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“You are not your past. You are all of it, your past, present, and future. So do the work to release the shame, the humiliation, and the negative judgments you have about yourself. Release yourself.” – Kathy Caprino
Over the past several weeks on the podcast I’ve been highlighting the critical power gaps and chapters from my new book, The Most Powerful You: 7 Bravery-Boosting Paths to Career Bliss. In this 7th installment of the series, I share the power gap that may be closest to my own heart and soul. I’m talking about how we allow our past trauma and deep challenges to continue to define us. I have lived this in such a deep way (and continue to work on it) and never fully understood this phenomenon until I became a therapist and did the work to uncover it.
Life can hurt us badly sometimes and leave deep scars, and no one is immune. Every single one of us has experienced some form of pain, suffering, sadness, isolation, rejection, and trauma in our lifetimes. Many have experienced and witnessed things that forever alter how they see the world and operate within it. Sometimes, pain and hardship make us close down and stop trusting others.
Other times, it makes us turn our pain into rage and violence against the world. Yet some people, while crushed by their pain for a time, are able to find a way to become more of who they really are at their core – more loving, compassionate, helpful, generous, insightful, brave, committed, and resilient — through all of it. And some are fortunate to know exactly how to turn their emotional challenges into new ways to be of service in the world so they can uplift others while healing themselves.
I sincerely hope that this “The Most Powerful You” series has been enlightening, and in conjunction with my new book, can help you uncover the power gaps that may be holding you back at this very moment. As always, I want to thank you for listening and I would be so happy to hear your feedback on not just this episode, but the entire series and the upcoming book.
Remember that tremendous success, joy, and reward aren’t just reserved for a handful of people, but everyone, including you. You are worthy of an amazing life and career, and it’s waiting for you.
Highlights from this Episode:
- How trauma appears in our lives, and why it’s so damaging to hold onto [2:48]
- What trauma really is, and how every single one of us has experienced it [3:15]
- How becoming aware of your trauma will benefit all aspects of your life including your career [5:31]
- A powerful example of someone who has transformed her trauma into growth and a life of service to others [6:23]
- The impact and harm your childhood can continue to have in your life as you get older [15:00]
- Why insight into our trauma alone isn’t enough to overcome it and what is needed to move forward to healing [17:02]
- Examples of common workplace trauma that I often see in the people that I work with [17:30]
- What steps you can take to start getting on what I call “the brave healing path” [20:13]
- The specific questions to ask yourself as you embark on your own journey to awareness [33:03]
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The Most Powerful You: 7 Bravery-Boosting Paths to Career Bliss Official Website (with Trailer)
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Kathy’s Amazing Career Project
Sign Up For Kathy’s LinkedIn Newsletter, The Finding Brave Circle
Her Power Gaps Survey & Her TEDx Talk, Time To Brave Up
Kathy’s FREE Career Path Self-Assessment Survey
Episode 124: Power Gap #1: Not Recognizing Your Special Talents and Abilities
Episode 125: Power Gap #2: Communicating from Fear Not Strength
Episode 126: Power Gap #3: Reluctance to Ask for What You Deserve
Episode 127: Power Gap #4: Isolating from Influential Support
Episode 128: Power Gap #5: Acquiescing Instead of Saying “Stop” To Mistreatment
Episode 129: Power Gap #6: Losing Sight of Your Most Thrilling Dream
Lynn Carroll (The Therapy Space)
Cheryl Hunter’s Appearance on Finding Brave & Her TEDx Talk, Wabi Sabi: The Magnificence of Imperfection
American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy
Kathy’s Forbes Blog with Chip Conley, How Midlife Professionals Can Leverage Their Age, Wisdom And Experience More Powerfully At Work
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QUOTES:
“The very first thing I want you to understand is that you’re not silly, you’re not foolish and you’re not weak to be feeling what you feel. It’s often trauma.” [4:33]
“How you integrate what happens to you in your own identity is going to shape not just your personal life and relationships, but your professional life and your career success.” [5:31]
“There are traumatic events that happen in our life, absolutely, but once they happen there are steps you can take to grab back control of your life.” [11:01]
“It’s one thing to have insight, but it’s not enough. Insight doesn’t change your life. Brave action does.” [17:02]
“The problem with these “dirty little secrets” is that if you do not address them with your eyes wide open, they grow bigger and more destructive. They send you underground and they eat at you.” [24:03]
“Often the Universe is doing you a favor by kicking you out of a horrible job and a toxic ecosystem.” [29:39]
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This is great Kathy, it can be very hard to step back and remember these tips in the moment, but so often good comes hand in hand with the bad. Most situations that left scars, have turned out being a great change and have proven beneficial in some way or another. This is something to always keep in your back pocket to remember the next time a challenge comes.