“Now that I’m older, I truly think about it differently. Every single rejection you get, I have learned, if you listen and observe carefully without all the defensiveness and the ego getting hysterical, it can unlock amazing doors for you.” – Kathy Caprino

Rejection, both from others and from inner selves, is a common issue faced by the many thousands of women I have heard from and worked with. This is why in this episode of Finding Brave, I talk about the different aspects of rejection and how we can handle it in a way that fuels and expands our success.

How you handle rejection will directly determine the degree to which you can reach your goals. I recently posted an image with this quote on LinkedIn, and it’s resonated with many folks, with over 55,000 views and 1,100 likes in just a few days.  

It may be hard to believe sometimes, but rejection can and will lead to amazing success if you approach it the right way. Today I share my own personal, and often painful, experiences around being rejected, and I share 5 positive lessons that rejection can offer that can fuel your success, rather than demoralize you.

As always, I would love to hear how this episode has resonated with you, and I welcome your suggestions for any future topics or interviewees that you’re interested in. Please reach out to me by email, or on social media via LinkedIn, or on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or Pinterest to say hello and share your ideas!

Highlights from this Episode:

  • The ways I reacted to rejection when I was younger versus how I think about it today [5:25]
  • How rejection can lead to making valuable changes to your idea, project, or product [8:35]
  • Why the timing, and actually being ready for success, matters so much [13:54]
  • The reason I’m such a fan of research regarding new products and programs, but why your friends shouldn’t be the ones you turn to for it [16:05]
  • The way to approach feedback so that you’re not limiting your own success unintentionally [18:15]
  • How you can begin to recognize how amazing you are and why this is necessary to live the best life you can [21:00]
  • What to identify in order to share a more authentic self [23:46]
  • How to know when “perfectionistic over-functioning” is holding you back [29:20]

Resources Mentioned:

Kathy’s Career Path Self-Assessment

Kathy’s Close Your Power Gaps private coaching program

Kathy’s article – 3 Key Steps to Moving from Self-Rejection Toward Self-Love

Kathy’s TEDx Talk “Time to Brave Up

Kathy video and post:

What Is Feminism and Why Do So Many Men and Women Hate It

Kathy’s Forbes post: How Being Raised by a Narcissist Affects Your Self-Esteem

Kathy’s Forbes interview: What Selling Three Million Copies of ‘The Dance of Anger’ Has Taught Harriet Lerner

Kathy’s Forbes interview: What the Most Rejected Person in the World Can Teach About Triumph and Creating Work We Love featuring Daniel Seddiqui

Other helpful info:

Hands-on Breakthrough Coaching from Kathy

If you are longing to personally experience more power, confidence, authority, and self-esteem in your life and work, you can learn about my transformative 4-session Close Your Power Gap coaching program by clicking here.

And for Small Business owners, consultants and practitioners, check out my Breakthrough Coaching for Small Businesses.


“I love to look at what the big challenges are so that we can address those with eyes wide open, and so that we can move forward faster, better, and easier.” [2:04]

“What I see in so many thousands of women that I hear from and work with is there’s a lot of self-rejection going on.” [3:03]

“10 years ago nobody cared about professional women’s challenges. That’s the difference 10 years can make.” [13:21]

“The Universe sometimes pushes back on an idea and makes you wait until it can come to fruition because the timing wasn’t right.” [13:43]

“Feedback, which can be rejection-oriented, can actually inform you, but you’re not going to hear it and you’re not going to understand it if you are too busy defending yourself and being angry at it.” [19:31]

“You’re not self-absorbed and you’re not narcissistic just because you love yourself.” [24:32]

“You will develop more self-love the more you put yourself out there.” [26:50]


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