Episode 103: Special Holiday Selection: Why We Need to "Find Brave" and 10 Ways to Start
Thank you for listening to Finding Brave, ranked in the Top 100 Apple Podcasts in Careers! In honor of this wonderful holiday season, I’m happy to share my “Special Holiday Selections” for Finding Brave! These episodes offer what I hope you’ll find to be compelling and helpful messages that are great for exploring this time of year. I hope you find this episode, the very first episode of this podcast, instrumental in developing your strength, commitment and courage to make 2020 just what you want it to be.
In this first episode of Finding Brave, Kathy shares her deeply personal story about how she embarked on “Finding Brave” in her own life, and why mustering more bravery and courage is a vital endeavor for men and women around the world who want to live the highest version of themselves and reach their highest, most joyful potential.
She defines #FINDINGBRAVE as this: Recognizing — and courageously leveraging — what you’re made of as a human and spiritual being, and mustering the commitment, passion and courage to draw on all that you are to create the life you dream of, through the fear and the pain.
And she offers 10 essential ways to find brave in your life, with specific tips to get moving on your brave path.
Highlights from this Episode:
- Why “Finding Brave” is so important to Kathy and how the idea for this podcast that you’re listening to came to be [1:52]
- She didn’t know it, but Kathy was becoming a therapist even back at the age of 16 and a decision at 22 set the tone for much of her life [4:07]
- There are 12 hidden crises that working women face – and she faced all of them [5:52]
- A life changing conversation…[7:22]
- Why we go “underground” and stop using our own voices (men too) [10:57]
- What will really happen when we’re fake and hiding [12:07]
- Just networking with others isn’t enough – here’s what you need to do [23:04]
- Who the happiest group of people in the world are [26:57]
- The new frontier of bravery that Kathy is currently facing in her own life [37:20]
Links mentioned in this show:
Forbes post: 10 Ways To Brave Up: How To Rise Up, Speak Up and Stand Up Boldly for Yourself
Kathy’s 6 Dominant Action Styles quiz
Kathy’s TEDx Talk “Time To Brave Up”
Forbes Interview with Richie Norton: The Power of Starting Something ‘Stupid’
Forbes article: The Top Three Mistakes Career Professionals Make On Their LinkedIn Profiles
Forbes interview: 6 Ways Pushing Past Your Comfort Zone Is Critical To Success
Forbes article: Why We Don’t Speak Up Against Abuse of Others When We Know Of It
American Assn. of Marriage and Family Therapy
The Energy of Money by Maria Nemeth, Ph.D.
For more about Kathy’s upcoming book The Most Powerful You: 7 Bravery-Boosting Paths To Career Bliss, sign up for her weekly newsletter at https://kathycaprino.com for updates, free giveaways, contests, and more, coming in Spring 2020. And to discover if you are experiencing any of the 7 damaging power gaps today, take Kathy’s Power Gap Survey and find out!
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QUOTES:
“Why I care about Finding Brave is I wasn’t brave enough for a full 18 years in my corporate life.” [3:16]
“I wasn’t brave enough. I didn’t know how to risk. I didn’t know what that felt like to believe in myself” [6:09]
“You’re going to make mistakes, that’s life. It’s not all going to be perfect. If it were perfect, why would we be here? Why would we be living?” [8:08]
“Really it’s time now. It’s time that we engage our spirits and our souls and our hearts.” [25:07]
“Get good with scared. Start to stretch way beyond your comfort zone and your life will change!” [33:35]
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Episode 102: Special Holiday Selection: What is Heaven on Earth and Can You Have It, with Martin Rutte
Thank you for listening to Finding Brave, ranked in the Top 100 Apple Podcasts in Careers! In honor of this wonderful holiday season, I’m happy to share my “Special Holiday Selections” for Finding Brave! These episodes offer what I hope you’ll find to be compelling and helpful messages that are great for exploring this time of year. In the next three weeks, we’ll be re-releasing 3 top shows that will help you create your new year as you dream it to be.
“If I can help you discover what Heaven on Earth is within you and get you on the path simply and easily toward that, we’ve begun a massive transformation of the world.” – Martin Rutte
If I were to ask you what you thought “Heaven on Earth” is, would you be able to say? Today’s guest on Finding Brave has literally written the book on this topic, and he’s here to explore how we can understand the concept of Heaven on Earth as we each personally define it, and why that’s a critical endeavor to engage in.
Martin Rutte is an international speaker, management consultant, and President of Livelihood, a management consulting firm based in Santa Fe, NM. He has worked with such organizations as The World Bank, Sony Pictures Entertainment, Southern California Edison, Virgin Records, Esso Petroleum and London Life Insurance helping them expand their outlook and position themselves for the future. Martin was the first Canadian to address the Corporate Leadership & Ethics Forum of The Harvard Business School, returning for four consecutive years as keynote speaker. He is a co-author of the New York Times business bestseller, Chicken Soup for the Soul at Work, with over one million copies sold. His newest book is Project Heaven on Earth: The 3 Simple Questions That Will Help You Change The World … Easily.
In this thought-provoking episode, you’ll not only learn that Heaven on Earth as you conceive of it is possible, but there are actionable steps that each and every one of us can take now to contribute to that movement.
Highlights from this Episode:
- What Martin means by “Heaven on Earth” [3:21]
- When the idea came to him and the one thought that started it all [6:01]
- The 3 powerful questions Martin asks to help people discover Heaven on Earth and how they can get there [8:15]
- Why this isn’t a religious conversation [12:15]
- How he has discovered the power of “simple” and why we don’t need to overcomplicate things [14:56]
- The 7 Heaven on Earth Gateways he shares in his book [20:11]
- What to do when your idea of Heaven on Earth differs significantly from someone else’s [27:37]
- Martin’s call to action and what he tells people who say they are too busy to contribute and serve [30:41]
For more information:
http://projectheavenonearth.com/
https://twitter.com/martinrutte
https://www.linkedin.com/in/martin-rutte-306bb9a/
https://www.facebook.com/projectheavenonearthofficial/
Resources Mentioned:
Project Heaven on Earth Free E-Course
Martin’s First Book, Chicken Soup for the Soul at Work: Stories of Courage, Compassion and Creativity in the Workplace
Martin’s latest work, Project Heaven on Earth: The 3 Simple Questions That Will Help You Change The World … Easily
For more about Kathy’s upcoming book The Most Powerful You: 7 Bravery-Boosting Paths To Career Bliss, sign up for her weekly newsletter at https://kathycaprino.com for updates, free giveaways, contests, and more, coming in Spring 2020. And to discover if you are experiencing any of the 7 damaging power gaps today, take Kathy’s Power Gap Survey and find out!
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QUOTES:
“I was looking at the results of the world and I wasn’t happy with them. There’s a lot of Hell on Earth, but what would be the opposite?” [3:41]
“Project Heaven on Earth is not about prophesying or imposing. It’s about evoking, because the premise is it’s there within you.” [13:21]
“What difference would a penny make? Nothing, except if you say it does.” [19:27]
“If you look at the amount of positive things that go on in the world every day, they are enormous compared to the negative, yet the negative is what we feature.” [22:32]
“If the impossibility is present and it’s overwhelming, you won’t move.” [32:08]
“I want to normalize Heaven on Earth.” [33:25]
“What we are doing here is co-creating the new story of what it means to be a human and what it means to be humanity.” [33:39]
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Episode 101: Helping Our Girls Raise Their Hands Not Lower Their Standards, with Illana Raia
“I think that if they are expressing an interest in something, even if it’s not the thing that you did as a child or that all of their friends are doing, or it’s something you know nothing about, let’s explore the resources because they are out there.” – Illana Raia
When developing the future female leaders of tomorrow, it’s so important for them to be aware of the female leaders that are impacting the world right now. Today’s Finding Brave guest was inspired by her own daughter to put female role models in front of girls at an early age, and as she shares, we all have a part to play in this critical movement.
A former Skadden lawyer and guest lecturer at Columbia University, Illana Raia has been busy since 2016 founding Être – a resource and mentorship platform for girls approaching high school. She thinks of Être as a knowledge strategy for girls – highlighting valuable tools and role models they will need to change the world – and contributes regularly to HuffPost, Medium and Thrive Global on these issues. Named a Mogul Influencer in 2017, Illana has appeared in the HuffPost “Talk To Me” video series, participated in the 2018 Balance Project Interviews and the 2019 #WomenWhoRock campaign, and has been featured on podcasts like The Other 50%, UBS’ Signature Series and Women To Watch Media. Her journey from lawyer to founder was profiled in Forbes and Worth, and her first book – Être: Girls, Who Do You Want To Be? – launched October 11, 2019, on Day of the Girl.
We won’t change the times until we talk about these issues openly, honestly, and with the younger generation. In this episode, Illana reveals why reaching out to girls in middle school is not too early, and as adults we can play a pivotal role in springboarding the change we need right now, because mentors matter and bravery starts early.
Highlights from this Episode
- How Illana’s mission to advance the futures for young women started unexpectedly [2:44]
- Why supporting and mentoring young girls must be a priority for us right now [4:20]
- How we can model success to young children as the adults in their lives, both at home and at work [8:59]
- Ways we can support girls even if our spouse or partner isn’t completely onboard with the idea [12:41]
- The amazing initiatives that Être offers the younger generation of females and the questions Illana asks them that drives every decision she makes [20:24]
- How Illana transitioned out of a career in law into the work she does today, and an opportunity that she took that changed everything [24:00]
- What she is doing to grow Être, after starting it quietly [29:19]
- The action steps we can all take to mentor young girls today [30:01]
- What’s next for Illana and the exciting plans she has Être [33:55]
For More Information:
https://www.instagram.com/etregirls/
https://www.facebook.com/Etregirls/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/illana-raia-72958833/
Resources Mentioned:
Illana’s Book, Être: Girls, Who Do You Want To Be?
The Confidence Code for Girls: Taking Risks, Messing Up, and Becoming Your Amazingly Imperfect, Totally Powerful Self by Katty Kay and Claire Shipman
The Confidence Code: The Science and Art of Self-Assurance—What Women Should Know by Katty Kay and Claire Shipman
Brave, Not Perfect: Fear Less, Fail More, and Live Bolder by Reshma Saujani
Finding Brave Episode 19: How To Speak Up Effectively When You Think You Can’t
Kathy’s Blog Post, What Is Feminism, And Why Do So Many Women And Men Hate It?
Kathy Blog Post with Esther Wojcicki, 5 Essential Keys To Teaching And Raising Phenomenally Successful Adults
For more about Kathy’s upcoming book The Most Powerful You: 7 Bravery-Boosting Paths To Career Bliss, sign up for her weekly newsletter at https://kathycaprino.com for updates, free giveaways, contests, and more, coming in Spring 2020
QUOTES:
“When I started to think about mentorship, I didn’t want to aim it at high school or college. I wanted to go a little bit earlier, because I think that by the time you’re in middle school, you know what you love.” [5:49]
“When we’re at the point where men and women are each earning a hundred cents on the dollar, we won’t need to talk about equal pay anymore.” [13:25]
“We won’t change the times until we talk about these things openly, honestly and with the younger generation. They can’t learn about these lessons in college.” [13:47]
“Let’s find the women who are in the senior positions, and bring our girls to meet them.” [15:53]
“If you’re talking about other adults who want to make a change, who want to find that brave and make that shift, I say do it. I think you have very little to lose.” [28:07]
“I wanted to give back to girls, because I had a network of strong women.” [28:30]
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Episode 100: Top 5 Lessons Learned From Publishing 100 Podcast Episodes
“There are days you show up to do it, and you’re tired. Hitting 100 episodes is a lot of work, but you don’t want to give up. You have to have perseverance and commitment. What do you commit to here? Don’t give up.” – Kathy Caprino
In today’s episode, I’m celebrating a very special milestone for Finding Brave, the publishing of our 100th episode. The entire process of creating and publishing a podcast each week and birthing brand new episodes in rapid succession–and giving content that listeners (hopefully) enjoy and find valuable–is an amazing experience for me, but it’s not without some interesting “stretching” experiences and challenges.
If you’re considering launching your own podcast, or working towards expanding your thought leadership and influence, the lessons I’ve gleaned from doing this podcast consecutively for 100 weeks I hope will allow you to start you own podcast or build your influence with eyes wide open. I want to help you be best prepared to get the return on energy, time and financial investment that you are looking for from your podcast, while making sure it is an amazing experience for you, as well as sustainable and rewarding.
I hope this episode helps you build great success doing work you are proud of. Thank you so much for listening and celebrating 100 episodes along with me, because without you, after all, there would be no Finding Brave show.
Highlights from this Episode
- What to consider in terms of the energy required to bring an idea like a podcast to fruition [4:21]
- What you’ll need to do before you even get started on a podcast, and how I prepared to launch mine [7:03]
- A sobering look at why most podcasts fail [13:49]
- What makes a great podcast, plus how your audience can help in the process [17:45]
- Why you’ll want to pick your podcast partners very carefully [21:09]
- Things to consider if you want to be a thought leader, and the questions to ask yourself to determine if you are one right now [23:30]
- What to know if you’d like to monetize your podcast [31:16]
Resources Mentioned:
The Energy of Money: A Spiritual Guide to Financial and Personal Fulfillment by Maria Nemeth
Music Oomph’s Podcast Statistics (2019)
How Many of the 540,000 Podcasts Have “Podfaded?” by Steven Goldstein of Amplified Media
40 Powerful Podcast Statistics to Tune Into by Milja Milenkovic of SmallBizGenius.net
Stephan Spencer’s Post, 5 Reasons Why Your Podcast Will Fail
Castos’ Post, How to Monetize a Podcast (15 Profitable Strategies)
Kathy Blog Post, 7 Crippling Parenting Behaviors That Keep Children From Growing Into Leaders
Her First Book, Breakdown, Breakthrough: The Professional Woman’s Guide to Claiming a Life of Passion, Power, and Purpose
The Top 10 Questions To Determine If You’re Ready To Be A Thought Leader
For more about Kathy’s upcoming book The Most Powerful You: 7 Bravery-Boosting Paths To Career Bliss, sign up for her weekly newsletter at https://kathycaprino.com for updates, free giveaways, contests, and more, coming in Spring 2020
QUOTES:
“Anyone who says that doing something like this for 100 episodes is easy, they’re just full of nonsense. It’s not easy, it’s work.” [4:39]
“It’s a serious investment of money, time, commitment, patience, and planning. So you don’t want to jump in without understanding what’s involved.” [7:38]
“Stats are important, but we can’t be obsessed about them as the only benchmark of success.” [10:48]
“Think about how you are going to make your podcast stand apart. What value will you give, and what value will you derive? Don’t launch until you have this pretty well mapped out.” [13:31]
“What I’ve found is that if I’m really interested in something, thousands of people are interested in it. That’s what I see because of the following that I have and the people that I hear from.” [19:09]
“Choose the right people to be with you on this journey, because it is a journey of growth.” [23:22]
“If you feel insecure about doing this, it’s going to show up in the results.” [28:03]
“A lot of people think it’s going to be easy to monetize their podcast. Well it’s not, l can tell you that.” [31:20]
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Episode 99: Do Less To Live and Work Happier and Better, with Kate Northrup
“Most of the time we think that as entrepreneurs, if we want to make more revenue and have a big impact, there’s something we’re not doing that we need to add in. Nine times out of ten, it’s something that you’re doing that you should stop doing.” – Kate Northrup
If you are a regular listener of this podcast, you know that for years I was what I have termed as a “perfectionist overfunctioner” — doing more than is healthy, appropriate, and necessary and trying to get an A+ in all of it — and I know I am not alone in doing this. That’s why I am so excited to introduce you to today’s Finding Brave guest, because she helps others get on the path to doing less, while living in a more joyful, peaceful, and healthy way.
As an entrepreneur, bestselling author, speaker, and mother, Kate Northrup has built a multimedia digital empire with her husband, Mike Watts, that reaches hundreds of thousands globally. They are committed to supporting ambitious women to light up the world without burning themselves out in the process. Kate teaches data-driven and soul-driven time and energy management practices that result in saving time, making more money, and experiencing less stress. Kate has a membership of over 1,000 entrepreneurs called Origin® Collective that’s about infusing more feminine energy into your business and reclaiming your time, and she has also helped over 5,000 students heal their relationship with money with her signature Money Love Course. Her first book, Money: A Love Story, has been published in 5 languages, and her second book, Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Busy Moms, is now available. Kate’s work has been featured by The Today Show, Yahoo! Finance, Women’s Health, Glamour, The Institute of Integrative Nutrition, Wanderlust, The Huffington Post, and more. Kate and Mike live with their daughters in a cozy town in Maine.
In this episode Kate reveals how when you know yourself in a deeper way, physically, emotionally and spiritually, you can start to love yourself more. When you love yourself more, you can live full out with bliss and not be tired and beleaguered, which is how we should all be experiencing life.
Highlights from this Episode
- How Kate got passionate about doing less, and the life-changing realization she made after her first child was born [3:57]
- The amazing things that happen when you start leading with your body, and what happens to the decisions that you make when you live this way [7:21]
- What Kate did to start having a deep, intimate relationship with herself – and how you can do this too [9:05]
- How doing less as an entrepreneur will actually help you make more revenue and have a bigger impact [15:20]
- The way that women in the corporate world can still do less and incorporate what Kate teaches into their own lives [23:05]
- The powerful dream that helped Kate form her mission in life [26:50]
- The 3 biggest lessons she has learned on her journey [28:00]
- What all mothers should keep in mind based on both of our experiences with motherhood [31:50]
For More Information:
https://www.instagram.com/katenorthrup/
https://www.facebook.com/katenorthrupcommunity
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBJUL9OfD2FvF3bIsBL9Dmw
https://twitter.com/katenorthrup
Resources Mentioned:
Kate’s Latest Book, Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Busy Moms & Do Less Planner
Her First Book, Money: A Love Story & The Money Love Course
Kate’s Books on Audible
Her Membership Site, Origin® Collective
Kathy’s Amazing Career Project & Blog Post, The Top 5 Regrets of Midlife Professionals
The Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing by Bronnie Ware
For more about Kathy’s upcoming book The Most Powerful You: 7 Bravery-Boosting Paths To Career Bliss, sign up for her weekly newsletter at https://kathycaprino.com for updates, free giveaways, contests, and more, coming in Spring 2020
QUOTES:
“For the first time in my life, I was forced to let my body lead.” [6:05]
“We have a tendency to live outside of ourselves, and when we are outside of ourselves, we don’t make the best decisions because we are operating in essentially a separate universe.” [7:47]
“Tracking my cycle and noticing how I felt was one of the profoundly loving things I could do, because instead of trying to be different, I was noticing how I am.” [11:40]
“If it’s not making money but it lights you up, keep doing it.” [17:32]
“We really have to take radical responsibility for our lives.” [23:38]
“I use to think that the truth hurt people, but what I’ve come to realize is that when said with love, the truth heals people.” [29:30]
“The most important thing I need to do is let things be how they are, as opposed to how I want them to be.” [32:01]
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Episode 98: How To Engage Male Leaders In The Gender Equality Movement At Work, with Jeffery Halter
“Choose to get curious. Go have a coffee with another woman, and another woman, and a person of color, and a millennial. You’re going to start to see that there is in fact inequity in the daily ways people are treated.” – Jeffery Halter
As only 29% of senior leadership roles in the workplace are held by women (and that number is the highest on record), it means that the leadership ranks are still dominated by men, and men can be not only a big part of the challenges that are faced in getting our workforce to experience gender equality and pay parity, but also a big part of the solution. Today’s Finding Brave guest is someone who has become a vocal advocate for the advancement of women, and he’s made it his mission to help other men join him in the gender equality movement.
Jeffery Tobias Halter is a corporate gender strategist, specializing in engaging men in women’s leadership issues and initiatives. He is the President of YWomen, a strategic consulting company and one of the country’s leading experts on engaging men to advance women. Jeffery’s book WHY WOMEN, The Leadership Imperative to Advancing Women and Engaging Men, is the first business book written by a man on why companies and their leadership teams must create a strategic mindset regarding the retention and advancement of women. He’s the former Director of Diversity Strategy of The Coca-Cola Company and has consulted with leading brands including McDonald’s, Deloitte, Bristol-Myers Squibb, Mercedes-Benz, GE and more.
As Jeffery reveals in this episode, we are now at a tipping point to disrupt the status quo to drive gender parity and rid the workplace of gender inequities. Most importantly, it is now up to each one of us to become agents of change to initiate and build workplaces that are safe and equitable for all employees.
Highlights from this Episode
- What initially compelled Jeffery to dedicate his career to the advancement of women [4:28]
- The first step that he took to help other men become advocates for women, and the group of men that he chooses to focus on in his work [9:20]
- Why Jeffery feels that he was chosen by his company for the role of Chief Diversity Officer [11:00]
- The major reasons that diversity initiatives often fail, or don’t even get started in the workplace [13:15]
- What he sees as the four barriers stopping men from supporting the movement, and the practical solutions that overcome them [15:31]
- What strong leadership is, and isn’t, and the way that senior management in organizations can become true advocates [21:36]
- How Jeffery came to realize that not being an advocate for gender equality is hurting all of the women in a man’s life [23:00]
- An example of a company that is doing a good job of promoting diversity inclusion [26:15]
- Why the corporate structure typically isn’t set up to support the victims of harassment [28:20]
- Steps you can begin taking today to get started on your own journey to become an advocate, not just ally, of this cause [33:15]
For More Information:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/jefferyhalter/
https://www.facebook.com/FatherofDaughterInitiative
Resources Mentioned:
Jeffery’s White Papers and Article, The Four Barriers to Male Engagement
Jeffery’s Books, WHY WOMEN: The Leadership Imperative to Advancing Women and Engaging Men & Selling to Men, Selling to Women
Be Fierce: Stop Harassment and Take Your Power Back by Gretchen Carlson
Kathy’s Finding Brave podcast interview with Terry Real – Gender, Power and Relationships: The Crushing Effects of Patriarchy
Kathy’s Forbes post – What Is Feminism and Why Do So Many Men and Women Hate It
For more about Kathy’s upcoming book The Most Powerful You: 7 Bravery-Boosting Paths To Career Bliss, sign up for her weekly newsletter at https://kathycaprino.com for updates, free giveaways, contests, and more, coming in Spring 2020
QUOTES:
“We just don’t have enough advocates, male or female, so finding brave to me is becoming an advocate for advancing women.” [1:47]
“I didn’t become an advocate, I just chose to get curious, and so I started talking to people who weren’t like me.” [7:22]
“If diversity is important to you, show me. Prove it to me through your actions, just like you would anything else.” [14:59]
“Most men never make the connection that if we’re not advocating for women, we are betraying our wives, our sisters, our mothers and our daughters.” [22:57]
“Companies are famous for promoting bad behaviour with good results.” [25:20]
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I’m thrilled to share that Audible.com is a sponsor of Finding Brave! Take advantage of their great special offer of one FREE book of your choice with a 30-day FREE membership trial! And feel free to keep the book even if you cancel the membership. Click here to sign up for your free book! http://www.audibletrial.com/FindingBrave
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Episode 97: The Top Six Relational Handicaps That Break Relationships and Bonds, with Yamel Corcoll-Iglesias
“Don’t just assume that you know yourself. Ask yourself the questions. Your body is talking to you all the time, and what is this reaction in your body saying? Even if you have to get really detailed about feelings, just give it words.” – Yamel Corcoll-Iglesias
Years ago after leaving corporate America and becoming a therapist and then a career coach and writer, I began to recognize more deeply than ever that we all live in a relational world that demands effective relational skills. But so often, we are entirely ill-equipped (and untrained) as to how to meet that requirement and we enter into our personal and professional relationships with significant “relational handicaps.” The result is often troubled marriages, ineffective parenting, poor leadership and a cascade of physical and emotional ailments. Today’s Finding Brave guest is here to share her expertise on what she has seen are the top six relational handicaps that damage relationships and bonds.
Yamel Corcoll-Iglesias is a bilingual licensed marriage and family therapist, addiction specialist, and certified couples’ therapist. She traveled over 5,000 miles from Uruguay, her country of birth, some 35 years ago to follow a dream and a mission to become a therapist. Her first marriage ended quickly and inspired her to understand more deeply the allure of “partnering up” as well as how to recognize the blind spots that lead us into challenging or unsuccessful relationships.
Moving forward through 24 years of marriage and witnessing her now grown children navigating this world, she has found that her interest in exploring how we can live in fuller relational health and integrity has deepened. Her work and purpose are focused on teaching and training couples, individuals, business leaders and families the necessary skills to live in relational integrity, and to identify the positive legacies they wish to leave behind and new ways to repair damage caused by missteps taken when we are not at our best.
Today, Yamel offers insight on how identifying and then transforming our relational handicaps into respectful, insightful, and accountable actions will set us up to forge healthy and satisfying relationships. That in turn helps us build mutually-fulfilling intimate relationships–the core of our profound existence.
Highlights from this Episode
- What “relational integrity” means to Yamel and why it should matter to everyone [7:32]
- The difference between reacting and responding to a particular person or situation, and examples from both Kathy and Yamel’s lives [9:58]
- How to quickly start developing an awareness of what’s happening [17:26]
- What can happen when someone lacks full awareness [23:36]
- A breakdown of the top six relational handicaps [25:06]
- Tips and strategies for communicating with others who may not be aware of their own relational handicaps [33:10]
- How to begin being mindfully curious, while listening to your body [38:59]
- What’s happening when we are avoiding something versus encountering it [42:36]
- The real reason that people stand up for themselves using aggression [46:56]
For More Information:
https://www.yamelcouplestherapist.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/yamelcouplestherapist
Resources Mentioned:
Yamel’s 1 or 2-Day Intensives & Program
Her Blog Post, The Top 6 Relational Handicaps That Break Relationships and Bonds
Finding Brave Interview with Terry Real: 4: Gender, Power and Relationships, and the Crushing Effects of Patriarchy, with Terry Real
Finding Brave Interview with Gay Hendricks: 44: How To Live In Your Zone of Genius, with Gay Hendricks
TalkRx: Five Steps to Honest Conversations That Create Connection, Health, and Happiness by Neha Sangwan, M.D.
For more about Kathy’s upcoming book The Most Powerful You: 7 Bravery-Boosting Paths To Career Bliss, sign up for her weekly newsletter at https://kathycaprino.com for updates, free giveaways, contests, and more, coming in Spring 2020
QUOTES:
“We do forget, in moments of distress and stress, how to act with relational integrity.” [7:13]
“People do have the answers, if they tolerate to stay in the moment a little bit longer with their feelings.” [21:27]
“Anger is usually very much of a response when we don’t want to feel what we’re feeling.” [23:12]
“Self-awareness is crucial, because when we don’t know, there’s nothing that we change.” [25:51]
“I had to recognize that we really have absolutely no control over what other people do.” [35:08]
“People will go to lengths to avoid dealing with something that they consider or perceive to be difficult or impossible for them to deal with.” [42:41]
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Episode 96: How To Succeed Wildly By Being Defiant, "Weird" and Different, with Sunny Bonnell
“There are parts of ourselves that we made invisible, and Rare Breed is really about owning who you are in order to succeed. It’s not just the pretty parts, but it’s all of who you are. Bring all of your humanness to the table and make your vices your virtues.” – Sunny Bonnell
Along with her partner, Ashleigh Hansberger, today’s Finding Brave guest Sunny Bonnell has literally written the book on identifying a new approach for the mavericks, oddballs, and visionaries of the future. She shares how you can stop trying to conform, and instead use what you’ve been told is working against you to actually start working for you as you become the person you are dreaming to be.
Sunny Bonnell and Ashleigh Hansberger are authors of the new book RARE BREED: A Guide to Success for the Defiant, Dangerous, and Different and the award-winning founders of Motto, one of the top branding and digital agencies for rule-breakers and game-changers. Between the two of them, they are members of the Young Entrepreneur Council, and have graced lists such as GDUSA’s Top 25 People to Watch and Inc. 30 Under 30, and America’s Coolest Young Entrepreneurs.
In this episode, Sunny reveals their “7 Rare Breed Traits” that you can celebrate to start to own who you really are, because the future of business belongs to the disrupters, and the ones who don’t play by the rules but change them.
Highlights from this Episode
- What is a “rare breed” and what makes them so different than other people [3:36]
- What shapes the way we see ourselves, starting at a young age, and why so many of us have stayed silent instead of celebrating our rare breed [6:45]
- Why Sunny feels that each life is “worthy of being witnessed” and what this means to her [8:22]
- A recent talk that she gave and the surprising impact she made on one particular person in the audience [11:10]
- The 7 Rare Breed Traits that Sunny and Ashleigh have identified and the duality that exists in each one [13:42]
- How they now help individuals and companies display their rare breed and build a memorable brand [16:48]
- The way that Sunny got her start in branding and the way that she and Ashleigh built their branding business from the ground up [17:50]
- Her hope for readers of their book, and the steps we can take to proactively use our virtues, while avoiding taking a destructive path with them [26:30]
- Why Sunny feels that hearing the word “no” is really an opportunity for you [34:20]
For More Information:
Sunny: Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | LinkedIn
Ashleigh: Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | LinkedIn
Resources Mentioned:
Sunny & Ashley’s Book, RARE BREED: A Guide to Success for the Defiant, Dangerous, and Different & Audible Version
Take The Rare Breed Quiz
Rare Breed on Instagram, Facebook and YouTube
Tony Robbins, I Am Not Your Guru (Documentary)
Kathy’s Amazing Career Project
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QUOTES:
“At its simplest definition, a rare breed is unordinary among the kind. How do we stand out amongst the herd?” [3:38]
“It was important for us as we wrote the book to not only highlight what it meant to tap into each of the 7 virtues, but also look at how they could be a vice.” [14:17]
“I think we’re all a vessel in some way, and we have to figure out what to do with that power.” [23:38]
“Own who you are. In a world that wants to own you, learn to lean into who you are, and celebrate it.” [28:12]
“I think that if we had more people who felt alive and who felt truly, truly connected to their work, the world would probably be a little bit of a happier place” [31:51]
“Rare Breed got rejected 18 times, so I’ve heard ‘no’ more than I’d like to admit.” [34:20]
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Episode 95: What You Need to Know To Rise To the Greatness You Were Destined For, with Dr. Grace Lee
“It’s as much of an inner game as it is an outer game, because the inner game is the only thing in this universe that you have control over.” – Grace Lee
What if all the problems we faced in our careers are simply unasked questions? With an incredible story of adversity from a very young age, to her training in neuroscience, today’s Finding Brave guest is able to give a unique and powerful perspective on the questions we can start asking ourselves to create lives of fulfillment and inspiration.
Dr. Grace Lee is a career educator, strategic reinventionist and neuroscience expert best known for being the founder of Career Revisionist – a global movement of professionals who are creating an inspired, purposeful, and abundant life. Grace is on a mission to redefine modern education, teaching men and women to develop strong business acumen, unlock true vocational confidence, and master their professional destinies. Her teaching and coaching programs are rooted in neuroscience.
With a 10-year background helping professionals advance their careers, Grace has deep empathy for those from very humble beginnings. Her personal journey from being orphaned and then homeless at the age of 9 provided the backdrop to develop resilience and resourcefulness to thrive.
Grace has established herself as a leading motivational and informative speaker. She also shares her wealth of knowledge on her YouTube Channel and her Career Revisionist Podcast.
Regardless of your current situation, Grace’s story proves that where you begin does not have to impede your future success, and ultimately your success always comes down to the important inner work and exploration that you are doing.
Highlights from this Episode
- Grace’s riveting and inspiring “David and Goliath” story, and how the obstacles she overcame have contributed to who she is today [3:13]
- The pivotal moment that she experienced at the age of 14, and why she then decided to focus on her education as a way to freedom [18:15]
- What is Grace’s mission in life right now and the way that she is helping others [19:35]
- How she uses her training in neuroscience today, and what Grace feels we really need to succeed instead of strategies and tactics [29:55]
- Why Grace focuses on principles over strategies, and the one core principle that kept her going through it all [32:20]
- The ways that her “Why” has shifted to what it is right now [34:28]
- The specific questions you can start asking that will guide you toward the outcomes you desire [39:20]
- What you can do to start identifying any blind spots you may have [45:35]
For More Information:
https://www.masteryinsights.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/docgracelee/
https://www.facebook.com/docgracelee
https://www.instagram.com/drgracelee/
Resources Mentioned:
Grace’s Podcast & YouTube Channel
Her Free 4-Day Training Series & Exclusive Masterclass
Grace’s Book, Ethical Issues in Behavioral Neuroscience
Kathy’s Appearance on The Career Revisionist Podcast
Eagles Wings Children’s Village
Think & Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
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QUOTES:
“I climbed the academic ladder because I was told by society that in order to get a good job, you have to go to school and get good grades. It had a hold on me, and I believed that was the only way to succeed.” [18:03]
“With life planning and career planning, you have fears because you want to get to the next level. You’re going to have fears of failure or maybe you’re fearing success too. You’ve got to listen and act through the fear.” [28:10]
“No matter how evolved we believe we are, or think we are, we are still cavewomen and men.” [27:37]
“I have to say that my success wasn’t at all because of one strategy. I didn’t focus on strategy, I focused on principles.” [31:07]
“If you want to make real change in an organization, you have to first create a sense of urgency. They have to realize that the status quo is a dangerous place to be.” [33:20]
“Every time you ask a question, it affects the outcome of your life.” [37:08]
“It’s never because of a lack of resources. It’s always about a lack of resourcefulness.” [40:18]
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Episode 94: How To Tell a Riveting True Story About Who You Are and Why That Matters, with Tony Vlahos
“Feeling connection is the same whether I’m in front of an audience with a guitar, or behind a desk talking to someone about what they’ve done the last 40 years. As a corporate executive, you have to connect with people and then pick up that thread and pass it along to someone else.” – Tony Vlahos
Your story and the difference that you can make with it is something that can set you apart from others, and storytelling your career can be your secret competitive advantage. This episode’s Finding Brave guest shares why stand-out brands and the compelling stories those brands communicate are deeply connected to each other. And he reveals the components of a compelling story that you can use to start growing your brand today.
Tony Vlahos is the Chief Storyteller and Head of Brand and Learning for ExecuNet, one of the most trusted brands in senior-level executive job search and a premier destination for high performers who want to stay on top of their game in the world of work, as leaders, and as a matter of wellbeing.
Since Tony joined the company in 2007, membership has grown from 15,000 to over 800,000 executives, through meaningful marketing stories that capture attention, entertain, enlighten, and persuade all in the course of just a few minutes. The past several years the ExecuNet brand has also come to be known as the Storytelling Capital for Individual Executives seeking compelling ways to set themselves apart in the corporate world and achieve greater results in their careers and in business.
The impactful strategies that Tony presents here will change how you talk about yourself, and allow you to embrace and value all of who you are, which will be the quickest path to your ultimate success.
Highlights from this Episode
- What role having a creative soul has played in Tony’s career [4:30]
- What is storytelling as it relates to having a brand, and the ways that he and the team at ExecuNet help each of their clients do this [5:15]
- The essential components that make up a story, including what Tony means when he says “a story needs soul” [6:55]
- What he feels is getting in the way for men to tell a powerful, riveting story about themselves [10:50]
- Why it’s so tough to craft a story on your own, and how you can connect with others to help you in this process [18:25]
- What not to do when telling your story and the common mistakes Tony is seeing people making with theirs [26:19]
- Why it’s dangerous to make assumptions about what others know about you and your brand, just from reading your resume or LinkedIn profile [28:25]
- The formula for building an effective LinkedIn profile that truly conveys your story and brand, and what Tony means when he says that “positioning is about sacrifices” [29:24]
For More Information:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/anthonyvlahos/
Resources Mentioned:
Tony’s Appearance on The Best Work/Best Life Podcast
Episode 60: How to Crack the Funding Code for Your Startup, with Judy Robinett
Kathy on the Network of Executive Women Leadership Summit
Her TEDx Talk, Time to Brave Up & LinkedIn Webinar, Polish Your LinkedIn Profile For Success
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QUOTES:
“I completely agree that you can’t tell a great story without a lot of soul.” [4:31]
“What’s your leadership story? How are you telling people about who you are and the difference you can make for them?” [6:30]
“The vulnerability of the human can make all the difference in the difference that you want to make.” [9:43]
“Having that shared experience between the storyteller and the listener is critical, otherwise you’re just telling it to yourself.” [10:53]
“Embrace it. Don’t be afraid to say that you did what you did. The best stories are credible, and if you really it it, there’s a way to deliver that message.” [26:29]
“They’ll hire you because they like you and they believe you can do the job, but you have to show up and be you on purpose. If you’re not doing that, they’re going to hire someone else.” [33:03]
Sponsor Highlight!
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