Dramatic change — whether we hoped and worked for that change or didn’t see it coming and it blindsides us — happens to each of us at one point or another in our lives. The question is, “Are we growing stronger, happier and more of who we really are through this big change, or are we breaking ourselves against it?”
In today’s episode, Kathy shares her deeply personal experiences with dramatic change in her life and career, and explores dramatic change from two perspectives:
- What dramatic change reveals about who you really are, what you are capable of creating and achieving, and who is truly supportive in your life
and
2) Four helpful ways to leverage dramatic change (even if you think it’s “terrible” and “unfair”) so that it enriches your life, and makes you feel more of who you really are, and very grateful to have faced it.
Highlights from this Episode:
- How coaching can assist people looking to drastically change their lives [7:12]
- How to determine who your true friends are, who will help you through the hardest times in your life, versus just “fair-weather” friends [8:55]
- Why you need to be prepared for judgments from others when doing something brave [9:30]
- What happens when you address change in a life-affirming way and welcome it [12:50]
- The very first thing to work on when you’re faced with dramatic change [14:17]
- Why the concept of “fairness” doesn’t work well in life and what we can do instead of being a victim [16:22]
- What you can do to heal your inner pessimist and why you should take the steps to do this [19:02]
- Tips and strategies for confronting change head on, along with the powerful questions we need to ask ourselves
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Kathy’s posts:
5 Ways Dramatic Change Can Boost Your Happiness and Success
How to Tell When NOT to Listen To Advice
Kathy’s book Breakdown, Breakthrough: The Professional Woman’s Guide to Claiming a Life of Passion, Power and Purpose
Finding Brave Facebook page:
http://www.facebook.com/FindingBraveToday
Kathy’s Amazing Career Project online course
http://www.amazingcareerproject.com
QUOTES:
“It’s always interesting when I’m experiencing things in my life that echo the challenges my clients are facing.” [2:26]
“Even when you have actively pursued and wanted some form of significant change, it still rocks you.” [3:28]
“People will put onto you all sorts of things they think is right, but really none of it has to do with you.” [11:04]
“When we’re petrified of change, then we stay way too long in situations that hurt us and that’s where the real damage comes.” [13:21]
“I feel that if you say all the time “it’s not fair,” it’s really important that you shift out of that.” [18:33]
Thank you
Welcome! Thanks for listening in!
So Helpful! I took 3 pages of notes! Always good to hear what you have to say. Thank you Kathy ☺.
So happy to hear that, Jenny! Thank you for tuning in and glad it was helpful! By the way, there are transcripts of every podcast that are linked to at the bottom of the post, if you’d like to read the info rather than taking notes. Thanks!
HI Kathy,
Lots of inspirational tidbits in this post-thanks for sharing. I’m changing jobs and really trying to be mindful of what works best for me and what I truly want, so that I can land somewhere that works for me while I earn a living.. I’m going to focus some time to answer the question “what would have to happen for this to be the best thing that ever happened to me?” That’s a twist from “do for work what you would do for free” that I’m finding really helpful to focus my search.
Thanks again! Always great to hear your voice and see your face.
Allis Marion
Newbridge 1993-1998 😉
Great episode!
Wow, a direct message at a key time. I’m in the middle of a divorce and jumping into a financial advisor career that makes no money unless I start to get clients. I have 3 little kids with me. And it’s hard. Everyone says get a job with a steady paycheck. But I’ve had those before. I was laid off from a director level corporate job right before 911. I scrambled and went to work for a university for a lot less pay, but at least it worked while we were starting a family. As we had more kids – because my spouses schedule was so odd (police) – I left work to take care of the kids. Now here I am. Starting over. Scared, frankly, at times. I’ve never been in this situation before. I’ve always worked a stable job, but corporate just doesn’t fit me any more. I really needed this message. Spoke directly to me.