentioned:

Mike’s Latest Book, Fix This Next & Free Evaluation

His Other Books & Podcast

Cottonwood Coffee

Kathy’s Amazing Career Project 

Sign Up For Kathy’s LinkedIn Newsletter, The Finding Brave Circle

Her Power Gaps Survey & TEDx Talk, Time To Brave Up 

Kathy’s FREE Career Path Self-Assessment Survey

Become a Sponsor!

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QUOTES: 

“There was this undercurrent that women entrepreneurs were facing, so I started to speak to that community and they carried me on their shoulders to a much broader audience.” [5:48]

“Many people instinctively go to this response where more sales will cure everything, and it doesn’t.” [13:28]

“In many cases when a business has some degree of sales coming in, it’s actually a margin issue, which is part of profit.” [14:23]

“By looking at not just the immediate, but the mid-term and long-term, now we reflect holistically on the implications of a decision and we make much more thoughtful decisions.” [20:59]

“Most of us are making decisions based upon escaping crisis as opposed to pursuing improvement.” [20:09]

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Episode 133: Free Audio: Chapter 6 of The Most Powerful You: Losing Sight of Your Thrilling Dream

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“For those who’ve sold their soul for money, their professional lives can be extremely painful, crushing and in fact, unsustainable because they’ve unconsciously chosen to walk away from the exciting dreams for their lives that would bring fulfillment, internal reward and a sense of purpose.” – Kathy Caprino 

On this episode of Finding Brave I share the audio version of Chapter 6 of my new book, The Most Powerful You: 7 Bravery-Boosting Paths to Career Bliss, which launches this month. This chapter is very close to my heart, as it explores the damaging power gap of losing sight of your thrilling dream for your life, which I’ve lived through, and it can be a crushing experience. This is something that has not only impacted me, but countless others in the pursuit of “success” and “safety” in their careers and professional lives. 

Things will happen to each of us that derail our dreams, and often you’ll take a direction that you think is right for you, but it ends up being the wrong path. It’s a universal experience — that what we once believed was possible and desirable can change, and we have to change as a result. If you don’t want to wake up unhappy years from now, you have to accept this fact and realize that you alone are responsible for you how you respond to the life that’s before you, and to the challenges and hardships that you’ve faced. 

You alone have the power to shape your future, and now is the time to choose your own way in pursuit of the life you want to live and the mark you want to make in the world. 

Highlights from this Episode:

  • My real-life client Kendra’s powerful story about the stories she formed from an early age which caused her to not pursue her own thrilling dreams [7:56]

  • The one big mindset shift that has truly expanded her thinking since enrolling in my course [18:01]

  • A major realization Kendra has made about pursuing our dreams [26:04]

  • 4 common reasons why many professionals have turned their backs on themselves – and their dreams [28:51]

  • Who is  more susceptible to experiencing this particular power gap [36:04]

  • The reason why I feel that you don’t find your passion [37:38]

  • 3 fundamental steps to igniting passion from within [38:30]

  • What are the essential traits and characteristics for having a rewarding career or following your calling [45:35]

  • The internal exploration and external action to follow to get started towards pursuing your own thrilling dream [48:46]

For More Information:

https://kathycaprino.com/ 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathycaprino 

https://www.facebook.com/ElliaCommunications 

https://twitter.com/kathycaprino 

https://www.instagram.com/kathycaprino/ 

Resources Mentioned: 

Episode 129: Power Gap #6: Losing Sight of Your Most Thrilling Dream

Episode 121: How To Land Powerful Mentoring That Will Accelerate Your Success and Growth, with Dr. Ravi Gundlapalli 

Episode 64: How to Get Hired for Your Strengths, with Scott Anthony Barlow

Happen to Your Career Podcast, How Momentum and Mini Celebrations Left Kristy Sipping Wine for a Living

Episode 37: What Is Heaven On Earth To You and Can You Have It? with Martin Rutte

Michael Lewis’ Post, A Wall Street Job Can’t Match a Calling in Life

Kathy’s Blog Posts Which Will Make You Happiest — A Job Or A Calling? & The Wrong Kind of Help – 6 Traits of “Help” That Hurts 

Her SlideShare, 11 Ways to Uncover Your Passion 

 Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl

The Most Powerful You: 7 Bravery-Boosting Paths to Career Bliss Official Website (with Trailer)

Pre-order at https://kathycaprino.com/mostpowerfulyoubook to become the most powerful version of you and reach your highest, most thrilling potential.

Book Pre-Order Bonus #1:

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Book Pre-Order Bonus #2:

For all individuals who pre-order a copy before the pub date of July 28th, send me your receipt at info@kathycaprino.com to be entered in a drawing for a free 6-session Career Breakthrough Private Coaching program ($2,997 value). One winner will be selected. 

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Pre-order 10 copies and receive a FREE 30-minute career consultation on Zoom with Kathy ($250 value)! Order 10 copies of the book for your friends, colleagues or team before July 28th, and send us your receipt at info@kathycaprino.com. Our team will be back in touch to schedule your call!

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Her Power Gaps SurveyHer TEDx Talk, Time To Brave Up 

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For more about Kathy’s upcoming book The Most Powerful You: 7 Bravery-Boosting Paths To Career Bliss, check out Kathy’s weekly newsletter at https://kathycaprino.com for updates, free special offers and giveaways, contests, and more! Pre-orders are available now! And to discover if you are experiencing any of the 7 damaging power gaps today, take Kathy’s Power Gap Survey and find out!

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QUOTES: 

“When I was in the throes of my darkest period of my corporate career, I can honestly say that what was most painful to me was that I had unconsciously thrown away all my dreams for a thrilling and rewarding career.” [6:08]

“From the beginning, so many have pursued work that they ended up disliking intensely but said to themselves ‘At least it brings in great money.’” [29:26]

“There are some passions we have that might make us happier to pursue as hobbies rather than careers. It’s important to make the differentiation early on by ‘trying on’ the passion in any way you can, to see if it fits your life and your goals as a way to earn a living.” [33:24]

“Anyone who says you should unequivocally abandon your passion if you want to be ‘successful’ and earn a lot of money just doesn’t understand that you can have both if you do it wisely and when other critical pathways to success are in place.” [35:07]

“It’s only in the act of nurturing your own skills and talents and finding exciting ways to apply those talents towards outcomes that you truly care about that you will finally experience the internal safety and security you long for.” [37:18]

“If you want a rewarding career that ignites passion within you, first you need to get to know yourself much better than you do now.” [39:30]

“The key to a fulfilling career and life is to follow your authentic path, not somebody else’s. Figure out what that lights you up on the inside, and motivates you to be all you can be, and do it.” [46:53]

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Episode 132: Key Ways To Build Psychological Safety as a Leader, with Timothy Clark

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“So if you really want to incubate innovation, you cannot ignore the culture. You do so at your peril, because there is no way that you can ignore the culture. I understood that before, but not at the depth that I understand it today.” – Timothy Clark

As humans, we want to be included and to contribute, and psychological safety is an inborn human need. We want to challenge the status quo when we believe things need to change, all without fear of being embarrassed, punished, or marginalized. Unfortunately, when organizations quash psychological safety, fear reigns and people shut down. But as today’s Finding Brave expert guest reveals, when psychological safety is nurtured, there’s an explosion of confidence, innovation, and performance.

Timothy R. Clark is the founder and CEO of LeaderFactor, a leadership consulting and training organization that works with executive teams around the world. An Oxford-trained social scientist and sought-after international authority on organizational change, Dr. Clark is the author of five books on leadership, including his newest release, The 4 Stages of Psychological Safety: Defining the Path to Inclusion and Innovation.

In this episode Timothy shares how the absence of physical safety is fraught with peril, and that condition can inflict devastating emotional wounds, crater self-worth, and paralyze potential. The fact is, in today’s highly dynamic marketplace, organizations that lack psychological safety are actually galloping their way to extinction.

Highlights from this Episode:

  • What Timothy means when he says “it’s not expensive to be yourself” – and why this is such an important concept to understand [2:50]

  • How psychological safety differs for men and women, based on what he has seen [5:42]

  • What happens to the talent in an organization if it doesn’t provide psychological safety to all employees [6:55]

  • How we often justify superiority, and the way we can begin to dismantle this feeling by deconstructing certain biases [14:57]

  • The four stages of psychological safety [20:44]

  • The single biggest obstacle to innovation that all organizations must address immediately [24:02]

  • What people can do to make a lasting change in their organization, regardless of what position they hold [28:17]

  • The biggest surprise that Tim has discovered in the work that he does [35:05]

For More Information:

https://www.leaderfactor.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/timothyrclark/

https://twitter.com/timothyrclark

https://www.facebook.com/timothy.r.clark/

Resources Mentioned: 

Timothy’s Latest Book, The 4 Stages of Psychological Safety: Defining the Path to Inclusion and Innovation & His Other Works 

Kathy’s Forbes Interview with Timothy Clark, How Your Leadership Can Build Desperately-Needed Psychological Safety Today

The Most Powerful You: 7 Bravery-Boosting Paths to Career Bliss Official Website (with Trailer)

Pre-order at https://kathycaprino.com/mostpowerfulyoubook to become the most powerful version of you and reach your highest, most thrilling potential.

Book Pre-Order Bonus #1:

Pre-order the book now to receive free access to my 7-day power-boost challenge workbook! 

Book Pre-Order Bonus #2:

For all individuals who pre-order a copy before the pub date of July 28th, send me your receipt at info@kathycaprino.com to be entered in a drawing for a free 6-session Career Breakthrough Private Coaching program ($2,997 value). One winner will be selected. 

Book Pre-Order Bonus #3: 

Pre-order 10 copies and receive a FREE 30-minute career consultation on Zoom with Kathy ($250 value)! Order 10 copies of the book for your friends, colleagues or team before July 28th, and send us your receipt at info@kathycaprino.com. Our team will be back in touch to schedule your call!

_____________________

Kathy’s Amazing Career Project

Sign Up For Kathy’s LinkedIn Newsletter, The Finding Brave Circle

Her Power Gaps SurveyHer TEDx Talk, Time To Brave Up 

Kathy’s FREE Career Path Self-Assessment Survey

For more about Kathy’s upcoming book The Most Powerful You: 7 Bravery-Boosting Paths To Career Bliss, check out Kathy’s weekly newsletter at https://kathycaprino.com for updates, free special offers and giveaways, contests, and more! Pre-orders are available now! And to discover if you are experiencing any of the 7 damaging power gaps today, take Kathy’s Power Gap Survey and find out!

Become a Sponsor!

If you are interested in becoming a sponsor of Finding Brave, we’d love to hear from you! Please write to info@kathycaprino.com with your proposal and for more information.

QUOTES: 

“Gender-based differences are very evident in many organizations, and this is a legacy from the past.” [5:45]

“A leader, by virtue of the position, is never a neutral actor.” [11:07]

“Hubris, arrogance and narcissism are all occupational hazards if you are a manager or leader. All that’s going to do is get in your way.” [19:55]

“Psychological safety is the combination of respect and permission coming together.” [22:32]

“How do you influence? The most important way is through your modelling behavior. You have to pay attention to this, because if you’re not walking the talk, then all bets are off.” [28:38]

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One Mental Shift That Will Increase Your Courage And Resilience Today

Part of Kathy Caprino’s series “The Most Powerful You”

I was speaking recently to a client who is struggling intensely with the impact of the coronavirus pandemic on her life. The changes she’s been forced to make have been extremely difficult to navigate, and include needing to refocus so much of her time to help her three young children with their remote schooling and managing their time, while struggling in her chaotic, high-pressure job. This job has become unsustainable given her company’s poor leadership and lack of organization and a systematized work flow. On top of all that, she is facing the fear and trauma of trying to support her 89-year-old father who now has Covid-19 but is many states away and all alone.

In times like these, our mental capabilities and the strength we possess internally, become far more apparent. When crisis hits, and when we’re faced with deep challenges that we haven’t been trained to deal with, how well do we do?

Do we fall into a deep depression, unable to get out of bed, or are we able to face the challenges head on, with strength, positivity, and resilience? For most of us, it’s almost always somewhere in between—we might have good days when the sun is shining, things are looking up and we feel we’re able to tackle what’s in front of us. But on other days, we find ourselves slipping into despair and hopelessness.

Years ago, after leaving a very unhappy corporate life behind, I embarked on a three-year training process and Master’s degree as a marriage and family therapist, and later co-founded a therapeutic practice. When I look back on that training and experience, what I learned and how it changed my life, I’m forever grateful for all the challenges that led me to leave my corporate identity behind, and make that change, although at times it was very tough.

Of all the therapeutic concepts and strategies I learned during that time, there have been several approaches that have been true game-changers for me and now my clients. One approach that stands out as particularly helpful in fear-inducing and challenging times is the positive reframe.

The positive reframe

Simply put, the positive reframe is a way to look at the experiences and situations of your life in a realistic way that fits the facts well, while at the same time allowing yourself to see greater possibility, positivity, hope, control and expansion in what is happening and what has transpired.

The reframe shifts your “frame” of reference and helps you see your current situation differently so that you can recognize—and act on—new positive opportunities and changes that are possible. And it focuses on what you can control, not everything that is outside of your sphere of influence. Instead of doubling down only on the dark and terrible about what has transpired, and what you’ve lost, the positive reframe lets you recognize—and believe in—the potential future benefits from what has happened. And it helps you focus on what you can take action on that makes you feel less powerless.

As an example, another client of mine who recently reached out for career change help, shared that she has been mistreated and disrespected in her job for many years, but the pace of the job was such that she felt that she could never carve out the time to do the work of getting a better job or changing her career.

Despite the challenges that this new remote work situation has created for her, and a heap more mistreatment she’s getting, she finds that working from home and reducing her daily commute by 2 hours has given her a brand new perspective on life. She has more positive energy and critical breathing room (and additional control over her own time and how she manages that time) so she can finally engage in the necessary steps to pivot her career to leverage her talents to do more meaningful work with people she respects. She has reframed her thinking about this difficult time, and embraced the potential positive—the concept that she can finally now take the reins on her career, and commit to doing something proactive to change her situation.

Other examples of positive reframes that can change your perspective and trajectory:

Pervasive negative thought: My teen son had such a great summer trip planned that he was so looking forward to. Now it’s all canceled and he is completely derailed and lost.

Positive Reframe: Even though Dan’s summer plans have had to be canceled, perhaps there’s a summer internship that he can do online that would move him forward in an exciting way, that might even be better for him. I’m going to help him with the process of exploring that.

Pervasive negative thought: I hate my job but with the pandemic there’s no way I can look for a new job now. I’m too scared about losing my paycheck.

Positive Reframe: Even though the pandemic has changed the face of employment for many people, others ARE landing great new jobs, and are expanding their networks online and finding great mentors and sponsors that can help them find terrific new roles, now or in the future. I’m going to start doing that today.

Pervasive negative thought: I feel so isolated and alone right now. I hate this! I miss my friends and my days just go on endlessly.

Positive Reframe: While I can’t physically see my friends as I used to, or do the social activities like singing or going to the gym together that made me so happy, there have to be things I can do that would fill my day with more meaning and joy. Where can I help out, connect with others, and offer my talents and abilities to people who are in need? What new ways can I be of help?

Pervasive negative thought: I’ve interviewed for 10 jobs and I don’t move forward to the next round. I’m obviously a loser—I don’t have anything going for me.

Positive Reframe: Do I actually, really, want these jobs? Or am I pursuing them only because I think I have to? Maybe I’m not getting these because in my heart I don’t want to do this kind of work anymore and it would be more wasted time in my life if I got them? If that were true, what type of work do I really want to pursue at this stage in my life? Let me do some work now to figure that out.

The key steps to achieving and acting on the positive reframe are:

Gain greater awareness of what exactly is stressing and upsetting you most now and where you feel helpless (the “cost” of this situation)

Understand and recognize what you feel you’ve lost and why you are so upset. What is causing you the most distress? And how is this situation making you feel “less than” or unable to cope? How is it making you feel that you don’t have what it takes to thrive? What have you lost?

Be open to seeing the potential “benefits” of the situation

OK, so you’re clear on the negatives of this situation. What are the potential benefits? Perhaps you’ve been longing to write that memoir or start your blog or podcast. Could now be the perfect time? Perhaps your child lost her chance to go away to summer camp— could it be possible that something better is waiting in the wings for her? Perhaps those jobs in marketing that you’ve interviewed for and didn’t get are exactly the jobs you don’t want and wouldn’t thrive in. What roles call to you now to pursue?

Focus on what you can control

Viktor Frankl, in his groundbreaking book Man’s Search for Meaning, shared this:

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing; the last of the human freedoms — to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”

When we feel helpless, out of control and hopeless, we falter, and life because extremely hard to endure. But when we shift our attitude and consciously “choose our own way,” mustering the bravery and power to take the reins and say, “There IS something I can do here, to better my situation, to improve my attitude,” our lives transform.

Decide how you want to feel, then do the things that generate those feelings

My daughter recently shared with me the powerful Isolation Journals—a daily creativity project to help us make sense of challenging times, from Suleika Jaouad (watch her amazing TED talk What Almost Dying Taught Me About Living, for powerful inspiration). One of the journal exercises — Day 51 — was to write a “To Feel” list rather than a “To Do” list. The idea is to name your deepest yearnings and aspirations. Then take time with each of them, “teasing out the nuances of what each contains with depth and specificity…” Then review your list again.

Jaouad asks:

“Are your priorities, habits, and rituals serving these feelings? What steps can you take to honor the items on your “to-feel” list.”

What do you want to feel in your life, and how can you reframe the way you are perceiving your challenges so you can recognize the potential positive and do something different that uplifts and enlivens you? What can you do today to take the control back on your life, and help yourself feel better, stronger and more powerful, even in the face of what you’ve lost?

For hands-on help to build a happier and more rewarding career, work with Kathy in her Amazing Career Project course, and read her new book The Most Powerful You: 7 Bravery-Boosting Paths to Career Bliss.


Episode 131: Turn Up Your Authority, Warmth and Energy For Exceptional Results, with Steve Herz

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“You don’t even necessarily have to have the best ideas, but if you have the most influence, then those are the ideas that are going to win the day.” – Steve Herz

Whether you’re looking for work, worried about remaining competitive and keeping your job during a recession, or trying to reach your highest potential when things start looking up, having the ability to make deep human connections with others is key. That “connectability” is imperative to our personal career success, and today’s Finding Brave guest shares his knowledge on how we can all start developing this attribute.

Steve Herz is Founder of IF Management, President of The Montag Group, and a talent agent for some of the most successful broadcast journalists in the country (at organizations such as CNN, MSNBC, CBS, etc). His new book, Don’t Take Yes For An Answer: Using Authority, Warmth, and Energy to Get Exceptional Results is available now. 

If you’re stalling out in your career, it’s most likely because you need to work on your soft skills. It takes authority, warmth, and energy to make real human connections with people. Knowledge, experience, and hard skills are just the minimum requirements now, but you can actually make specific changes to your voice, presence, body language, eye contact and more to turn up your authority, warmth and energy and make the impact you long to. 

Highlights from this Episode:

  • How Steve discovered his framework for overcoming what is missing in careers that have plateaued [2:38]

  • Why he feels so strongly that influence is needed to get your message truly heard [3:53]

  • How someone can demonstrate authority, and the key differences between authority and mastery [5:54]

  • Some of the things that people often do, unintentionally, to relinquish their authority [8:24]

  • The ways Steve helps others lacking warmth in their messaging, and whether or not he believes you can come across “too passionately” [11:49]

  • Why you should be “keeping your own scorecard”, and what this means to him [17:12]

  • Steve’s best tips for conveying the right kind of energy to your audience [22:47]

  • What are the ways you can successfully incorporate inflection into your messaging [25:19]

  • The true meaning of the title of his new book, and the “Yes” we shouldn’t accept [33:58]

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QUOTES: 

“It dawned on me that it really comes down to the influence you have in the room.” [2:38]

“I think so much of our perception of others is more about the style than the substance.” [9:59]

“It’s not enough just to read the room. You know that very important to do,  but also read how the room is reading you.” [12:37]

“You can’t sit there and worry, or even think about comparing yourself to other people, especially in certain metrics where you’re not going to win.” [17:12]

“Inflection is infection. So if you inflect, you infect the listener with your enthusiasm for your message.” [23:43]

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