“What I’m going to encourage listeners to do, and what I talk about in Leading with Emotional Courage, is to trust the emotions in a certain way and in a way that you don’t have to figure everything out with your head. Figuring it out with your head keeps the ego in control, and actually stops the emotion from moving on.” – Peter Bregman

Being brave is about acting powerfully in the world, and emotional courage, or being brave on the inside, is what we’re talking about today. Our guest today shows us that if you are brave with what you are willing to feel, then you can be brave in what you are able to do.

Peter Bregman is the CEO of Bregman Partners, a company that helps senior leaders create accountability and inspire collective action on their organization’s most important work. He is the bestselling author of 18 Minutes, and his forthcoming book, Leading with Emotional Courage, is being released this month.

You’ll hear stories from Peter’s own personal journey about what emotional courage looks and feels like, and learn the value of being able to feel our feelings without fully understanding, analyzing or criticizing them. This is key because, as you’ll hear, if you’re willing to feel everything, you can do anything.

Highlights from this Episode:

  • This week’s Finding Brave Tip on what you can learn from your experiences [1:58]
  • What emotional courage is and what leading with it looks like [3:53]
  • How we’re being held back from having the difficult, but necessary, conversations with ourselves and others [4:58]
  • The distinction between emotional intelligence and emotional courage [6:40]
  • How women and men navigate their feelings much differently [9:02]
  • What happens when we repress our feelings and Peter’s real life example of what to do instead [9:58]
  • His best practices for expressing our feelings [13:49]
  • What’s missing in leadership today, and the 4 things that every successful leader must possess [22:58]
  • How exposing and expressing vulnerability is looked at for both women and men [28:28]
  • One of the most important takeaways Peter wants people to gain from his latest book [34:28]

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Peter’s Latest Book, Leading with Emotional Courage:
How to Have Hard Conversations, Create Accountability, and Inspire Action on Your Most Important Work

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His Previous Works, 18 Minutes: Find Your Focus, Master Distraction, and Get the Right Things Done, Four Seconds: All the Time You Need to Stop Counter-Productive Habits and Get the Results You Want & Point B: A Short Guide to Leading a Big Change

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“Emotional courage is the willingness to feel everything.” [4:12]

“Failure feels bad and we don’t want to feel that, so we avoid taking a risk. If you’re willing to feel everything, then you can do anything.” [5:38]

“If we’re willing to feel, that’s a whole different degree of emotional intelligence.” [6:58]

“If you can trust a process, you don’t need to figure it all out in your head.” [16:09]

“If we seek to change, then we’re going to seek to feel authentic for some period of time, until the clothes fit.” [20:30]

“You need emotional courage in order to be confident, connected and committed.” [26:00]


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