Episode 39: How To Leverage Technology to Increase Your Happiness, with Amy Blankson

“There has been a cycle of overuse of new information sources that we have to relearn in terms of how to interact in a healthy way, and positive psychology gives us some clues that say these are things that human beings have struggled with since the beginning of time. It’s just that the medium has changed for us and we have to reapply what we already know to be our best selves and reach our potential.” – Amy Blankson

We hear every day about how the technology available to us today erodes our happiness and stresses us out, but is it possible that we can use it to actually do the opposite? Today’s guest on Finding Brave has made it her life’s work to study this issue, and the insights she shares on this episode will encourage you to view technology in a whole new light.

The only person to receive a Point of Light from two US Presidents, my guest Amy Blankson graduated from Harvard College and Yale School of Management, and co-founded GoodThink to bring the science of happiness to life for others. Amy has since focused her work on understanding how to cultivate happiness in a digital era. She is a member of the UN Global Happiness Council, a Fellow of the World Innovation Organization, and is working with the IEEE to create standards for well-being in artificial intelligence. Amy is a regular contributor for Forbes and author of the bestselling book The Future of Happiness.

The information that Amy shares today will inspire you to make important changes, even if they’re just small ones, to become more intentional and start regaining control and balance in your life. Ultimately, the future of happiness starts with the choices we make in the present.

Highlights from this Episode:

  • What inspired Amy to do the work she does today [5:02]
  • Is technology good or bad for our happiness and wellbeing? [6:35]
  • What we are really getting from our use of technology [13:00]
  • How to be more productive when using email [14:33]
  • Something Amy is calling on organizational leaders to do right now [19:02]
  • The ways thought leaders and managers can balance being responsive with setting boundaries for themselves [21:07]
  • What we need to hear about the future and why we need to realize that we do have a voice [33:24]
  • Considerations for the best use of social media [37:15]

For more information:

http://amyblankson.com/

http://twitter.com/amyblankson

https://www.linkedin.com/in/amy-blankson-1b99a84/

http://facebook.com/amy.blankson

Resources Mentioned:

Amy’s 21-Day Email Challenges

Her Books, The Future of Happiness: 5 Modern Strategies for Balancing Productivity and Well-being in the Digital Era & Ripple’s Effect (her award-winning children’s book)

Her Tech Health Quiz & Free Downloadable Free Phone Lock Screen Graphics

Amy’s Forbes Blog

GoodThink

Circle with Disney

Screenagers Movie

Broadcasting Happiness: The Science of Igniting and Sustaining Positive Change by Michelle Gielan

Kathy’s Blog Post, 6 Toxic Behaviors That Push People Away: How To Recognize Them In Yourself and Change Them

QUOTES:

“Sometimes we find that in the midst of struggle is the very moment that people are most searching.” [5:23]

“The questions that we were beginning to get from audiences began to shift from uncertainty about the future to technological uncertainty.” [5:40]

“Any time that you’re able to get beautiful thought leadership out there to people in a way that they listen, that should be celebrated.” [13:37]

“It’s developing that discipline that is adjusting to the new era that we’re living in.” [15:54]

“The more digital etiquette you’re showing, the more it’s actually appreciated.” [19:35]

“I advocate that parents spend more time working with their young person to understand their own bodies cues about when they’ve had too much technology of certain kinds.” [27:19]

“It’s been proven to be significantly more effective for parents to co-create with their young person, rather than telling the young person what they’re going to do.” [30:14]

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Episode 38: Embracing Your Age and Wisdom - The Making of a Modern Elder, with Chip Conley

“When you create an environment where you have a mixture of ages, just like a mixture of genders and a mixture of races, you create a better workplace and more effective teams.” – Chip Conley

In our increasingly accelerated world that venerates the young, many in mid-career sense that the ground is shifting beneath their feet, leaving them feeling invisible, undervalued, and threatened by the digital natives nipping at their heels. However, today’s guest on Finding Brave argues that experience is on the brink of a comeback.

Rebel hospitality entrepreneur and New York Times bestselling author, Chip Conley disrupted his favorite industry… twice. At age 26, he founded Joie de Vivre Hospitality (JdV), transforming an inner-city motel into the second largest boutique hotel brand in America. He sold JdV after running it as CEO for 24 years, and soon the young founders of Airbnb asked him to help transform their promising start-up into the world’s leading hospitality brand. Chip served as Airbnb’s Head of Global Hospitality and Strategy for four years and today acts as the company’s Strategic Advisor for Hospitality and Leadership. His five books have made him a leading authority at the intersection of psychology and business. Chip was awarded “Most Innovative CEO” by the San Francisco Business Times, is the recipient of hospitality’s highest honor, the Pioneer Award, and holds a BA and MBA from Stanford University.

In this episode, he tackles the hard truth that ageism is as big an issue in the working world as any other bias. In the process, Conley liberates the term “elder” from the stigma of “elderly” and ignites a conversation for society to embrace age like any other diversity while also celebrating the value of wisdom and experience.

Highlights from this Episode:

  • The impact two particular authors have had on Chip and how he draws on them for inspiration in his own work [3:40]
  • The way he has turned despair into an equation [4:22]
  • What Chip has come to realize about the need for transitions in life and why they’re so hard for us to navigate through [6:12]
  • What’s really going on with ageism in today’s society and the role that technology is playing [10:25]
  • The tremendous opportunity available now for baby boomers and why Chip says the “pendulum is swinging” [11:42]
  • The advantages of creating a work environment with a mixture of ages [15:37]
  • Who his new book is for and what it will show the reader about wisdom at work [16:42]
  • Why Chip has always been humble in learning and how he became an intern in Silicon valley while mentoring others privately [26:40]
  • The difference between the modern elder versus a traditional one [28:38]
  • Why modern elders need to recognize their strengths and be confident in their work environments [33:08]

For more information:

https://chipconley.com/

https://www.facebook.com/chipconleyauthor

https://twitter.com/ChipConley

https://www.linkedin.com/in/chipconleysf/

https://www.instagram.com/chipconley/

Resources Mentioned:

Chip’s New Book, Wisdom @ Work: The Making of a Modern Elder and his Previous Works

Modern Elder Academy

Man’s Search for Meaning The Classic Tribute to Hope from the Holocaust by Viktor E. Frankl

Paul Tasner’s TED Talk, How I Became An Entrepreneur at 66

Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck

Kathy’s Forbes Interview with Donna Hicks, How To Build A Culture Of Dignity, And What Happens If You Don’t

QUOTES:

“I really appreciate that the intersection of psychology and business can be a complex one.” [3:46]

“I was able to realize that if on a weekly basis I just made an inventory of all the things that gave me meaning this week, that focus on the meaning helped reduce the despair.” [5:11]

“So we need to figure out how to address the fact that this is a period of life that has all kinds of transitions, and we have not figured out how to provide the rites of passage for that.” [7:29]

“If digital intelligence is the defining characteristic of what most companies are looking for, who is the most digitally savvy out there? It’s the digital natives…” [11:17]

“There’s more and more evidence out there that going out and doing it on your own is not something that is just meant for 20-year-old hoodie wearing boys.” [26:24]

“I’ve always had a fascination with creating things that people wanted. I wanted to make people happy.” [28:18]

“That’s what you thought you had to be as a young person in Silicon Valley;  you had to be the smartest person in the room. I was proving you could be the dumbest person in the room and still be extremely valuable.” [30:28]

“I think the bottom line is that the idea of a modern elder is that you are curious and wise at the same time.” [31:39]

“We are hopefully growing whole more than we are growing old.” [37:30]

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Episode 37: What Is Heaven On Earth To You and Can You Have It?, with Martin Rutte

“If I can help you discover what Heaven on Earth is within you and get you on the path simply and easily toward that, we’ve begun a massive transformation of the world.” – Martin Rutte

If I were to ask you what you thought “Heaven on Earth” is, would you be able to say? Today’s guest on Finding Brave has literally written the book on this topic, and he’s here to explore how we can understand the concept of Heaven on Earth as we each personally define it, and why that’s a critical endeavor to engage in.

Martin Rutte is an international speaker, management consultant, and President of Livelihood, a management consulting firm based in Santa Fe, NM. He has worked with such organizations as The World Bank, Sony Pictures Entertainment, Southern California Edison, Virgin Records, Esso Petroleum and London Life Insurance helping them expand their outlook and position themselves for the future. Martin was the first Canadian to address the Corporate Leadership & Ethics Forum of The Harvard Business School, returning for four consecutive years as keynote speaker.  He is a co-author of the New York Times business bestseller, Chicken Soup for the Soul at Work, with over one million copies sold. His newest book is Project Heaven on Earth: The 3 Simple Questions That Will Help You Change The World … Easily.

In this thought-provoking episode, you’ll not only learn that Heaven on Earth as you conceive of it is possible, but there are actionable steps that each and every one of us can take now to contribute to that movement.

Highlights from this Episode:

  • What Martin means by “Heaven on Earth” [3:21]
  • When the idea came to him and the one thought that started it all [6:01]
  • The 3 powerful questions Martin asks to help people discover Heaven on Earth and how they can get there [8:15]
  • Why this isn’t a religious conversation [12:15]
  • How he has discovered the power of “simple” and why we don’t need to overcomplicate things [14:56]
  • The 7 Heaven on Earth Gateways he shares in his book [20:11]
  • What to do when your idea of Heaven on Earth differs significantly from someone else’s [27:37]
  • Martin’s call to action and what he tells people who say they are too busy to contribute and serve [30:41]

For more information:

http://projectheavenonearth.com/

https://twitter.com/martinrutte

https://www.linkedin.com/in/martin-rutte-306bb9a/

https://www.facebook.com/projectheavenonearthofficial/

Resources Mentioned:

Project Heaven on Earth Free E-Course

Martin’s First Book, Chicken Soup for the Soul at Work: Stories of Courage, Compassion and Creativity in the Workplace

Martin’s latest work, Project Heaven on Earth:  The 3 Simple Questions That Will Help You Change The World … Easily

Finding Brave on Facebook

QUOTES:

“I was looking at the results of the world and I wasn’t happy with them. There’s a lot of Hell on Earth, but what would be the opposite?” [3:41]

“Project Heaven on Earth is not about prophesying or imposing. It’s about evoking, because the premise is it’s there within you.” [13:21]

“What difference would a penny make? Nothing, except if you say it does.” [19:27]

“If you look at the amount of positive things that go on in the world every day, they are enormous compared to the negative, yet the negative is what we feature.” [22:32]

“If the impossibility is present and it’s overwhelming, you won’t move.” [32:08]

“I want to normalize Heaven on Earth.” [33:25]

“What we are doing here is co-creating the new story of what it means to be a human and what it means to be humanity.” [33:39]

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Episode 36: Navigating the Dark Nights of the Entrepreneurial Soul, with Jason Miller

“There are no words for it. We don’t know how to describe it to our partners or our friends, or even ourselves. It just feels like this swirling chaos inside of our bodies and inside of our lives.” – Jason Miller

On today’s episode of Finding Brave, you’ll hear a conversation that’s not often shared openly. Tough times, or “dark nights” happen to everyone, but especially to business owners riding the highs and lows of entrepreneurship. To help us navigate the dark nights is someone who knows them all too well.

Jason Alan Miller, or “Jam” is the Co-Founder of Peaceful Media, the go-to digital marketing & branding agency for conscious entrepreneurs who have a deep desire to heal, love, and shift the planet and its people. You’ll hear how during his darkest times, Jason has received invaluable support from his parents, peers and people who just believe in him and help him to believe in himself. Along the way, Jason has never forgotten that he’s “ok”, and he’s continued to evolve in so many ways, including spiritually.

In this episode you’ll receive his priceless and practical tools and insights for “reemerging & rebirthing” or otherwise navigating the twisty, wrenching turns of metamorphosis.

Highlights from this Episode:

  • What are the “dark nights”of the entrepreneurial soul and some of the symptoms that accompany them [3:07]
  • Why Jason doesn’t consider his dark nights as depression, and what he refers to them as instead [6:48]
  • What is the hardest thing for the spiritual warrior to be in control of [9:03]
  • One major thing that the world is lacking and people are searching for right now [12:23]
  • How Jason landed on his divine purpose and the journey he’s taken since realizing what it is [19:53]
  • His framework for getting out of the dark nights of the soul and what not to do [27:35]
  • Why remembering what you liked to do as a child is so critical for your present self [35:33]
  • The reason that turning to social media in tough times may not be the right answer [41:53]
  • What Jason’s business looks like now and his powerful experiences with healing and energy work [50:50]
  • Details on his upcoming ION Experience with JAM @ Peaceful Media [53:48]

For more information:

http://peacefulmedia.com/

https://www.facebook.com/PeacefulMedia

https://twitter.com/PeacefulMedia

https://www.instagram.com/PeacefulMedia/

https://www.linkedin.com/company/peaceful-media/

Resources Mentioned:

Jason’s First Book, Project Everlasting: Two Bachelors Discover the Secrets of America’s Greatest Marriages

Watch Jason’s Instagram for details on his upcoming book Bob, The Flightless Bird (A Tale)

Episode 27: Leading With Emotional Courage, with Peter Bregman

I’m OK – You’re OK by Thomas Harris

Episode 10: What Keeps People From Experiencing True Compassion and How We Can Heal, with Lynn Carroll

QUOTES:

“So I don’t call it depression. I call it not listening to my soul.” [6:48]

“Around that corner of divine purpose is a lot of unknown.” [24:31]

“Every time I’ve gone into these dark nights, and there’s probably been 4 or 5 of them in the last 15 years or less, I’m constantly confronted with there’s something calling me from around the corner and I can’t see it enough to clarify it, put it into words, communicate to my spouse and to my tribe, in a way that will guide us safely and securely.” [26:12]

“Soul acceptance is willing to sit in the season of winter, because just like nature needs seasons, our bodies and our lives need seasons as well.” [28:56]

“Develop your ability to listen deeply within, because some of that advice will come at your pretty strong and it may send you down a path that’s not exactly what your soul’s asking for.” [50:29]

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Episode 35: 2018 Listener Favorites: Sharing The Real You: How To Work Your Quirks, with William Arruda

Welcome to my “2018 Listener Favorites” Series!

This August, I’m delighted to bring you the top four, most downloaded  episodes of the 31 shows we’ve published since the start of the podcast (January 4, 2018).

“And now people realize that it doesn’t matter if you work inside a company, you have your own job or you’re a solopreneur. You need to offer something that’s unique and valuable, and that is based in who you are.” – William Arruda

Personal branding is something we hear about often when it applies to entrepreneurs and online business owners, but it’s also something that employees in the corporate world, as well as job seekers, should be aware of and hone consciously and powerfully.

Often people think they should be hiding what makes them different (what we’re calling here their “quirks”) when in fact these traits and characteristics are what’s most fascinating, unique and memorable about them. When it comes to personal branding and working your quirks, today’s expert guest on Finding Brave is the go-to source for top-level, expert information and strategies.

Referred to as “The Personal Branding Guru” by Entrepreneur magazine, William Arruda has been credited with turning the concept of personal branding into a global industry. A corporate branding veteran, William is the founder and President of Reach, the global leader in personal branding with representatives in 49 countries and products that have been used by more than a million people.

He has the distinct privilege of having delivered more personal branding keynotes to more people in more places than anyone else on earth. American Express, Google, Gucci, IBM, J&J, LinkedIn, Pepsi and Target are just a few in a long list of his clients. As a thought-leader, William is a spokesperson on personal branding and social media. He has appeared on BBC TV, the Discovery Channel and NPR and he’s been featured in 1,000+ publications. He’s the bestselling author of the definitive books on executive branding, Ditch. Dare. Do! and Career Distinction and he writes a regular column for Forbes.

This episode with William Arruda will encourage and inspire you to infuse everything you do with the parts of you that make you truly unique and different. And you’ll begin to understand why your uniqueness is so important to the world.

Highlights from this Episode:

  • How thought leaders can embrace their vulnerability in order to build a brand that stands out [2:29]
  • What is personal branding, and why everyone needs it [6:06]
  • A powerful example of someone who’s turned her quirks into assets [11:11]
  • Who you’ll want to
  • focus on attracting if you’re in a corporate job [14:21]
  • What’s changed in the corporate world and the role of social media in breaking down certain walls [18:21]
  • William’s tips for working your quirks in a different way [23:19]

For more information:

http://williamarruda.com/

http://www.reachpersonalbranding.com/

http://careerblast.tv/

https://twitter.com/williamarruda

https://www.linkedin.com/in/williamarruda

https://www.facebook.com/williamarruda

Resources Mentioned:

William’s Forbe’s Column

His Books, Ditch Dare Do & Career Distinction

QUOTES:

“We are taught, over and over and over again, that fitting in is good and standing out is bad.”[2:46]

“If we want to be successful, we need to know what our authenticity is.” [6:29]

“If you want everyone to like you, then your full-time job should be fitting in.” [13:03]

“We have to be comfortable (knowing) though that when we stand out, we can repel as many people as we attract.” [13:27]

“If you want to manage your first impression online, there’s one place to go. Tell your story in an authentic and compelling way on LinkedIn.” [20:59]

“In the corporate world, there’s applied personal branding. How do you take what makes you unique and valuable, and use that as a way to further your career, and at the same time move the company brand forward? [22:07]

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34: 2018 Listener Favorites: Expanding Your Introvert Power and Leadership, with Jennifer Kahnweiler

Welcome to my “2018 Listener Favorites” Series!

This August, I’m delighted to bring you the top four, most downloaded  episodes of the 31 shows we’ve published since the start of the podcast (January 4, 2018).

“It’s very important that we not try to continually adapt to extroverts. It is the time for introverts. Let me just say, each one of us has that within us, so it’s in all of our best interests to tap into some of those strengths.” – Jennifer Kahnweiler

On today’s Finding Brave, we’ll be discussing the powerful leadership qualities of introverts, and the challenges they undoubtedly face — and can overcome successfully — in their organizations. Our guest today is a unique expert in the field and study of introverts in that she is not an introvert herself, but a champion for them.  

Jennifer B. Kahnweiler, PhD, Certified Speaking Professional, is an author and global speaker hailed as a “champion for introverts.” Her bestselling books The Introverted Leader, Quiet Influence, and The Genius of Opposites have been translated into 16 languages and have helped introverts throughout the world expand their leadership capacity.

Jennifer deepened her knowledge and appreciation for introverts through her work as a learning and development professional contributing to leading organizations like General Electric, FreddieMac, NASA, Turner Broadcasting, the US Centers for Disease Control, and the American Management Association.

Jennifer has been invited to deliver keynote speeches and seminars in Australia, Vietnam, Japan, Germany, the Netherlands, and Paraguay. Her presentations include her characteristic humor, poignant stories, and practical tools. She has also been featured in Fortune, Forbes, Time Magazine, The New York Times, The Huffington Post, and The Wall Street Journal.

Join us as Jennifer shares revealing new content, tools and what she has learned about introverted leadership in the last decade, as we now witness what she refers to as “the rise of the introverts.”

Highlights from this Episode:

  • The characteristics to look for in order to identify an introvert [10:24]
  • What can happen when introverts don’t get their space from others [12:14]
  • Some techniques that work when communicating with introverts [13:44]
  • How different cultures view introverts [15:36]
  • Why introverts are sometimes viewed negatively in corporate roles, particularly in sales [16:14]
  • What quiet influencers can do now to unlock even more success [19:34]
  • The various strengths that introverts possess [20:08]
  • What is “engaged listening” and why it’s so important to be aware of [27:19]
  • How introverts can use social media effectively [33:09]
  • The big idea that Jennifer wants readers to take from her latest book [35:39]

For more information:

http://jenniferkahnweiler.com/

https://www.facebook.com/JKahnweiler

https://twitter.com/JennKahnweiler

https://www.instagram.com/jenniferkahnweiler/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/JenniferKahnweiler

Resources Mentioned:

Jennifer’s Books

Her Quizzes, The Introverted Leadership Skills Quiz, Are You a Quiet or Expressive Influencer and Genius of Opposites Quiz

Kathy’s Forbes Post, I’m Sick Of Our Culture’s Bias Against Introverts — And I’m Ashamed To Admit I Share In It

To Sell Is Human: The Surprising Truth About Moving Others by Daniel H. Pink

Arianna Huffington’s Thrive Global

Finding Brave on Facebook

QUOTES:

“Like any diversity issue, if we think we know what it’s like to be somebody different than us, we’re fooling ourselves.” [8:43]

“That’s the prevailing Western society expectation. That you emote and that you talk, and that you express.” [15:36]

“Introverts take their time to express their thoughts, and writing is a sweet spot (for them).” [18:19]

“The people that we know who are the contributors and really make a difference in our companies are the people who bring thoughtful, well-crafted responses.” [20:59]

“Overuse of a strength is a weakness.” [34:54]

“You can actually become extremely successful, however you define success, by building on what you do beautifully already.” [35:55]

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Episode 33: 2018 Listener Favorites: How To Speak Up Effectively When You Feel You Can’t

Welcome to my “2018 Listener Favorites” Series!

This August, I’m delighted to bring you the top four, most downloaded  episodes of the 31 shows we’ve published since the start of the podcast (January 4, 2018).

“People who come to me, who can’t speak up, or they’re being disrespected, or they can’t make decisions, or they can’t tell their boss ‘no this doesn’t work’, it comes from childhood. How we are trained in childhood, the culture of the ecosystem that we are raised in, and how we are treated when we try to speak up for ourselves, or when we even think we want to speak up for ourselves. Everything about that is within you now, unless you’ve done the work to revise it, and heal it, and change it.” – Kathy Caprino

Speaking up for ourselves and standing up for what’s right is a deep challenge that I hear about from people literally every day of the week.

Why do we struggle so deeply with speaking up? And what steps can we take today to begin to empower ourselves to say what needs to be said, effectively and authoritatively, even when we feel we can’t?

In today’s episode of Finding Brave, you’ll hear my own personal story of challenge and trauma from my childhood that carried through to my corporate career (and beyond) and impacted my ability to speak up for myself. And we’ll explore the very real and damaging consequences of not speaking your truth.

Being able to speak up effectively for yourself is entwined with our self-worth, self-confidence, esteem, bravery, boundaries, what you learned as a child and in your family, what you experienced when you did speak up, and much more. I share how emotional manipulation and narcissism impacts your ability to advocate for yourself, as well as the 7 essential steps to take to speak up assertively and effectively, especially when you feel you can’t.

Highlights from this Episode:

  • The role our childhoods play in us not being able to speak up [6:59]
  • How I discovered advocating for others was who I really am [10:46]
  • Why clearing your emotions and balancing yourself before you speak is so essential [16:50]
  • How understanding the individual you’re dealing with — and the ecosystem you’re in — will make your communications more successful [19:19]
  • Why you’ll need to approach speaking up to a narcissist differently [22:20]
  • The reason you’ll need to prepare for the consequences of speaking up, and how exactly to do it [26:25]
  • What happens if you try to make everyone happy [29:28]
  • How outside help can be so critical for this [31:05]

Resources Mentioned:

Kathy’s Book Breakdown, Breakthrough: The Professional Woman’s Guide to Claiming a Life of Passion, Power and Purpose

Kathy’s 6 Dominant Action Styles Quiz

6-part webinar training on Dealing with Narcissism  http://kathycaprino.com/dealing-with-narcissism

Kathy’s Interview Dr. Neha Sangwan on Forbes, The Most Potent Cure For Your Sickness Is Having The Conversation You’re Running From

Dr. Neha Sangwan’s Interview on Best Work/Best Life Podcast

Talk Rx: Five Steps To Honest Conversations that Create Connection, Health and Happiness by Dr. Neha Sangwan

Kathy’s Forbes posts:

10 Ways To ‘Brave Up’: How To Rise Up, Speak Up And Stand Up Boldly For Yourself

7 Crippling Parenting Behaviors That Keep Children From Growing Into Leaders

Gender Bias Is Real: Women’s Perceived Competency Drops Significantly When Judged As Being Forceful

Kathy’s Amazing Career Project

The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level by Gay Hendricks

Also of interest:

Kathy’s Forbes interview with Lauren Letellier: The Crushing Similarities Between Family And Business Dysfunction

QUOTES:

“I hadn’t known that my life could affect my health like that.” [5:00]

“Understand the ecosystem and the individual that you want to share something with.” [19:19]

“You wouldn’t believe the rapid, complete transformation of people when they start to be clear and say what needs to be said.” [25:45]

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Episode 32: 2018 Listener Favorites: Why We Need to “Find Brave” and 10 Ways To Start

Welcome to my “2018 Listener Favorites” Series!

This August, I’m delighted to bring you the top four, most downloaded  episodes of the 31 shows we’ve published since the start of the podcast (January 4, 2018).

Today’s show was the inaugural episode, and in it, I share my deeply personal story about how I embarked on “Finding Brave” in my own life, and why mustering more bravery and courage is a vital endeavor for men and women around the world who want to live the highest version of themselves and reach their highest, most joyful potential.

I define #FINDINGBRAVE as this: Recognizing — and courageously leveraging — what you’re made of as a human and spiritual being, and mustering the commitment, passion and courage to draw on all that you are to create the life you dream of, through the fear and the pain.

And I offer 10 essential ways to find brave in your life, with specific tips to get moving on your brave path.

Highlights from this Episode:

  • Why “Finding Brave” is so important to me and how the idea for this podcast came to be [1:32]
  • I didn’t know it, but I was becoming a therapist even back at the age of 16 and how a pivotal decision at 22 set the tone for years to come [3:47]
  • There are 12 hidden crises that working women face – and unbelievably, I’ve faced them ALL [5:32]
  • A life changing conversation…[7:02]
  • Why we go “underground” and stop using our own voices (men too) [10:37]
  • What will really happen when we’re fake and hiding [11:47]
  • Just networking with others isn’t enough – here’s what you need to do [22:44]
  • Who the happiest group of people in the world are [26:37]
  • The new frontier of bravery that I’m currently facing in my
  • own life [37:00]

Links mentioned in this show:

Forbes post: 10 Ways To Brave Up: How To Rise Up, Speak Up and Stand Up Boldly for Yourself

Kathy’s 6 Dominant Action Styles quiz

Kathy’s TEDx Talk “Time To Brave Up

Forbes Interview with Richie Norton: The Power of Starting Something ‘Stupid’

Forbes article: The Top Three Mistakes Career Professionals Make On Their LinkedIn Profiles

Forbes interview: 6 Ways Pushing Past Your Comfort Zone Is Critical To Success

Forbes article: Why We Don’t Speak Up Against Abuse of Others When We Know Of It

American Assn. of Marriage and Family Therapy

The Energy of Money by Maria Nemeth, Ph.D.

QUOTES:

“Why I care about Finding Brave is I wasn’t brave enough for a full 18 years in my corporate life.” [3:16]

“I wasn’t brave enough. I didn’t know how to risk. I didn’t know what that felt like to believe in myself” [6:09]

“You’re going to make mistakes, that’s life. It’s not all going to be perfect. If it were perfect, why would we be here? Why would we be living?” [8:08]

“Really it’s time now. It’s time that we engage our spirits and our souls and our hearts.” [25:07]

“Get good with scared. Start to stretch way beyond your comfort zone and your life will change!” [33:35]

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LinkedIn
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Facebook
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Episode 31: How Imitating What You Admire Can Backfire and Get You Off Track, with Eric Termuende

“Imitating these people, or trying to be these people, does not and should not equal being inspired by these people. Because if we can be inspired by these people and pull some of those qualities, characteristics and best practices that they’ve got, and apply them with a slight tweak to who we are and what we’re trying to do, that’s where the innovation starts.” – Eric Termuende

Like many people, you may find yourself wanting the life that someone else may have, and look to imitate or emulate that person to get to where he or she is today. Is that the right thing to do though? Today’s inspiring guest on Finding Brave is going to explain why this is the wrong approach to take, and what we should do instead.

Eric Termuende is the co-founder of NoW Innovations, a bestselling author, and an international speaker. His work has been featured in Forbes, Inc., Thrive Global, the Huffington Post, Globe and Mail, and other top media platforms. Eric was recognized as a Top 100 Emerging Innovator under 35 globally by American Express, is a TEDx speaker, and represented Canada at the G20 Summit.

Eric is a thought leader on optimizing workplace culture, the future of work, and engagement in the workplace. He provides key actionable takeaways on how companies can drive engagement through connection and trust.

Eric dispels generational groupings to re-humanize and gain more out of the workforce. Having given nearly 200 presentations, he goes beyond diversity and inclusion to help audiences understand people and patterns in order to optimize the workplace. He is the author of a new bestselling book, Rethink Work.

Eric is an amazing young leader whose wisdom and thoughts around leadership will inspire you want to be yourself, because it’s often what we aren’t that will differentiate us the most on our journey.  

Highlights from this Episode:

  • Today’s Finding Brave Tip on making you “right” and not “wrong” [1:41]
  • Where we go wrong when wanting to imitate others by not being our true self [6:19]
  • Why Eric feels the American Dream never existed, but rather what takes its place instead [8:01]
  • How inspiration from others, and not imitation, can lead to innovation [9:06]
  • Why what we aren’t can be more powerful that what we are [12:46]
  • Who we should be comparing ourselves to [14:26]
  • What slowing down will ultimately allow us to do and how Eric puts this into practice in his life [15:41]
  • The two things that he believes we need most today in the world and why [18:19]
  • Whether or not we should be actively pursuing our passions and what Eric defines as real success [19:31]
  • The reason we need to consider relativity when assessing situations [28:24]
  • The biggest mistakes businesses of all sizes are making in leadership [31:31]
  • How to create a sense of belonging in an organization [39:01]

For more information:

https://erictermuende.com/

Connect with Eric:

https://www.facebook.com/etermuende

https://twitter.com/termuende

https://ca.linkedin.com/in/erictermuende

Resources Mentioned:

Eric’s Book, Rethink Work: Finding & Keeping the Right Talent

Kathy’s Career Path Self-Assessment

Brené Brown’s TED Talk, The Power of Vulnerability

Robin Williams: Come Inside My Mind

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change by Stephen R. Covey

QUOTES:

“On an individual, corporate and leadership level, we often tell people or show people what either they want to see, or what would reflect most positively on us.” [7:20]

“In a world that’s busier than it ever has been before, successful to me is different than successful to you.” [8:02]

“When we try and be everything to everyone, we ultimately become nothing to anyone. What I think we’re missing on the individual and on the organizational level is that the things that we are not ultimately make us what we are.” [11:59]

“The more that you understand that you are ok with blazing your own trailing and finding brave in your way, the better off not only you’ll be, but the world around you will be too.” [14:22]

“There’s no problem you can’t solve when you take the time to be empathetic and curious.” [18:44]

“We’re spending so much time chasing happiness, that we don’t realize happiness along the way.” [20:30]

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Episode 30: How To Land Powerful Sponsors for Your Podcast or Passion Project, with John Lee Dumas

“The reality is that we all struggle with confidence, just in different, varying levels. I mean, for me with my military experience, I think one thing that really helps is perspective. So I can step back and say, ‘you know what, let me get some legit perspective on where I’m at right now, and then look at where I have been.’” – John Lee Dumas

Do you have a creative passion, podcast or show that you want to introduce to the world, but you’re struggling to find the confidence? Even if you had the confidence to launch it, would you know where to begin? Today’s inspiring expert guest is here to light us up and give us his strategic yet practical and empowering tips for both new podcasters as well as other creatives who want to launch their passion project in a successful way.  

John Lee Dumas is the host of Entrepreneurs on Fire, an award winning podcast where he interviews inspiring entrepreneurs every Monday and drops “value bombs” every Thursday. With over 2,000 episodes, 1.3 million listens every month, and seven-figures of annual revenue, John is, in his words “just getting started.”

As you’ll hear, John is someone who really does set you on fire when you listen to him, and his thoughts and insights on confidence, perspective and mastering your craft will benefit anyone with a burning message to share.

Highlights from this Episode:

  • One strategy that any podcaster can use to get a sponsor right now [7:25]
  • CPA versus CPM sponsorships arrangements [12:55]
  • The mindset required to approach sponsors and the powerful role of perspective [14:35]
  • How John got the confidence to start a podcast and continually master his craft as he progressed [16:30]
  • Why feedback, strong mentorship and support is needed [17:53]
  • John’s top 3 tips for taking action now on your creative passion project [19:35]

For more information:

https://www.eofire.com/

Resources Mentioned:

John’s Free Podcast Course

Kathy’s Forbes Interview with John, How The Creator Of A 7-Figure Podcasting Business Teaches Others To Build Their Winning Ventures

Audible Podcast Program

Jaime Masters’ Eventual Millionaire Podcast

QUOTES:

“You’re looking to get a ‘no’ anyway, in my mind, because it takes 10 ‘no’s’ them to get one ‘yes’.” [15:49]

“Of course you’re bad when starting something. So if you want to be something, do it. I wanted to be a podcaster; I had to podcast.” [17:17]

“Anybody can launch a podcast. Just make it your podcast.” [18:54]

“Get a mentor, practice, practice, practice and then solve a specific problem that your listener is having.” [21:14]


Special Note:
John’s terrific advice in this episode was so helpful for me personally! I jumped right on it the day after our recording, and I’m thrilled to share that Audible.com is now a sponsor of Finding Brave!  So take advantage of their great special offer now of one FREE book of your choice with a 30-day FREE membership trial! And feel free to keep the book even if you cancel the membership. As your first book, I’d highly recommend checking out John’s Audible book Podcast Launch, to help you launch your own podcast this year! For your free book and free Audible 30-day trial, click on this link: http://audibletrial.com/FindingBrave. And do let us know how you enjoy these resources!


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